Help me learn to love it!
I don't know if I can help you love theory, but I will tell you how I got into it.
When I started playing as an adult and with decades passed since my instrument studies, I thought I would not waste time with theory, I just wanted to learn to play. But the music I like tends to be a bit complicated and I don't have much ability to memorize things by drilling. So after a while it became necessary to start adding some tools to help me memorize my music and I felt theory might help. So I took out some books and read them. I have studied theory both in school and in connection to my instrument studies as a kid, but never really learned anything properly. I read it and understand the big picture, but never could remember the details afterwards. I also have a lot of trouble memorizing the names and order of things. So reading the books didn't get me anywhere. There's a lot of material in the internet, but most of it is useless for me, because it uses different concepts than what we use here. That also limits the possibilities to discuss things in the forums. I need to get one language figured out before I can fluently change between them.
At my work there was another adult piano student. She has never studied theory before, but sometimes at coffee breaks we started to fool around with some concepts and making our own "rules". Then another person started there who also wanted to start piano lessons and we got this grazy idea to stay after work every Wednesday to study theory together as a study group. We started January 2014 and we are still at it. Not every week, but when it suits us all.
It's really quite grazy sometimes and very informal. Since I am the only one with some experience it fell on me to collect the material and make exercises. We tried to use an exercise book, but it wasn't very good, the exercises were either too easy or too hard and often didn't include the things we had trouble with. Also it seems everyone of us has some sort of learning issues with different weaknesses. So I try to figure out exercises that concentrate on the things we find difficult and help us repeat and repeat the things we cannot easily remember. We also advance in a rather erratic way, because we have to go back to basics regularly for the things we have forgotten. We don't do homework, so obviously many things must be repeated for several weeks. But since we are not in any kind of hurry, it doesn't matter if we are still at the basics.
What I noticed is that I learn things much better now that I need to figure out exercises and explain things to the other two than I ever did just trying to study them by myself. We all have trouble staying in the box with our thinking, so it sometimes gets a bit wild with us creating our own theories and rules about things, but it's also fun and it helps memorizing a lot. To help to connect the theory with the practice we use an old electrical keyboard someone brought at work. I also print a lot of real music for us to "analyze", that helps to answer their frequent questions of WHY something is important. We often end up discussing why composers wrote what they did.
Since I don't always have time to prepare anything we spend a lot of time repeating stuff learned earlier (we've drawn a lot of circles of fifth) and this is of course good for deeper learning. I'm actually quite surprised that we are still at it, because it never was very well thought of, just a silly idea. But it is also fun. Obviously as adults we simply need more to motivate us than just "you need to learn this now". And it's always great when someone finally gets something that's always been bugging them.
For example now I have days off from work but need to restrict my playing due to an elbow injury. So I have spent some time to create new study material about chords. There's nothing better to help one learn quads than trying to figure out ways to make them understandable to someone with no previous study of them and who generally has trouble figuring out such systems. Also now I think I can better answer their frequent question about why we need to learn the intervals and their qualities, something which we've spend quite a lot of time with in the past...
So can you think of anyone whom you could study theory with? In your own way and pace instead of trying to force it?