I don't understand why you claim I am "trying too much to add meaning to when it's not there" when that is precisely what you are asking us to do. In fact, I have had this story in my mind ever since I heard the sonata. So I am not adding meaning to this piece for your self-gratification but for the reason that I have always had this opinion.
I'm not asking for an external meaning, like the ones describing a story about some death or whatever. I've heard this explanation many years ago when I first started learning this piece but I have never once been convinced that this is what the piece is about. The ideas are too loose and incohesive for it to make sense in this way; it's not programatic like Liszt's sonata, for example.
I think the issue with this work, as a whole, is that it's simply not composed very well. I very much agree that the work sounds like a mischling of random parts thrown together in a pot with the hope that something good came out of it. But I don't think that occurred.
Now, as some of you, even those who disagree with my opinion, have stated or implied, it's not Chopin's best work. Why is that? Probably for the very same reasons I'm pointing out. While you may be able to dismiss them/forgive them (because it was composed by Chopin, after all), I am not. A work should be able to stand on its own, not behind the name of the creator.