Thank you. I was of the thinking that past experience is far from irrelevant because i think if you have learnt as a child (even if for a short period) then that makes a massive difference to achieving as an adult. If this is not necessarily the case then there is hope ....
thanks to all who have replied and Josh thank you very much for offering me your help.My aim is to just be able to 'play the piano' and play pieces around grade 8 standard (maybe slightly higher) for my own enjoyment and sometimes for others to listen. In the short term i want to take grade 7 but not for a few years as i want to expand my repetoire and just play for the love of playing piano. I am well aware that Rach and some of the Liszt and Chopin pieces will not be achievable but thats fine because there is plenty of excellent repetoire at around the grade 8 level. I am currently looking at an Oscar Peterson piece that was set for grade 6 ABRSM some years ago called Exercise no3, and a current grade 7 piece by Handel (Sonatina in D minor) and Kuhlau's Sonatina in A minor Op 88 (all 3 movements).When the kids aren't around I practise for a minimum 3 hours a day. I warm up with Hanon and/or scales. I look at my new pieces. I like to spend some time on sightreading (looking at easier pieces) and I also like to keep up old pieces (but my repetoire is very small!!!) Sometimes I will look at grade 6 music theory. And I may also spend some time on chords/inversions.
In my experience, fingers don't really get stronger, ...
I would clarify that The muscles that control fingers CAN get stronger but fingers are really controlled by tendons linking them to muscles in the hands and arms. I don't see why we really need to bother with technical exercises so much though, surely if you just work on the scaly passages and arpeggio passages in real pieces a bit as well as make sure to pursue evenness and control in the pieces you play, you should be fine.
You make a fair point outin. Perhaps I should say that unless you have a particular problem that can only be solved with some form of exercise, doing none or little technical exercise is an option for those, who like me, can't stand the bloody stuff!
I cannot stand them either which is why I make my own...Improvised stuff, I would never write them down