Yes Bernhard, that is what I asked. Sometimes I read what you write, and I feel so utterly CONFUSED,,,,,...
These days, if you are not confused, it is probably because you are not thinking clearly!

Of course, memorization is simply familiarization!!! That makes perfect sense. And when I think about, just as some people....there ARE pieces that I choose to become familiar with, and those I do not. Does that make sense at all? When I'm learning a piece...if I'm really into it, and am trying to FEEL everything....I definately have it memorized by the time I have learned it. On the other hand, if I am learning a piece, not one I particularily enjoy, it IS very difficult for me to memorize.
I was just now listening to “Erinerung” (Schumann Op. 68 no. 28 ).
The first time I ever heard to this piece (as a teenager), I had no clue what it was all about. It seemed a pleasant enough tune.
Under the title (in my edition) a date: 4 November 1847 At the time I assumed it was the date of composition.
Many years later, having become a curious person, I decided to dig further, and of course it is the date of Mendelssohn’s death.
The whole piece changed from that moment. Not anymore just a pleasant piece, it suddenly became a poignant and powerful evocation of Mendelssonh’s personality (he was a thoroughly nice guy), his unjustifiably untimely death (at only 32), his amazing musicality (he was the most celebrated child prodigy since Mozart) and talent (he was also a superlative painter and writer), all enmeshed with his friendship for Schumann, his championship of Schumann’s romance with Clara.
Many people say that Schumann’s year of song was mostly inspired by his approaching marriage to Clara. It has been argued (and I agree) that Mendelssohn was probably a far more important influence.
So suddenly this simple piece – with a most appropriate title: “Remembrance” - becomes a glimpse on a whole universe of interlinked associations of the most profound kind: love and friendship, the meeting of like minds (Clara, Schumann, Mendelssohn, all musicians in their prime), the unbelievable loss, all the music that will never be, all the music that came to be as a consequence, the fight of excellence against mediocrity (the band of David against the philistines), and more.
All that is now part of that piece for me. I have been to the places where it all took place a long time ago. I read the letters of the people involved. I empathised with their dreams and aspirations. I felt their suffering. So in the end knowledge of the notes can only go so far, and getting familiar with a piece of music must also necessarily involve partaking of the personal universe from which such music once sprung.
And yes, I agree with you that there are people I do not feel drawn to – as with certain music pieces. And yet I cannot help but recall what Gandhi once said: “There goes a man I intensely dislike. I must get to know him better.”
But I guess I am digressing.

Best wishes,
Bernhard.