How to approach a girl

[jpianoflorida]

but "better to haved loved and lost, than never to have loved"       .      That statement always sounds stupid to me, BUT it is TRUE!   I can attest to that.

[debussy symbolism]

So hard to find a pretty face. Everywhere I go and everywhich face I set my eyes on, I get the feeling that people that ugly should be living in a trash can. Joking aside, I can safely say that a beautiful face doesn't come around often. Am I the only one here that has this opinion?

[jpianoflorida]

well....remember "beauty is in the eye of the beholder"      .                       What you say is pretty may not be to me.

[ada]

uh, how old is your friend, Iambetterthen(sic)you?

Why don't you get your parents to ask her parents to let her come over and play one day 

No, seriously possum, write her a little anonymous note saying you think she is nice. Try and walk home from school with her. Sit with her in the playground. See if she came come round for dinner.


Don't serenade her with piano just yet, that's a little too mini-Tim Hoffman...

[pianowolfi]

Don't serenade her with piano just yet, that's a little too mini-Tim Hoffman...

Haha this guy seems to have left a long lasting impression on you.

maybe he is an archetype, created by the flying spaghetti monster?
long live the pasta!

[ihatepop]

maybe he is an archetype, created by the flying spaghetti monster?
long live the pasta!

And out with the porridge.

ihatepop

[thalbergmad]

Remember that girls are like a Stradivarius.

Beautiful music with strings attached.

Thal

[imbetter]

Thanks guys, more good advice. Ada, you are one of the few people on this post that have posted possitive comments. Thank your Ada

[ahinton]

Thanks guys, more good advice. Ada, you are one of the few people on this post that have posted possitive comments. Thank your Ada

Yes - she can do that well; glad you've appreciated this! I can't offer you any advice, I fear (for which I apologise), but you have at least had some from other sources that I think you're finding useful anyway.

Best,

Alistair

[prometheus]

I just wanted to add that my comment wat meant to be positive.

You should do what you think you should do. But do realise that you are a person that is 11 years old which means your body, and your mind, will change drastically before you become an adult.

Maybe it is actually a good idea to have a serious interest in the opposite sex. I said that it wasn't but I now realise that I shouldn't be so sure.

Romance is a thing most humans fail at most of the time. Of course that's a step further. But whatever you do be considerate, unselfish and keep your senses open and learn from the experience.

[imbetter]

I'll keep that in mine Prometheus

[le_poete_mourant]

don't move to fast.  give her time to get to know you first, you her, and then you can spring the trap. 

[imbetter]

Thanks guy, but after I got to know here, I've come to the conclusion that she's not my type of person and she has no appearant interesting in me. But thanks anyway.

[ada]

Thanks guy, but after I got to know here, I've come to the conclusion that she's not my type of person and she has no appearant interesting in me. But thanks anyway.

Hey you gotta get wise to the games girls can play.

When I was about your age there was a boy who really liked me and I secretly liked him.  But I would have been teased by my friends if I admitted, it so I was really mean to him and pretended I didn't like him. I think I hurt his feelings a lot  and you know what? I still feel bad about it today

But don't take it all too seriously. I think, maybe, just maybe, there might be a few more girls waiting for you in the years ahead.

possibly 

[thalbergmad]

Thanks guy, but after I got to know here, I've come to the conclusion that she's not my type of person and she has no appearant interesting in me. But thanks anyway.

There must be something wrong with her then.

Have you told her that you are only 11 and can play Islamey?

Thal

[ahinton]

There must be something wrong with her then.

Have you told her that you are only 11 and can play Islamey?

Thal

Dear me! The Thalbergmad recipe for "How To Approach A Girl". I hate to say it, but I think it might just have to be back to Nigella, folks...

Best,

Alistair

[imbetter]

The only thing I've ever played for her is chopins nocturne op.9 no.2. she doesent know i can play islamey and she never will.

Did you know vladimir feltsman was playing with a full orchastra wen he was 11?

[debussy symbolism]

Hey you gotta get wise to the games girls can play.

When I was about your age there was a boy who really liked me and I secretly liked him.  But I would have been teased by my friends if I admitted, it so I was really mean to him and pretended I didn't like him. I think I hurt his feelings a lot  and you know what? I still feel bad about it today

But don't take it all too seriously. I think, maybe, just maybe, there might be a few more girls waiting for you in the years ahead.

possibly 

And maybe, just that slight maybe will you ever get a hint of manliness in some years ahead Ada.

possibly.

[jpianoflorida]

The only thing I've ever played for her is chopins nocturne op.9 no.2. she doesent know i can play islamey and she never will.

Did you know vladimir feltsman was playing with a full orchastra wen he was 11?

just keep balance in your life! If someone works so hard at piano and they are a genious at 11, it might be a good thing! but if it totally isolates them and they turn into a musical genious but yet an introverted, nonsocial, unhappy person, then it's not worth it.      You must have balance in your life. Always remember that.  You can be the smartest person in the world and be miserable.      Ok, not sure where this lecture from jay came from, but here it is!    Be happy!

[dnephi]

I didn't start liking girls 'til I was 13-14.  Teeheehee..

Just be nice.

Don't tell her you can play Islamey- (Which I doubt, just a bit :p) tell her you can play Ligeti's "The Devil's Staircase"

[thalbergmad]

she doesent know i can play islamey and she never will.

She is probably in the minority then.

[dnephi]

She is probably in the minority then.

Thal wonders how successful I have been, given the fact that I am over 1900 years old.

[mycrabface]

P.S. After we become "aquinted" I'm going to play her Listz's Valse-Caprices No.6 to impress her

Err I don't think that's gonna work cos someone who liked me tried to romance me by playing me some song called romance on violin and it was creepy. You know who.. (on my other thread)
Just tell her straight. If she dosen't fancy you, both of you can just get on with your lives. Don't bother her and she won't bother you and your life time won't go to waste. But if she likes you then well its okay, you can finally ask her out without feeling weird. Sorry I haven't read the whole thread yet so I might have repeated what others may have said.

[ahinton]

It has been reliably documented that the pianist English pianist Ronald Smith (1922-2004) - who was reckoned by many of those who knew him to be destined for the life of a permanent bachelor - wooed his wife-to-be, in front of witnesses, by playing Alkan's Allegro Barbaro; notwithstanding this, the marriage was a most successful and happy one, by all accounts...

Best,

Alistair

[mycrabface]

It has been reliably documented that the pianist English pianist Ronald Smith (1922-2004) - who was reckoned by many of those who knew him to be destined for the life of a permanent bachelor - wooed his wife-to-be, in front of witnesses, by playing Alkan's Allegro Barbaro; notwithstanding this, the marriage was a most successful and happy one, by all accounts...

Best,

Alistair

It depends on whether the girl likes the idea of song-playing or not, and whether the girl likes the boy or not.

[ahinton]

It depends on whether the girl likes the idea of song-playing or not, and whether the girl likes the boy or not.

True - in the case of Ronald Smith, however, he was already in his 40s, I think - and, however unlikely this may have seemed, it obviously worked!

Best,

Alistair

[lmpianist]

far be it from me to offer advice on this topic  but just a thought that comes to mind: try not to make piano the centerpoint of the relationships you pursue.  Your friend should get to know you for who you are, and unless you are completely and utterly obsessed with piano and nothing else (hopefully you aren't!), she'll be missing out on a lot.  The fact that you play will probably interest many girls; the fact that you can play Islamey will matter to few of them.  good luck!

[debussy symbolism]

I am positive that most girls, and pretty much all girls his age are interested only in the "cool" qualities of their boyfriends. Any amorous relationships at that age are simply ephemeral and will break under practically any conceived "uncool" circumstance.

[mycrabface]

far be it from me to offer advice on this topic  but just a thought that comes to mind: try not to make piano the centerpoint of the relationships you pursue.  Your friend should get to know you for who you are, and unless you are completely and utterly obsessed with piano and nothing else (hopefully you aren't!), she'll be missing out on a lot.  The fact that you play will probably interest many girls; the fact that you can play Islamey will matter to few of them.  good luck!

Huh he plays Islamey?

[frustrated_pianist]

well..
the only method that worked for me are the late night phone calls.
sometimes, talks can go up to 5 in the morning.
you'll be tired, but it'l be worth it.

if you guys do the phone call thing again the next day,
you got her.

if there's some resistance on her part.
she doesn't like you.

AANDD!! about the piano. It's a pretty good weapon, but it can backfire.
be humble when you talk about piano.

don't be a show off.

[pianistimo]

five in the morning!  i'd think you'd have to pay for that.

[wishful thinker]

Just because I'm younger then you all doesen't mean I can't act mature.

But you can't spell, can you, "imbetterthenyou"?  The word you're looking for is than 

[arbisley]

I think that's already been pointed out to him many a time....

I'm 16 and still have to face the fact that my mind works overtime making things up which aren't true because I'm actually not completely mature, even though some say I have the mentality of a 30-year old, my girlfriend for instance

She is the first one I've had, and it was all her enticing which got us together. All the girls I wanted to go out with before I found to be too stupid, but we were friends for a whole year before actually going out, so I don't think we'll break up that soon... But at the end of the year I'm probably going to move to New Zealand, so that will be the end of that She plays the violin, but I can't persuade her to enjoy playing the piano yet Maybe I should give her an inspiring lesson without being arrogant and just full of creative and musical content, then she would start enjoying what you can get out of it.

meanwhile getting freaked out at not seeing her for 4 weeks....

Yeah, I would second that going for a girl purely for "romance" is not necessarily a good thing and can have very, very bad consequences, but if it works, all the better!

[thalbergmad]

She is the first one I've had

Well done old boy.

Did the earth move?

Thal

[annoying_airhead]

Be nice.  Or at the very least, pretend to be.  =)

[thalbergmad]

Be nice.  Or at the very least, pretend to be.  =)

Treat them mean, keep them keen.

Thal

[arbisley]

Well done old boy.

Did the earth move?

Thal

The typical reaction I get from guys "Well done" sometimes even followed by a handshake. the girls just go "Oh how cute!" all the time... little aside....

The earth didn't actually move, because I had pulled a girl before and thought naturally I was going to go out with her, but she just buggered off

And this one is far more sensitive, so it's taking a while, but it's getting closer and closer....

[thalbergmad]

And this one is far more sensitive, so it's taking a while, but it's getting closer and closer....

Yeh, it takes longer to get sensitive women between the sheets.

Gotta do a lot of pre work.

Thal

[arbisley]

I didn't mean it quite in that way you perveted old boy!

[thalbergmad]

I didn't mean it quite in that way you perveted old boy!

Whats a pervete?

[arbisley]

perverted: it's a refined term, or euphemism, for someonewho has a sick and twisted mind who thinks in a rather disgusting wy about things.

Of course, I´m sorry for my flowery language, and it was a sarcastic comment!

[rebby]

right,
If u tell agirl how u feel there are two realistic possibilities.
1... she can fall into ya arms and be happy and all that,
or...
2... she can give u a long lecture about how u shouldn't have done it and she will tell evry one in school and your entire world will collapse in front of u.

Now i know this cos i AM a girl, and i have done it to many a boy, so be care full lil boy.

Rebby xx

[thalbergmad]

right,
If u tell agirl how u feel there are two realistic possibilities.

In my experience, you should never tell a girl how you feel.

I told my last girlfriend that she was fat, ugly and smelt like a rhino and it led to some unpleasantness.

Never show your full hand.

Thal

[franzliszt2]

Get drunk, and stagger towards them, and introduce yourself as Lord Merrybeer is the best way to do it.

[thalbergmad]

Get drunk, and stagger towards them, and introduce yourself as Lord Merrybeer is the best way to do it.

NO NO NO, never approach a girl when drunk. Even a complete mingah can look like Pamela Anderson after a few sherberts. You might regret it in the morning.

Pretending to be a Lord might work with the "Hooray Henry" types.

Thal

[mad_max2024]

I think a better approach would be to get the girl drunk

[shortyshort]

Just be sure she like likes you. If she's drunk, she's under age. you don't want to marry a drunkard. women get very srange when drunk. you don't want to go there at 11 years old, (imbeterthanme)

Shorty

[thalbergmad]

I think a better approach would be to get the girl drunk

Too expensive old boy.

[annoying_airhead]

But then it really depends how many she can handle, before she gets tipsy.

[m1469]

I'm kinda thinkin' that maybe people ought not to even bother approaching