Women

[Siberian Husky]

Does anyone know why most women are so fond of playing mind games with men? Even though the two are close friends?

[leucippus]

Personally I think it would be really cool to find a woman who's intelligent enough to play mind games with me and actually get away with it. 

[leahcim]

s/enough/at all

[pianistimo]

if a man asks a woman what's wrong and then doesn't listen - she is apt not to repeat over and over the answer - but simply retaliate in a simple fashion.  no sex for a month.  but, if a man is attractive, he can overcome this by taking off his glasses and looking sorry.  what's the point.  women are always on the losing side.  if a man is truly sorry they are forgiven.  if they are not sorry and do something again and again, they are forgiven.  it is the rare man kicked out on the sidewalk by his wife.  but, it does happen.  probably because he did not fix the garbage disposal or take out the trash.

the mysterious crimes that happen make it look so obvious.  the woman dies falling off a boat.  the man dies from drinking a mysterious drink.  now what really happened.  to find that out, we have to examine phone records.  was the number based in florida?  was the girl an airline stewardess with no mailing address?  was the guy an insurance salesman?  i don't know the answers to these questions.  i think it is a basic flaw to assume anything and that point blank questions are needed.

of course, going round about the question might be the solution for the liar.  but, a person who is interested in keeping a relationship going will probably say 'honey, i have to tell you something.  that kiss in the livingroom meant nothing to me (she'll think it's her you're talking about - and then get really mad).  imo, the worst thing a man can do is ignore a woman's feelings.  if she feels she is not #1 - then she will look for ways to prove it.  but, if a man keeps telling her that she is wrong and then proving it by coming home when he can early, giving her a lot of undivided attention, asking her to go with him places, etc. - there can be no doubt in her mind that he's truly her's.   phone calls during the day are nice, too.  (preferably no female voices in the background)

i would say that from my perspective - if mates spend a lot of time together - there is no time for anyone else anyway.  and, if you share everything - you'd know in no time flat anwway. 

[leahcim]

if a man asks a woman what's wrong and then doesn't listen - she is apt not to repeat over and over

Why does she blather on and on about stuff he didn't ask and doesn't want to hear then?

[pianistimo]

at least pretend to listen when a woman is 'blathering' and you'll get a good score that way.  for instance, with my husband - i never bother asking particular questions afterwards to see how closely he was listening.  the listening is all that counts.  if i told him that so and so was coming tommorrow - i'd make sure and remind him the next day.  but, somehow he has this amazing ability to actually hear what i say and do something else at the same time.  typing at the keyboard, reading, watching tv. 

but, some things call for undivided attention.  if it is something your mate is angry about - you, by all means, should definately stop what you are doing.  otherwise, things may get messy. 

[leahcim]

at least pretend to listen when a woman is 'blathering' and you'll get a good score that way. 

Yeah, to be serious for a moment. I can concentrate on stuff, especially the computer screen, so that no external noise will distract me. So I genuinely don't hear what people are saying if they don't get my attention first.

It's not beyond the wit of a small male child to notice that you have to hit Dad and / or shout in his ear first though, so why is it so difficult for a much older female?

[Mozartian]

Does anyone know why most women are so fond of playing mind games with men? Even though the two are close friends?

Actually, I've lately been wondering the same thing about men.

 

[thalbergmad]

Women do this, because they are so chemically imbalanced.

You will probably note that the mind games invariably take place at the same time as the "red wedge" or "Aunt Flo" paying a visit.

It is best to ignore them during this period, if you will excuse the pun.

Thal

[jpianoflorida]

how about we say that EVERYONE plays games at one time or another!   we all do, we must admit it..maybe not as extreme as some..but think about it...didn't you ever "play a game" to get something you wanted?

[lagin]

Haha, at least I know it's not me cause I haven't been on AIM in forever!  

[mycrabface]

Does anyone know why most women are so fond of playing mind games with men? Even though the two are close friends?

i used to have this nasty habit of making eye contact with men in the trains or shopping malls or... i dunno? anywhere? but mostly trains... LOL IT WAS FUN!!

[pianistimo]

yeah.  first you make eye contact.  smile really nice.  then ignore them the rest of the time.  it drives them crazy.  i do that to my neighbor around the corner.  i go past and he's still waving and i'm like - i didn't even see you.  but, i think he's a biker - so nothing really gets to bikers.  i never let him know when i'm going to wave back.  (unfortunaely, i cannot afford to wave at him.  he's blond and looks like he stepped out of some kind of biker magazine.  and, he has a son.  last time they were playing tag football in the front yard.  i don't want his son to think i'm hitting on him).  and, even if i were - what would i do.  go over and compliment him on his lawn mowing.

[debussy symbolism]

Greetings.

As we are on the topic, I think it is important to recall the forumer that did these kind of "mind games", or should I say, "forum games" a while ago. Does that ring a bell?

In my opinion, women play "mind games" for the sole reason of attention. See, when a man wants a woman, he will go against all odds to let her know, perhaps via whistling, making raucus, etc. A women isn't going to do that, she is going to hint to a man of her demands. I think that Pocorina would be a of a textbook quality when it comes to mind games, because she embodied exactly that, a textbook mind game. She wanted attention, most probably from males, and she did so quite succesfully up until the denouement of her plot. Oh well, perhaps this was just a lucky example. What are your thoughts?

[prometheus]

It happened only once with many female forum members in the many years this forum has been in existance.

[Siberian Husky]

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[pita bread]

Haha, at least I know it's not me cause I haven't been on AIM in forever!  

Yeah, seriously, where have you been?

[lagin]

Everytime I go on there you're off line!  And I don't want to stay visible on there all the time because I don't want to talk to everyone that's on my list because sometimes I end up with a few people on the go at once, and I don't like multitasking conversations.  So I keep sneaking up there, making myself invisible really quick, and then finding like nobody I want to talk to is online.   So I end up giving up!  Okay, I'm going on there right now.  Somebody better be there!

[lagin]

See, I told you!  Nobody home!