When they look at the music all they say is "It's so difficult!". I keep telling them it's not and I go through everything with them (...) Any ideas of how to tell these children that it isn't difficult and all it needs is practice? They are progressing but it's slow.
Have you ever seen this happening? A child (usually a toddler) falls and bangs his/her head. S/he starts crying. Some grown-up picks it up and says: “it is not hurting, it is nothing, it will be all right…” The toddler screams even more…
Now, when I see a toddler in this situation, I try to get there before any other adult makes a mess of it. I say “Wow, this must really be hurting!” The toddler usually stops screaming and looks at me surprised to see an adult who actually understands what s/he is going through. Then I say “Did you break your head? Is there any blood?” We run to the mirror. No there is no blood Great Relief! The toddler by this time is usually smiling. Did the floor crack? We run to look at it. No, it is ok. By now the toddler is giggling, and all is forgotten.
I suggest you use the same approach with your students. If they say the piece is difficult, agree with them. If you say it is easy, you loose any authority, since they know through their own experience that it is difficult. You must join them before you can lead them. In fact introduce them to their new piece by stating bluntly: “Your new piece is extremely difficult. In fact it is a virtuoso piece. It is so difficult I am reluctant to give it to you. In fact we will leave it for a couple of years” If you do it right, by this point they are demanding to be given the piece. Then you ice the cake: This piece is so difficult I doubt I can play it. Then try to play it and make a mess of it. “Oh dear, this is really, really difficult! There is no other way, I MUST PRACTISE IT!!!”. Then go on and right in front of their eyes, practise it, making sure you start badly and slowly improve until you can do it perfectly.
You will have accomplished many desirable things: You will have asserted your authority (my teacher really knows what s/he is talking about! S/he could see straight away that the new piece was difficult). You will have kept the student’s self-esteem intact (“I am dumb and lazy, I could not even get an easy piece right” by practising as oppose to: “I was given a piece so difficult that even my teacher had a hard time with it, and look at me now, after we practised the way the teacher showed me, I can play it! That teacher really knows how to learn!), You will have encouraged him/her to search for new learning experiences (instead of “Why bother learning anything, I cannot even figure out an easy piece!”). You will have shown them that even someone who finds a piece difficult (you) can eventually play it well if they practise!
Try it. You may not get it right the first time (there is much that cannot be properly shown in writing - like body language), but as your experience with this sort of reverse logic increases you will obtain magical results!
Best wishes,
Bernhard.