Well I think you need a lot more than a spanking, especially if you're willing to yell in his face.
Perhaps if they had spanked you, you'd have more respect for adults, especially your parents, and be thankful for what you actually have.
Geez.
What would "a lot more than spanking" be?
I know that yelling at someone is not a good thing! I am not exactly proud of yelling and saying mean things... I know it doesn't do any good and it hurts people which in the end hurts me, because it hurts me to hurt others. I don't get so angry often. I don't get angry very quickly, but when I do I really do. And I never feel good about it. I'm learning, I make mistakes. I have to learn how not to get hurt by other people and how to talk about things rather than try to hurt them back. But I would definitely not learn how to talk about things and how to not get angry if my parents were beating me!
And I have a lot of respect for others, real respect, not fear. Beating someone into "respecting" you isn't exactly respect.
I wanted to say a few more things about parents beating (or spanking) their kids, but now I don't know if I should, because I don't want Emill to think I'm judging what he does or something. Because I really do respect him! I think he's a very good person and I'm sure his kids know that too, even if he spanks them sometimes.
I don't know... maybe it's not so much about spanking or not, but more about understanding why someone is doing what they're doing. We're all human, we don't know exactly what is the best thing to do, we just try to do the best we can. And if you know for sure that your parents love you and that they are doing what they are doing because they want all the best for you then you can be ok with whatever they're doing (as long as they don't injure you or kill you, of course).
I mean my parents have hit me a few times and it never changed the way I feel about them. My mum once even slapped me so hard acros my mouth, my lip started bleeding! Well... the truth is that a few days before that I bumped into my friend's head at school. And my lip started bleeding a lot, the teachers even wanted to take me to a doctor cause it didn't stop bleeding for such a long time. And so a few days later my mum was late for work (as usual
) and she was combing my hair and she wasn't very gentle cause she tried to do it as fast as possible so I started yelling, so she got angry and told me she would slap me if I didn't stop and I got even more angry cause I didn't think it was fair so I talked back and she slapped me and I yelled even more so she slapped me again in exactly the place where my lip was already hurt so it started bleeding and then of course I made a big deal about how she injured me and she apologized and felt kinda bad about it and I liked that so I kept crying and making a big deal out of it and feeling sorry for myself and then she had enough and got angry again and told me to stop exaggerating and then I started feeling kinda stupid about it and I started making fun of myself pretending to be in pain and crying like a little baby and then we both started laughing and that was that. I learned really a lot of things and of course it didn't change anything about how I felt about my mum. I still think my mum is the best mum anyone could ever have! Well actually I am sure of that!
I totaly understand that parents are just human and that their kids can sometimes make them so angry that they hit them or spank them. But I don't think that hitting or beating or spanking really helps kids to become better people, to become the best themselves they can be. Because if you keep getting hit or spanked for everything you do without even talking about it, all you learn is that you should do and say whatever someone who's more powerful than you tells you to and that you can get others to do what you want if you're strong enough and use violence to scare them into doing what you want. And of course you learn how to hide and cheat and pretend to look as if you're doing the right thing when you're really doing something else. You also don't learn to respect others but just how to pretend to respect others when they're more powerful than you are.
I don't think that getting hit or spanked by your parents from time to time is a big deal, but I also don't think that hitting or spanking helps to raise better, more respectful and nicer people. I mean people have been beating their kids for centuries and look at what kind of world we have. Not very peaceful and respectful I would say.
But of course it's never just about this one thing...you have to look at many things. I'm sure that it's much worse to have parents who never hit you or spank you but also don't care about you at all than to have parents who love you a lot but sometimes get so angry that they hit you or spank you. I guess it's all about the reasons for why someone is doing what they're doing and understanding those reasons.
Topic: Did your parents beat you when you were a kid?