It sounds like you need a better warm up or maybe to go with a metronome and increase your overall accuracy . This is from my guitarist side where I had the same problems for a couple years. I started with a metronome and took 220 bpm music and dialed it all the way down to about 60bpm and after I.could do it ten times flawlessly id increase by 5 bpm . Soon you will realize at what beat your accuracy is off then its just work from there on out. You will increase fast at first then trust me you will slow down progress quite a bit but it makes your accuracy so much better.
Thank you, fellow pianists, for your invaluable input with regard to my unruly fingers. You've given me a lot to think about and work on, and also a wonderful spark of hope that this problem can be overcome! I've been referred to sometimes as 'a dog with a bone' and when I have a problem I don't give up until it's solved, so today begins my quest to solve this. I am elated that there are things I can do that will help me get my fingers to behave. So, right now my mood is like Golliwog's Cake Walk and I'm pumped! Thank you, each one of you, for taking the time to help me.