First of all, I was just wondering if anyone has any experience with the ta-ka-di-mi system of counting rhythms? I found when we switched to it in college sight-reading rhythms became a million times easier. Not sure why, but it seems easier to say and it has a very nice system of division so that threes and twos line up, allowing students to easily learn two against three cross-rhythms.
I also wanted to say that I never count, not even when learning new music. However, I do not doubt that I could do so, as I did learn on piano that way. But I also started my music education as a member of the chorus, joined the band as soon as I was old enough, and was playing bass keyboard in the middle school jazz band within three years of beginning lessons. So perhaps the fact that many adults learn music in an isolated setting such as a private lesson has to do with the problem. Has anyone tried teaching piano using pieces where the teacher provides an accompaniment to the student's playing? My pre-college teacher did this with her new students and I'm sure that's how she began students on the piano (she was not my first teacher).
I also think that part of the problem in general is beginning with an incorrect concept of how the body plays the piano. It's been mentioned in several posts above the idea that students feel that their hands are disconnected from their head. Of course. It baffles me why the parts of the mechanism that do the least amount of work get the most attention, and the ones that do the most work aren't examined until the student becomes "advanced". Think about it. The most a finger does is press a key down. It simply relaxes to let the key come up, it does not even make an active "up" motion on its own. The hand may also move down, and it may expand at the palm to shape chords. Very few motions, considering the many that are made at the piano. Why do we start at the periphery? This seems as though it could be why students can't feel the rhythm, because they think playing only happens in the hand and the fingers. Who can blame them? That's all we ever talk about, hands and fingers. How do the fingers get to where they're supposed to be? The upper arm of course, in combination with the torso at extremes of the keyboard. Chords can be played with the upper arm, forearm, hand, but they are never played with the fingers, and rarely with the hand. So what is the problem to me? We start students off on pieces where the hand does not need to leave its initial position. Therefore, they have no sensation whatsoever of the role that the upper arm plays in placement of the mechanism. They learn to locate and press the keys first with the fingers, when they should be learning first how to do so with the upper arm and forearm.
One final question: to what extent do you use listening as a part of your instruction? All types, listening to recordings of music, teacher-demonstrates-student-imitates sort of listening, improvisation sort of listening?