Thanks, Thal !! You're right ! I should really get out there sometime soon. I think it's not as complicated as it seems. I keep wishing I could quit one instrument and keep trying to talk myself into it (though it's mainly just singing that I wish I could quit), and it just never actually gels. I think I need to just accept that I can't seem to function quite right without both, and start from there. I need to mold the rest of my life around that, if/when I can. Things will be changing a bit in about a week or so, and DO have some kind of choice in how many other things I take on ! I just need to keep making the decisions that chisel me towards what I know I need to be doing.
I blew my own audition, and I know it. I am vocally out of shape, didn't bother to learn an actual piece from the Opera that they were auditioning for, and there were probably numbers of talented individuals who ARE in great vocal shape, who DID learn the actual arias, for whom they KNEW it really mattered to them and made the time in their life for it. They *should* get the role !! I can accept that.
So, I can accept that I want to sing, that I didn't put enough into it (though I sang decently for the circumstances I put myself under), that I need to work smarter and harder if I want to keep doing this ... and that I need to keep making decisions in my life that help my day-to-day life reflect who I am inside. I simply am insisting on Intelligent Design, in that, if I am a musician and a person whose expression of life in this "round" needs to include singing AND playing, then there are right ways for that to be happening. I have no other choice but to simply insist on this, and follow where that insistence leads. In the meantime, it's very important that I am grateful for all my life is and has been so far.
I am very grateful to my teachers and friends and family

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Cheers !