I don't agree with the phobia grand owners have of the repeatibility of console actions. I've done 100% of my practice on consoles, and only played grands at recitals and piano guild competitions. I can express myself quite well on most console pianos, and don't find the action different from one end of the keyboard to the other on the better ones.
Some people like a heavier action, a few people like light action, most are someplace in the middle. Everyone likes accurate action though, this is the realm of the grand piano. There are not many uprights made that can keep up with a well regulated grand action of good manufacture.In the world of digital pianos, just having hammer action is not enough. You need weighted and graded hammer action with escapement.
I guess my suggestion to the OP is to reap what you can from this thread but test for yourself. Ask even more questions along the way. I don't know if you have even considered older used pianos since you asked about new models. The two finger test applies in either case though. So that's one tidbit you can take away from here, if no other.Consider your space for a piano. If you don't have sufficient space then the grand is out anyway. At that point you would be looking for the console ( or larger upright) with the best action and tone, not to mention build.I think above all the piano must appeal to you. You will want to play a piano that appeals to you, in the categories of looks and performance. Nobody wants to play a piano they don't like after all !Listening to two 60+ yo guys hashing over differences of opinion may not do a whole lot for you beyond that.
I'm leery of digital piano's (was/am? considering the Kawai ES7) after reading this:https://campus.murraystate.edu/staff/scott.thile/digital_vs_real.html"In addition to the limitation of sound there is the problem of feel and sensitivity. Lack of infinite sensitivity makes the digital piano useless for classical piano performance; these pianists simply can not sacrifice any amount of artistic expression. This lack of infinite sensitivity also limits the digital piano's value as a practice instrument for serious classical piano students. The student pianist must learn to control every aspect of the piano's potential as an expressive instrument. This is impossible if the bulk of the student's practice time is spent on a digital piano. For this reason many piano teachers refuse to accept students unless they have access to an acoustic piano to study on."