but bernhard is far from dead! his wife is probably drop dead gorgeous to marry such a smart man. and, if he can turn from clark kent to superman in bed, she's probably not complaining. older men are definately charming, smart, and tactful. for instance, they would never go around bragging how good they are. they just let their wife speak for them. ("did you know my husband is really superman? occasionally he also performs as spiderman.")