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Offline ballade

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piano teacher humiliation
on: November 22, 2003, 01:48:42 PM
hi
I'm a 16 year old currently aiming for a diploma in the piano in March. I am in full-time education and recently have been having serious problems with my family and haven't been able to do as much practise as I would like.
My piano teacher, however, hasn't been helping with comments such as "you don't enjoy music" which are hurtful to say the least. I practised as hard as possible over my half-term break, but all that happened when I brought the pieces back to my teacher was that he shouted at me for not having finished them earlier, when what I was trying to do was make a fresh start. Now, after I thought things were getting better, he emailed me saying that if I had too much work we shouldn't have lessons anymore. I told him that I had no intention of that, and that I promised to start working harder from now (which I do), and he seemed ok with that. But now I'm terrified of the next lesson - I practised this weekend four hours a day, did none of my homework and have a constant tense and nervous feeling about my next lesson, in case what I've done isn't good enough.
My problem is that I have asian parents, who are extremely pushy and work-oriented - and when my  piano report comes home this christmas, (because my piano teacher will certainly have already written it and said that I've put in no effort, which isn't really true) they will certainly make my life a complete misery.
I don't know what to do. I love the piano and have been trying as hard as I can. I can't change teacher because of my parents. And it's not like I can do anything about his report of me.
Any advice?
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Re: piano teacher humiliation
Reply #1 on: November 22, 2003, 02:19:27 PM
You need a new teacher - your current one clearly isn't good for you! Whereabouts in the UK are you studying?
Ed

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Re: piano teacher humiliation
Reply #2 on: November 22, 2003, 04:36:43 PM
It sounds like a lot of the enjoyment of music might be missing. You can't be motivated to practice unless you love what you're doing.

I could never understand piano teacher who use fear and yelling as motivations. Those are the ones who can't teach. Nor can they communicate the beauty of music in a way that can use that as a motivation and inspiration.

Well, the best solution would be to find a different teacher, but you say that is impossible because of your parents. I would still urge you to try to convince your parents that this teacher is not helping you. Points possibly in your favor: 1) If you are not improving it's not just your fault, the teacher has to share some of the blame. 2) You want to do well in your diploma exams next year and you are not confident that this teacher will bring you to your full potential. 3) Your parents are paying for this teacher, and is the cost - your tuition fees - worth the benefit - the little you are getting out of this teacher - in line, or would the cost/benefit be more in line with another teacher (sorry to sound like a management consultant).

Other things you could do: research what other teachers are in your area. Talk to other piano students about their experiences with their teachers. Discuss your progress with your teacher in terms of the Cristmas report that you dread. Tell your teacher that you expect your recent harder work to be reflected and noted in your report.

Also, make sure you manage your time efficiently. Map out times you practice piano, and times you study other subjects. Don't freak out about having a lot of things to do. Have a positive attitude, and tackle each task one at a time.  While you are doing this, make sure you practice every day even if you don't have as much time as you want.

Good luck, and if I can think of anything else, I'll post it.
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Re: piano teacher humiliation
Reply #3 on: December 02, 2003, 08:57:22 AM
ballade just wondering, what level of difficulty do you play right now?  Can you list some pieces you are practicing?  Just wanna check, I know that you are aiming for a diploma, but newayz, the urgency and need to switch teachers is even greater if you are practicing higher level pieces, because not only do they take a long time to practice and learn, but with a crummy teacher, it might just destroy another great piece of music.

So, like what Hmoll said, better to switch teachers.  Perhaps you need to sort out matters with your family, because you seem to have some problems going on around that you said is reducing your practice time. And your teacher is really mean too, is he any good at the piano?  

Sorry got kinda off-topic there, but wish you best of luck for achieving your piano diploma and your education.

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Re: piano teacher humiliation
Reply #4 on: December 12, 2003, 09:38:39 PM
thanks for all the replies guys.
Things are better with my teacher now - I did some serious practising and things are back on track. I'm just worried about the report and my parents' reactions, but at least i'm not worried about its implications anymore.
You asked what level I'm at : Right now I'm learning:
Beethoven Moonlight Sonata, all movements
Chopin Scherzo no. 4
Dohnanyi concert etudes 5 and 6
Tchaikovsky concerto no. 1, first movement (but i havent practised it since the summer!!)
I just find it hard to practise as much as I need because I'm 16 and in my A-level years.
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