Wow great advice

everyone, thanks for your comments. It was nice to hear from both sides. I enjoyed hearing from people who have grown to appreciate Bartók's music. I am starting to see hope in my future with Bartók after all.

I was beginning to doubt my ears, so it's also refreshing to know others have struggled with this.
You have described the characteristics of Bartok's music very well! That's how he composed his music. Btw. it's not so different from Beethoven's intentions.
I think you understand Bartok very good. Perhaps the only "problem" you have with Bartok is: you don't like this sort of music as much as the music of Mozart, Chopin, Debussy... 
Thank you

I agree Beethoven has the same unpredictable feel in his music at times, but his music seems more cohesive (to my amateur ears) than does Bartók. I adore Beethoven's music. Also, it's possible you are right, I may simply just not prefer Bartók's style... I'll keep digging at it until I know for sure.
You should try to play his music, that raises your bond with the music and makes you love it more, I hope. Otherwise just be patient, music grows on you in time
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I will try that! I'm going to try Mikrokosmos No.97: Notturno, because it's one of my favorites from that series. Maybe it will ease me into his style. And I will surely be patient

Thank you.
Great advice. Also, focus on the more accessible Bartok. Especially late Bartok. The Third piano concerto is actually quite ethereal. The nocturnal sounds of the second movement, particularly with "the insects" buzzing and chirping, is absolutely magical. The concerto's total effect, for me, is almost the same as Beethoven's Fourth concerto.
And the Concerto for Orchestra. What a masterpiece. Also, the Concerto for 2 pianos, percussion and orchestra.
A great deal of the piano music is meant for teaching purposes. I don't think all of it is of the same high inspiration, so you have to pick and choose.
Upon your advice, I just listened to his 3rd concerto. The first movement still threw me into a loop a few times. The second movement, I agree with you, is fun to hear. I probably would not have associated the shrill staccato strings with crickets, if you had not mentioned it. Nice observation! Great imagery. "Zany" is a word I could use to describe the third movement, but of course, I could be way off base with my review

I don't know if you have ever seen the classic children's movies, "Escape To/From Witch Mountain", but that is what I was instantly reminded of in the 3rd movement

! I would LOVE to hear this live and in person! I feel like it would be a great experience, and would help me achieve my objective, which is to appreciate this music.
I HATE Bartok and think he is the worst composer EVER!! I culd write an essay on my hatred for Bartok. I doubt I'll ever like him. Bad music!! And I am not ignorant to his music, I know all of it and have played (by force) a lot of it
Sounds like a tough experience! I wouldn't like it either if I were forced into playing it. It's tough enough understanding it on my own free will

I just have one thought: When I was in school I was forced to eat spinach and peas, and I
hated it. Five years later I was served spinach at a restaurant, and tasted it with my own free will, and it was excellent! Perhaps this could be the same with Bartók!

Thanks for sharing your point of view

...although, you have to 'get into the mode' - by listening to some hungarian folk tunes. they are not based on the western tonal system - but rather modes. so you have a sort of east meets west with bartok. he puts all this into a tonal system in writing - but it's not truly tonal.
bartok was amazing in that he sought to record and document folk tunes before they died out. much like people collect stories from ethnic peoples. if it wasn't for him and kodaly - we wouldn't have the interesting tunes that come directly from certain places over there in hungary and wheverever else he travelled.
kodaly set this system into progressive studies for young children.
here's an analysis of the suite opus 14:
https://ccrma.stanford.edu/~matt/301b/Bartok-Suite-Opus14.pdf
part of the problem, imo, is the unique nature of his music and lack of exposure we have had to it. if you grew up with gypsy violin music - it would be second nature. and, his talent for exploiting rhythms and doing wild machinations.
though, in the end, you'll have to find a pianist that doesn't bang it - and plays it lightly like a violinist would. sfz's don't have to be bashy.
ps - i don't want to listen to bartok if i need solace. it's more the kind of music that wakes you up and makes you want to dance. and, you can get arrhythmia from it if you always try to match your heartbeat to your music.
I think you are very right about the lack of exposure being one of the main causes for my under-appreciation of his music. Possibly if I had grown up Hungarian, instead of American, I would not be having this problem. I've only had time to skim through the analysis you provided, but it looks very helpful. I'm going to check out "modes" just for the cultural value of knowing. Your comment about arrhythmia had me laughing, but it's true! I know exactly what you mean. Thanks!

Piano music is probably not the place to get started on Bartok. Orchestral stuff (Music for Strings, Percussion and Celeste, Concerto for Orchestra etc.) chamber music (especially the sonata for solo violin), Duke Bluebeard's Castle, I would expect to be more immediately appealing to more people.
I'll check those out! Thanks !
I'm playing all of his 6 Bulgarian Dances from Mikrokosmos No.6 for DipABRSM (unusual time signatures and bitonality galore).
Yes it is dissonant and heard to appreciate. It's just like other 20th century composers. How you say there are great melodies, then random bashing comes in, leaving you in a whirlwind of confusion and discombobulation is one of the main effects of Bartok's music. Just as atonality, giving you a sense of insecurity and unpredictability.
Bartok treats the piano as a percussion instrument, utilizing varying rhythms and accents to the fullest. HOWEVER, DO NOT PLAY THE PIANO LIKE A PERCUSSION INSTRUMENT. Your mindset has to think 'percussion', but your fingers have to think 'piano'.
I find his music very exciting. How it just makes your heart beat fast and almost in rhythm, ooh the first time I listened to his works seriously. The visceral thrill of listening and actually playing it cannot be reproduced. Perhaps playing Bartok gives me a lift from the heavy Classical Music or sophisticated Romantic Music.
Let's pull another example into this. Scriabin, particularly his late period, it IS dissonant, but I still love his works. His fifth sonata (not from late period) is personally in my opinion, one of the best piano works ever composed.
Last paragraph was off topic, but I just wanted to express my love for his fifth sonata.
Great! I plan on playing his compositions, and I will see if things get clearer. I think I am analyzing a little too much as I listen, but that is hard not to do when I am so accustomed to western music! I also have very little experience with Scriabin, but I saw Horowitz' Moscow performance on YouTube, and it was a stunning composition (but now I can't remember the name of the composition). We pianists have so much we want to do, but only 24 hours in a day! Life stays interesting, thats for sure. I wish you the best on the DipABRSM. Thanks!
