Is it most important for students to like piano lessons and practising the piano? I know that there are exceptional students who really like practising and loves to come to piano lessons, but realistically, alot of kids aren't like that. So is your first priority to make students want to learn the piano?
I refuse to teach students who don't work at their music. I make it very clear to the parents and the student before we even start the first lesson that I WILL NOT repeat lessons. I may restate things in a different way to enhance clarity if something is missed but I will not dedicate the lesson to study the same passages as we did the week before (unless it is incredibly tough for the student), it wastes my time and the students money.
If I can judge that the difficulty exists because there was minimal time put into the practice I won't make our lesson into a practice session instead I'll waste time working out a timetable to work on this piece for next week and highlight what factors need to be worked on again. This usually annoys the student but it is better than saying to the student, that ok you didn't practice, lets do it now together. You reward the fact that the student hasn't practiced by taking their hands and walking them through what they should have done step by step. It takes away their ability to work on music BY THEMSELVES. There has to be a level of seriousness on the student behalf despite their age. They have to feel like it is a responsibility to show teacher something new every week, something they have worked out.
At the end of the lessons I give the student a direction to take, I answer all their worries and problems during the lesson, then it is up to them to attain the mastery with repeated practice keeping what we did in the previous lesson in mind. If the following week they come to me with problems by saying "Oh I can't play this bar." They must say I can't play this bar because (and give me a reason) If there is no Because there was no practice and there is no personal understanding of difficulties (which is a key factor to develop your own piano skills).
I am not here to tell the student what they can't do (that is up to them to discover), I am also not here to do the repetivie practice with them, a student should come to me, tell me their problems, I am there to solve it with them.
For a student to say I didn't practice is a HUGE problem but I cannot solve it because I do not live with the students and observe their practice habits every day. A lot of student's problems are lack of repetitive practice, we can go a step back and see that it is TIME that people cannot control. So often it isn't that the student doesn't want to practice but they are disorganised with their efforts to make TIME to do it. If time is the issue then I'll sit down and strike up a study schedule with the student, an unbreakable timetable for study at home.
Okay so I know students come and go for different reasons, do you get sad when a student leaves due to whatever reason? Do you doubt your teaching abilities when it happens although they might have left due to a non-relevant issue to your teaching or their progress?
I do not even pat myself on the shoulder and say, Hey great work, these students want to work with you, you must be a great teacher. So why would I say the opposite if they leave? Nothing is personal, it is a work relationship you strike up initally with your student, if a friendship develops out of it then the friendship still exists when you no longer teach the student. I have many students I no longer teach who still contact me and we come together for food/drinks and chit chat. I also have a few students who RING ME and say, no more lessons please. These type of students to me are rude and not worth my time anyway. I do get annoyed and angry with these students, but only for a short time, humans aren't perfect afterall. But I think after teaching a student for a few years, to get a phone call to quit lessons is extremely rude.
Do you believe in discipline? Do you believe in repeated practices just because a student did not do the work at home thus making it seem like a chore to them? What about getting a little fed-up or angry during lessons? Have you made a student cry? Is this okay? Do you think they will hate piano after an encounter like this?
I won't disipline the student any more but by making them listen to my disapproval of not practicing. Writing out a timetable contract which they sign for me agreeing that they will do it this time round(of course it isn't legal but it is very symbollic of a promise). I don't make them think I'm an ogre with such seriousness, they all know I am a big joke, but I also take teaching music as a serious job, just as if it where a doctor diagnosing their patient. I never let the student feel scared or uncomfortable, I can tell when student haven't done their work because they get nervous before I ask them to play, I won't jump on top of them and say YOU DIDN"T PRACTICE!!!!!!!!!! I will question them, what is difficult about this part. I like to watch them squirm when they don't know because they didn't practice

If I sense they are getting annoyed or angry I will joke around with their difficulties. I will imitate the way they play, but do it way over the top so they can see how they do it isn't as bad as they think. If the student didn't work at home like I said before I would NOT submit and teach them what they should have done during the week. If they did work but could not master what was left for them then I will go back and work on it with them, simply because they will have questions for their difficulties which they experienced in private and now will experience with the teachers guidance. They will think, Oh I tried it this way, but teacher shows me it this way now, this is extremely important for learning and cannot be done if the student hasn't put in any effort by themselves.
So you have a few students and they all vary in their abilities and attitude towards the piano. Do you have "favourites?" Is this bad? What makes you favour a student over another? This is inevitable? If this is true then do you agree that some teachers "suit" certain types of students and vice versa? Or should there definetely be an equality to teaching? If so, wouldn't that defeat the purpose of education? If students are all treated equally and not according to their personalities and abilities etc...?
I love teaching students who love learning and are excited about music. There are a number of students I have at all different levels like this. They make you feel energetic at the end of the lesson because you can feel their motivation to learn. Opposite are those who make excuses about not enough time, or blah blah blah was why I cannot play this chord properly. Or who don't listen to what you say, start with the 2nd and they continually start with the 1st... urrrrg! I find most testing to teaching pure beginners because there is so much simple things to go through with them, and when they have troubles with simple things you have to really bite your tongue and not get frustrated. It may be the simplest thing to the teacher but a big difficulty for the beginner.
There is no ONE WAY to treat your students. That would be like being a robot. I treat all my students as individuals each one differently. I always talk about their own interests too so this controls a lot of what I have to say to them and how we relate to one another.
Autonomy: what do you think? Is it your job to teach a student how to learn for themselves? How can this be applied to piano teaching? Will they ever have this when they are younger students?
The student must teach themselves, that is what the practice at home is. If they don't do this then they never progress. Young students I always tell them, I am not here to teach you piano, I am here to make sure you don't teach yourself wrongly. They ask what I mean by this and I say, your lessons with me is only an hour a week, this is not no way near enough to learn music, you must go home, practice yourself, find out what you think is hard and what you can and can't do, then report back to me next week with your findings. This is the best way to use your music teacher so USE ME!
And finally to the issue of respect... I often joke with my kids and lighten up the atmosphere a little with sarcastic humour , and with the older kids, I share interests in pop. music, trends, fashion, activities, culture and basically life. Should this be done at all? I can't help to think this can work both ways. I know they enjoy piano lessons more if at the beginning and at the end I talk to them about everyday things, however this does lower the formality of the piano lesson a bit and cause troubles for respect and serious playing. It is a big issue for me atm because I am only around 19 years older than my youngest kid (who's 4) and 6 years older than my oldest student.
ESSENTIAL! I hate teachers who don't do this, where is the life in them! Don't be stupid and do it through the whole lesson, there is a time to chit chat and a time to focus. I am friendly with all my students but some younger ones feel like they can control the lesson because of my friendliness by talking about things off topic in the middle of work etc. I don't let them in if they do this. With a smile I'll push forward with the lesson saying "Tell me at the end". One little girl I teach is very stubborn and wants to tell me things during a lesson, I have had to pretend to read something important and just ignore her. She thinks it is a big joke, but when she stops talking I remind her that I am here to teach music not play around. Or I might look out the window while she blabs and when she finishs pretend to be startled, Oh you finished talking? I am not rude or angry in the way I do this, but I make sure they know what I am here for. Kids are so fun sometimes
