Probably, for you to better grasp the psychology behind the situation, it may be helpful to have an idea regarding what kind of student he was for his first (?) teacher. One possiblity is that he *may* have been somewhat attached to his last teacher and by no choice of his own, was forced to give that up and move on. Or in some other way, he is just having a difficult time transitioning from one circumstance to the next.
I think I will just stick with that idea for a moment here. If that is indeed the case, that he is struggling with the transition itself, it might be that the more "you" (though it could be anyone in your position) change what and how he works at his musical endeavors, the more resistent he will be. He is clinging to familiarity, and in this case, his familiarity are his Alfred books and ways of "reading" which he has already grown accustomed to. But, whatever the cause, he is obviously clinging to what he is comfortable with, and that alone means to me that a mixture of methods is needed, and that a stark change is not going to work out too well for either one of you.
I would say that it may be worthwhile to give him space to cling if he *wants* to, but encourage his growth as well. Ideally, one would wish to have him
want to give up the need to cling to the old and then embrace the new. But there are issues of control it seems, and he would most likely want to feel as though he is having a choice in the matter. So, I think giving him choices could be a key factor.
This may take a little more planning on your part, however. You want to set up opportunities for him to choose what he feels "comfortable" choosing, yet it should be somewhat progressive by your standards (and in this case, I would be willing to accept ANY step of progress as an accomplishment). So, you would want to set up parameters. Ways of using what he already knows and is comfortable with, and then expanding on that. We could get more specific later, if you wished.
I think one sneaky element here is that, along with him clinging to *things* he is comfortable with, he is also developing or clinging to a behavior he is "comfortable" with. His behavior is in need of help just as much as his specifics on what he is studying and when.
I once knew a 3 year old whom was greatly struggling with a number of issues. One of the struggles was getting her to eat at all, and then another was in getting her to eat anything remotely healthy. Her parents would ask her what she would like to eat, she would tell them "eggs" for example, they would proceed to cook eggs, and she would proceed to refuse the meal once it was prepared. Parents would then ask her what else she would like to eat, and the same thing would happen until everything ended up in a huge crying and angry mess. In this case, she was clinging to a behavior because other things felt completely out of control for her.
I noticed that, when she was given the choice between a few different things to eat, which I was willing to prepare, and it was made clear that her choice would matter and that she would have to live with that choice, she would proceed to eat her meal after it was prepared. The same with other specifics regarding her food. She hated fruits and vegetables, or so she thought. She refused to eat them. But, I noticed that even though there was a struggle, she was willing to take a couple of bites of a fruit or veggie with her meal, if she could choose to be done with it after that. Eventually, there was no longer any struggle at all and I could just set food in front of her and she would eat the entire thing. I suppose she grew to trust my decisions on her behalf. Her behavior and demeaner in other ways completely changed as well.
I think it is similar with some students who are resistent. So, how can you give him
choices that you know would benefit him personally as well as musically ? How can you help him feel comfortable yet encourage his growth, when making these choices ?
You might also be interested in this thread here where a perhaps similar situation was discussed. It's kind of a long read, but you would probably find it worth your time. There are a lot of great suggestions given in that thread along the lines of dealing with hard-to-reach students :
(Tough Cookie student)
https://www.pianostreet.com/smf/index.php?PHPSESSID=1922f578c65b9769485c8bb2d9ad06a8&topic=7894.msg79445#msg79445(Insightful posts by many members on how to deal with hard to reach students)
This is an important subject and I am interested in how this goes for you.
m1469