how do you know when a guy likes you?

[pianogrl815]

okay- so this is going to sound really me lame next to all of these deep posts and stuff, but how do you know?
pianogrl

[prometheus]

Which guy?

Otherwise, you don't.

[stevie]

tent in pants

[gruffalo]

if he mocks you repeatedly (in a jokey way). Not my stle, but thats how a lot are. if he keeps staring. if he is either constantly hanging around you, or making a point of avoiding you.

[pianolist]

If your guy likes you, he will probably give you sideways glances. Sideways ones often say more than straight ahead. My wife and I swap lots of sideways glances, these days over our spectacles!

Good luck!

[thalbergmad]

If he walks into a door and the 2nd thing he hurts is his nose, he likes you.

[Siberian Husky]

ask Lagin

[gorbee natcase]

Say to him, if you like me then ask me out. That is ofcourse if you like him

[zheer]

okay- so this is going to sound really me lame next to all of these deep posts and stuff, but how do you know?
pianogrl

 With guys, its obvious, they will just tell you if they like you .
I guess you want to know without asking, well does he look at you a lot, does he smile more when is around you, does he like to spend time with you, has he asked for your phone number, does your best friend know anything ie has he said anything to her, does he get gelious when you are with other guys, does he act differentlu around you . Does he play hard to get. However these factors are only valid if you are a teenager. When you are an old fart like me its a lot more simple.
 

[pianistimo]

if you try to get rid of him and he won't leave.  *try doing something rude and see what happens.  if he just laughs and chalks it up to humor - he's ok.  if he starts yelling or beating you - you'll know he isn't the one. 

actually, i don't purposely do rude things to my hubby and probably didn't when we dated.  it's much different when you're a teenager because you want them to see only good in you.  when you're married you see the good and bad - so you just start adapting.  it's probably a better idea to be super nice - and just tell him that you like him but you have to tell him a few things about yourself (then mention jail time, tatoos, the time you left another guy roasting).

[lagin]

ask Lagin

Lol, okay, since you asked for my expert and superior advice , here we go!   If every single conversation you have with the person, they bring up the topic of marriage saying things like, "Okay, when were we getting married again?"  "Where did you say our wedding was going to be?"  But seriously though, gruf was pretty dead on.  When guys like you they will tease you and mock you alot.  It's their way of flirting.  And they will go out of their way to make conversation with you.  Here's a big one as far as telling if they are a quality guy, too, but if when making this conversation they are really interested in you and ask questions about your interests, hobbies, ect., then you know they're interested and they are usually a nice, non egotistical guy, too.  Gruf hit it when he said if they look at you alot, then that's a good sign of interest too.  If he comes over and sits with you, or asks your friends about you, little things like that.  I am actually not a guy, but I'm just trying to remember how guys acted when they liked me, so don't know if it helps. 

[contrapunctus]

Gentlemen are usually straight forward in letting the lady know. If the gentlemen offers to wait on the lady quite often, then that is usually a sign showing that he enjoy's her company. Also, deep respect towards one lady can be a sign.

[Tash]

to be completely unromantic, get really drunk and see if he tries getting with you- then again he could just be an absolute sleaze...

[brewtality]

to be completely unromantic, get really drunk and see if he tries getting with you- then again he could just be an absolute sleaze...

Not fair, what if he's more drunk than you? and if you ming he will regret it in the morning.

[Tash]

he will regret it will he?

[brewtality]

he will regret it will he?

haha obviously

[stevie]

harzh bru

the most hilarious thing is that when i have ever liked a girl, i just simply, and literally...just said to them...'i like you'

OMG! so simple and yet....so profound!

[lisztisforkids]

harzh bru

the most hilarious thing is that when i have ever liked a girl, i just simply, and literally...just said to them...'i like you'

OMG! so simple and yet....so profound!

Anytime I have ever wanted anything from a girl, its always been me that has made the first move. Just ask the boy if he likes you, and if you like him tell him.

[pianistimo]

he starts stuttering and you have to say "spit it out!"

he starts doing things to get your attention (must ignore them at all costs).

runs into a tree or lightpost when he drives by your house.

will do ANYTHING you ask (usually).

doesn't let the door swing back at you.

is nice to your mother.

shakes hands with your father and asks him permission to take you out.

lets you talk without losing interest (maintains eye contact) looking at his watch, turning around, and/or looking past you.  doesn't read a book while you're talking (had to work on my husband after 15 years.  i would raid his bag and take out books before we went to a restaurant.  or, look all hurt - and tell him i refused to eat out with him again).

apologizes if he hurts your feeling accidentally.

waits for you to get ready for things without saying 'hurry up.  we're going to miss *whatever occasion.'  gives you plenty of time and is still in a good mood.

opens the car door for you - and checks for your fingers and feet before he shuts it.

keeps your personal information secret - is trustworthy.

DOES'nt ask you for sex - or expect something for just going out and having a good time. 

sends you flowers for no reason - or remembers little things that you like.  tries to make you happy and sometimes asks if you enjoy whatever it is you are doing together.

[dolcejen]

If your guy likes you, he will probably give you sideways glances. Sideways ones often say more than straight ahead. My wife and I swap lots of sideways glances, these days over our spectacles!

Good luck!

LOL...very cute...

[henrah]

Yeah sideway glances are a great sign, I cast many, and quite often

As some others have said, if you really like him, be the first to make a move and either tell him you like him and ask him if he likes you, or get talking to him and, very quickly, lean over and kiss him on the cheek. Just a very quick, small one on the cheek and see what results from that. However he might react quickly to that and get straight into the kissing, so only do this if you're ready for that.
Henrah

[jas]

Yep, the sneaky looks always gives it away! Also, if you're at the pub and you don't have to spend a penny because he's buying all of your drinks for you! Of course, I don't know how old you are so that might not apply.

to be completely unromantic, get really drunk and see if he tries getting with you- then again he could just be an absolute sleaze...

And they say romance is dead...

the most hilarious thing is that when i have ever liked a girl, i just simply, and literally...just said to them...'i like you'

That's brave! That's only happened to me a few times, it was sweet. I usually just seem to get plied with alcohol ... meh.

If you know this person you'll be able to recognise yourself if he's acting differently around you. Everyone behaves differently when they're interested in someone. Some are discreet, some are ... not so discreet.

Jas

[Jacey1973]

If your guy likes you, he will probably give you sideways glances. Sideways ones often say more than straight ahead. My wife and I swap lots of sideways glances, these days over our spectacles!

Good luck!

Ok, but what about when guys stop talking to you (finish their conversation) and then hold your gaze for a few seconds (more of a direct glance than a sideways one) - is this the same thing? Is this a good sign? Lol!

[pianistimo]

as long as they don't look perplexed or annoyed, probably a good thing.  i don't know why, but this reminds me of one of my middle kids who (when i was really tired) would open up my eyes and tell me to wake up.

[rimv2]

as long as they don't look perplexed or annoyed, probably a good thing.  i don't know why, but this reminds me of one of my middle kids who (when i was really tired) would open up my eyes and tell me to wake up.

Did that to my bro once. His eyes were going crazy for some reason

the most hilarious thing is that when i have ever liked a girl, i just simply, and literally...just said to them...'i like you'

Wouldnt it be weird if the ladies actually came up to guys and said this?

[emmdoubleew]

If he walks into a door and the 2nd thing he hurts is his nose, he likes you.

That's the best answer I've ever heard ^_^.

If you catch him looking at you and he immediatly looks away. A lot. This is true for both sexes.

[rc]

If you catch him looking at you and he immediatly looks away. A lot. This is true for both sexes.

A lot of the time, avoiding eye contact can mean disinterest. That's the trouble with a lot of shy, timid people... It's hard to know what they're up to. Often someones timidity will be interpreted as disinterest or even aloofness. I know some people who were thought to be full of themselves were actually just shy.

This:

Ok, but what about when guys stop talking to you (finish their conversation) and then hold your gaze for a few seconds (more of a direct glance than a sideways one) - is this the same thing? Is this a good sign? Lol!

is dead givaway that you're both interested. I don't think words even matter in that kind of look. Last time I held that kind of gaze, I asked her a question and her response was almost gibberish, lol It wasn't easy for me to force out the words either.

As a rule, the more someone wants to be around you, the more they like you... and if you suspect someone likes you romantically, you're probably right (beware wishful thinking).



This:

lets you talk without losing interest (maintains eye contact) looking at his watch, turning around, and/or looking past you. doesn't read a book while you're talking (had to work on my husband after 15 years. i would raid his bag and take out books before we went to a restaurant. or, look all hurt - and tell him i refused to eat out with him again).

I've given some thought... I think that it takes some real effort to feign interest. The ladies can really put a guy through a lot of babble that we don't care about, and I suspect that a lot of the time a guy might just be courtious enough to maintain eye contact until the monologue is over. So a thought for the ladies: if you're doing 80% of the talking, there's a good chance you're boring the hell out of your victim .

[pianistimo]

i think it works both ways.  i'm always interested in what he has to say - and in fact, enthusiastic for things that go well for him.  and, encourage him when things aren't going so well.  i think it's politeness.  and, if you love the person, it's love.  our marriage has definately had it's ups and downs.  after a few children - both of us kind of got lazy in how we treated each other.  now our marriage is much better because we both put on the table our needs and wants.  for me, it was spending more time together, the outward showing of affection and carefulness in how you talk to the person (tone of voice) as when we were first married.  i think the temptation is to see others at the same level - but you always have to keep your mate on a pedestal above others.  that way - they feel the love for you because they also feel special and visa-versa - that you make them feel special above and beyond anyone else (whether sitting at  nearby table - or work place relationships).   my husband has always spoken well of me to his co-workers, etc. and i try to do the same - it works the best when you are honest with each other about feelings and don't bottle in angry ones.  'be angry and sin not' is probably advice to let it out - but carefully, and explain why.  hopefully the other person will listen and take heart to what is meaningful and not meaningful - and do what makes both of you happy. 

it's kind of interesting to see cycles in marriage.  after 20 years - we've gotten to where we enjoy doing more things for each other than ourselves.  i like to do extra stuff for him and enjoy it when he enjoys something.  he's always been perhaps the more giving one and very expressive.  i had to learn to be more expressive of joy and thankfulness (not taking things forgranted).  when you spoil each other - it's nice - just because.

[zheer]

okay- so this is going to sound really me lame next to all of these deep posts and stuff, but how do you know?
pianogrl

    Just ask him, do you like me in that way.

[emmdoubleew]

A lot of the time, avoiding eye contact can mean disinterest. That's the trouble with a lot of shy, timid people... It's hard to know what they're up to. Often someones timidity will be interpreted as disinterest or even aloofness. I know some people who were thought to be full of themselves were actually just shy.

If you catch someone repeatedly looking at you (as I said "A lot) it probably isn't disinterest.

[rc]

If you catch someone repeatedly looking at you (as I said "A lot) it probably isn't disinterest.

I wasn't disagreeing with you, just have a tangent . I especially agree with your comment on being true for both sexes, most of this stuff applies equally to both sides.

[donjuan]

When he talks to you, he'll be stammering non stop while looking at the floor and say stupid things like "Oh yeah?" and "Ok then" 

and then he will be too scared shitless to talk to you ever again.  He will then go on internet forums and try to make up for the thousand humiliations and sufferings by calling himself "donjuan" and get into arguments and flamewars with people so he can exercise his extroverted alter-ego on the information superhighway.

A lot of the time, avoiding eye contact can mean disinterest. That's the trouble with a lot of shy, timid people... It's hard to know what they're up to. Often someones timidity will be interpreted as disinterest or even aloofness. I know some people who were thought to be full of themselves were actually just shy.

Oh crap! is that what they think of me??

[rimv2]

okay- so this is going to sound really me lame next to all of these deep posts and stuff, but how do you know?
pianogrl

Easiest way to know is if he actually talks to you, or makes an attempt. This is true for all guy who arent gays or pricks. Most just end up in some girl's pocket (she calls him a 'friend').

[pianistimo]

i had to laugh at 'most end up in some girls pocket.'  guess that was what attracted me (and still does) to my husband.  others i pretty much had wrapped around my finger and would do anything i said.  my husband was never scared of me.  if he felt something - he said it (not worrying if i would like it or not).  we have good discussions and even if we disagree, we don't really get bothered.  i used to want someone i could manipulate - and now, i realize i really have the best.  he's a man's man - and if he really feels strongly about something - i can't force him to do anything else (not that i would want to).

[jas]

This:I've given some thought... I think that it takes some real effort to feign interest. The ladies can really put a guy through a lot of babble that we don't care about, and I suspect that a lot of the time a guy might just be courtious enough to maintain eye contact until the monologue is over. So a thought for the ladies: if you're doing 80% of the talking, there's a good chance you're boring the hell out of your victim .

I'm guilty of that a lot. Silence bothers me, so I always feel the need to fill it with inane drivel about this, that and the next thing. It isn't until the person I'm talking to (well, at)'s eyes glass over that I even realise it's probably time to shut up.

Jas

[pianistimo]

personally, i like that.  some girls probably don't.  maybe it depends upon who you are with.  i don't like silence either.  my husband is totally comfortable with it.  so, sometimes i speak for him.  i haven't gotten to the  point of switching sides at the table - but, when he's in a a talkative mood i enjoy it.  when he talks, he'll talk a lot and discuss.  and, when he's quiet, i know he's thinking about things and will probably not hear what i'm saying.

something i notice is that men like it when you can back up every statement with facts.  i would drivel for a paragraph and then my husband would make a simple three word sentence asking 'why is that?'  or 'what makes you think that?'  and, then i would have to think for a while.  it does quiet the situtation.  so then, i ask him 'what do you think.'  usually he's right.  anway - i didn't really marry him for just the facts - but he's made me be more thoughtful and he's got a huge vocabulary. 

 

[emmdoubleew]

You know, the only way to know for sure if you have something going on is to ask him out (and don't get your friend to do it  ) if he's into you, he'll go for it, if not, time to move on  .

[pianistimo]

this lady on comedy central just said "make sure if a guy likes you, that he doesn't own a car.  that way, if you break up - it guarantees he won't be stalking you."

[thalbergmad]

this lady on comedy central just said "make sure if a guy likes you, that he doesn't own a car.  that way, if you break up - it guarantees he won't be stalking you."

You can stalk on a bike.

[jas]

You can stalk on a bike.

Stalking someone with a shiny green bike helmet on lacks a certain something, though.

Jas

[amojoam]

i did.

[alessandro]

Dear,
I hope that the need for an answer for your question wasn't too urgent...

I can reasonably say that every guy likes you, if it's a guy. But don't you mean 'How do I know if this guy Loves me' ? And then the answer is "Yes, he loves you."

Good luck.

Kindly