Anyone wanna help me with my boy problem?

[chopin2015]

 So, there's a guy I told you guys about before I went to Russia in December. Before December, we knew each other for a little over a year. He stood me up in December and didn't try to see me or talk to me since. He contacted me on my cell via text like 2 days ago after not speaking to me for 5 months! I got so excited...after all, I don't really have any friends. My best friend is in rehab for now.
 So yeah, I jumped at the opportunity and said we should hang out and he said absolutely(sounds so familiar) I just can't believe I am so stupid to sit here and think he wants to see me...I am not even saying I want to in a romantic way, I am surprised he would even think of me as a friend...

But still...I am having trouble figuring this situation out. Does anyone want to bet? Am I going to get stood up again?



Oww, my feelings!

[rachmaninoff_forever]

Is he the guy you beat up with boxing gloves?

[rachmaninoff_forever]

Anyways,

If he is that guy you beat up, chances are he's just screwing with you.

But if not, I don't understand a reason why he would be a douchebag and "stand you up".

[chopin2015]

No, he's not the guy I beat up. He stood me up once already...if not more...so it's really depressing. I think I'm just gonna stick to Chopin being my soulmate....(I didn't cry much today, I swear!)

[outin]

No, he's not the guy I beat up. He stood me up once already...if not more...so it's really depressing. I think I'm just gonna stick to Chopin being my soulmate....(I didn't cry much today, I swear!)

If you can hang out with him and get something out of it without investing much emotionally, just do it...Only let it affect you after a long time, when you can be sure he has invested something in the relationship also. If you know you cannot do it, just stick to old Fred...

But whatever you do, make sure you have enough time left to learn the etudes...only hang out when it suits YOUR schedule and the piano must stay a priority

[chopin2015]

If you can hang out with him and get something out of it without investing much emotionally, just do it...Only let it affect you after a long time, when you can be sure he has invested something in the relationship also. If you know you cannot do it, just stick to old Fred...

But whatever you do, make sure you have enough time left to learn the etudes...only hang out when it suits YOUR schedule and the piano must stay a priority

That is definitely what makes me happy and is most consistent in making me happy (piano and Fred<3) Thanks, outin! That was awesome.

[outin]

That is definitely what makes me happy and is most consistent in making me happy (piano and Fred<3) Thanks, outin! That was awesome.

Of course following my advice you'll probably end up a spinster...but hopefully a happy one 

[hfmadopter]

That is definitely what makes me happy and is most consistent in making me happy (piano and Fred<3) Thanks, outin! That was awesome.

I don't think it's even worth communicating with this clown, never mind showing up and maybe getting dumped yet again. Someplace out there there is a nice guy for you. You're probably going to have to go to a piano convention or some kind of green get together some where along the way to find one with like minded thinking. Cut your losses I say, at the very least you be the one who doesn't show up this time, that will frost up his hormone package !!!

[lloyd_cdb]

"Stood up" and "stood up and then dropped off the map" are two different things to me. I'm always willing to give a girl a chance if she stood me up, simply because I know it's not always intentional. If he stood you up and then hasn't talked to you for months, it's almost 100% intentional^*. You already said you'd like to see him, so see him. I just wouldn't advise contemplating get-back games. Those lead you into bitter-old-hag territory.


^*The reason I say almost is that he could have severe anxiety over standing you up and hasn't had the nerve to talk to you out of guilt and has been over-thinking about it for months now not being able to sleep and stressing and run-on sentence.

[birba]

What's a boron?

[chopin2015]

Haha...

Well...to hfm, I am not going to worry about it. I'm not gonna stare at my phone or jump every time I get a text. I'm not gonna stand him up, like lloyd said, because I don't want to play games. I was plenty happy sitting at home, practicing piano and thinking about Fred. I can do that again...

@lloyd
He's the type of person who has never called me, either. Also, he leaves me feeling oh so bitter when the text conversation always stops on what I said. When it's something important (like talking about tendinitis) being ignored makes me feel really *salty*.

@birba

A element that is semi-metalic metalloyd. I used it instead of moron, which is not a part of the periodic system...as far as I know.
You could also say bromine(what's up, bro mayne)  and instead of proton, say broton. 

I hope he doesn't text me because I'm having a hard time not feeling bypolar today...  

[maul]

I have some help: *** relationships - you can't trust anyone. Everyone is a snake that will lie and cheat behind your back in some way or another. I'm in one. It blows, but it's become a habit. Kind of like heroin - you get really high for the first couple months, then you use it just to not feel like sh*t.

[chopin2015]

I have some help: *** relationships - you can't trust anyone. Everyone is a snake that will lie and cheat behind your back in some way or another. I'm in one. It blows, but it's become a habit. Kind of like heroin - you get really high for the first couple months, then you use it just to not feel like sh*t.

Lol how old r u? You sound bitter!

[maul]

The world is bitter. Click on my profile if you want to see my age, as if that would alter the reality of what I said.

[thalbergmad]

Have you thought about going on the Jeremy Kyle Show???

[lloyd_cdb]

He's the type of person who has never called me, either. Also, he leaves me feeling oh so bitter when the text conversation always stops on what I said. When it's something important (like talking about tendinitis) being ignored makes me feel really *salty*.

This is literally the exact description of my situation.

Me: "Hey, what's up?"

Her: "Hey, weird timing that you texted me!"

Me: "Why's that?"

Her: "I'm with my friends and was just talking about you"

Me: "Haha, weird. All good things I hope?"

Conversation done.

[hfmadopter]

Haha...

Well...to hfm, I am not going to worry about it. I'm not gonna stare at my phone or jump every time I get a text. I'm not gonna stand him up, like lloyd said, because I don't want to play games. I was plenty happy sitting at home, practicing piano and thinking about Fred. I can do that again... :-

That's a good outlook, good for you ! I think that guy is missing out on a great girlfriend.

I have three adult daughters we brought up and have 4 grand daughters, I like seeing them treated with dignity. It should be no different for you or any other reasonably nice female. When I was young I could have been a little nicer myself at times though ! I think that's why I put out that hormone comment actually .

[h_chopin148]

Is he the guy you beat up with boxing gloves?

that sounds like an interesting story...

[h_chopin148]

Lol how old r u? You sound bitter!

how old r u? not to be a creepy stalker lol. and who's fred?

[unholeee]

go have some fun =]

[iansinclair]

how old r u? not to be a creepy stalker lol. and who's fred?

Fred's a friend of hers.  And mine.  A relationship with him can be all-consuming, and not to be interfered with lightly...

And age is irrelevant...

[chopin2015]

Lol I'm 21 and fred is Fred Chopin, of course!
And I spent all day recording ballade no 1. I think I made more progress but I am going to keep recording this weekend and post a recording with less goofs and ouchies. LOL

[h_chopin148]

Lol I'm 21 and fred is Fred Chopin, of course!
And I spent all day recording ballade no 1. I think I made more progress but I am going to keep recording this weekend and post a recording with less goofs and ouchies. LOL

oh, of course, fred is fred chopin! how could i not realiza 

[chopin2015]

oh, of course, fred is fred chopin! how could i not realiza 

Lol it's ok. It's just easier than saying Chopin...lol

[chopin2015]

This is literally the exact description of my situation.

Me: "Hey, what's up?"

Her: "Hey, weird timing that you texted me!"

Me: "Why's that?"

Her: "I'm with my friends and was just talking about you"

Me: "Haha, weird. All good things I hope?"

Conversation done.

Oh my. That's an heavy example. Atleast if she was not saying good things, she didn't have the heart to tell you...eh...not sure what I'm helping here...
But, yeah. Steange...you could have taken that as-she was either thinking about you or she's a jerk.

@hfm thank you for your support and kind words! I was the only child and was adopted by my dad. I'm his only child. He's a good man. I'd be lucky to meet a guy like him someday. He is very smart, Dr. of philosophy in Biology. Pretty awesome.

[outin]

You're only 21...so remember most males in your age group are still pretty immature in this sense. It's best to accept the fact that they are playing around and looking for options, not being serious. Maybe it's best to continue to develope your relationship with such well matured individuals as Fred (and Ludvig I guess) and wait until the worst will be easier to spot and what's left is worth working on:)

Also remember, you cannot really have a good relationship with anyone else before you have found one with yourself. You need to figure out what's important to you and be in charge of your life. Then you can find someone who'll fit into that with a little compromise.

[hfmadopter]

@hfm thank you for your support and kind words! I was the only child and was adopted by my dad. I'm his only child. He's a good man. I'd be lucky to meet a guy like him someday. He is very smart, Dr. of philosophy in Biology. Pretty awesome.

You're off to a good start by knowing what a good man is like ! That's great but do keep in mind during the process that the guy you meet also needs to be his own man as well. I.E. when that day comes along don't try to fully hold him up to your Dads standards. Just kind of use your Dad's values as guide lines, they sound to be good ones for sure. I have high respect for a person who adopts a child, treats her well, brings her up well and the child, now adult, respects him for that. It means it was all and will remain to be a good thing. I don't think there is any admiration as strong as a daughter's for her Dad ( remember I have three daughters), nor a love any stronger than that of a parent for their child . Dad and daughter relationships seem extra strong to me though !

Pretty awesome is right !

[chopin2015]

Dude, that dude totally hung out with me! And I am so over him and his games! Now I'm going with the flow. (It feels good to be a gangster.) And the dog has not eaten my shoes yet. So, I'm gonna learn the Chopin etudes. 

[hfmadopter]

Dude, that dude totally hung out with me! And I am so over him and his games! Now I'm going with the flow. (It feels good to be a gangster.) And the dog has not eaten my shoes yet. So, I'm gonna learn the Chopin etudes. 

I wish you luck with that !

[cuberdrift]

you'll probably end up a spinster...

You're a woman? Why hadn't I thought of that. I thought you were a guy the whole time!

[chopin2015]

You're a woman? Why hadn't I thought of that. I thought you were a guy the whole time!

Lol WHY?!  X)

Ps. Everyone, I am very happy right now!

[outin]

You're a woman? Why hadn't I thought of that. I thought you were a guy the whole time!

That happens a lot for some reason...Not in real life though...I guess that would be awkward sometimes