you don't have girly hands. you have piano hands. long fingers (which i don't have) and probably can play chords well as well as 'the line.'
the zip technique. if a reach is too far, you can play the bottom note and then zip up to the top at the angle of fastest approach. i used a stupid approach before, going high in the air and trying to land on the note. now, i zip sideways like a fighter plane just barely nipping the mountain tops (of the keys). i can now play one chopin etude (everyone, clap, yes. thank you) whereas before i thought it was just technically impossible.
Actually I think I have violin hands, violinists always stare at my hands with this weird expression that combines awe, envy and finally disgust. Too bad I really stink at violin, and have the C- in Class Violin to prove it!
I like this zip technique, the fighter jet is a cool and very apt analogy!

But don't give up on the "from above" (a former teacher of mine used to say this incessantly, always complaining that his American students played too close to the keys, and that this constricted their tone). He was right, but sometimes you have to be close to the keys.. I was taught this "zip technique" by the next teacher I studied with, and it improved my clarity and accuracy a great deal. And yes teacher #1 was right my tone (always my strong point) did start to sound clipped. My next teacher after #2 was ME!!

I sat alone at the piano for two years, playing almost nothing but Jazz (sounds pathetic, I did get up to eat and shower!) and put everything I had been taught over about a decade together in a way and order that suited me, not the teacher. My Jazz playing was helpful in this too, because that is MY playing, my suit of clothes, not someone elses. Finally understanding how my clothes fit enabled me to tailor Bach's clothes, Chopin's clothes, Ravel's clothes, Brahms' clothes etc. to fit me! I now feel that I have a well balanced approach to the piano.
So don't give up on the "from above"; if you look at the key, your hand will probably go to it. If you combine your jet fighters (close in) with bombers (from above), you will have a formidable and well rounded air force I mean approach to the keyboard!!!!
