i say that harry wouldn't have turned out the way he did (looking for a family and to escape in magic) if he had parents that had survived and cared for him better. obviously his aunt polly was a worse witch than the magicians because although she wanted him to do the right things - she didn't show affection and love for him the way he needed it. love has a language for each person, imo. i just have to figure out why love = presents for my kids. i can talk a lot or help with homework, or bake something, whatever - but at the end of the day - they like buying stuff. guess it changes with time.