Well, it doesn't really matter if you undestand it or not. But, to me, db05 has no interest actually in what I say nor actually whether or not I try to help her when she asks me questions (or questions on the forum in general). That's fine, but I have spent a good deal of time and energy carefully wording my responses to her in order to be sensitive to whatever her situation is. I understand this is the internet and all, but at the same time, after a time, it gets pretty old anyway if it is obvious that my efforts are not of value to either of us. Fine, so I stop. We have some little run in where I ask her to stop calling me "ma'am" and she doesn't, and from my perspective, is deliberately striving to push my buttons ... fine, it only pushes my buttons if I let it, but that one thing tells me a lot about her character or how my own experience on the forum matters to her. I informed her in private that I will stop giving responses to her posts as I felt they were not helpful, and she proceeds to try to bring a shroud of mystery to mine and her interaction in public then, as though she has been so terribly wronged and can't imagine what has transpired to bring on this horrible misfortune in her life. Well, I had explained it.
It might be one thing if I were still posting under the name "M." but I am not. I have students here as well, and they can potentially read what others write about me here, too. So, yes, to have some character acting in public as though I have wronged them and they have no idea what to do about that is a bit abnoxious, on top of the fact that I had actually put quite a bit of my energy into trying to help her. That should be understandable.
I have communicated in private with her, and that is fine, but I don't have a desire to develop a friendship with her nor any other kind of "relationship" with her, and I do feel that whatever I am or have been is not enough for her. Well, that's fine, those are her feelings. It is bothersome to have her following me talking to me about "M." and such, and to act as though she knows me enough as a person to tell me who I am. Firstly, UNLESS she is somebody whom actually knows me and is masquerading as somebody whom does not, then she doesn't actually know me. And, if she IS somebody whom knows me but is acting like she acts towards me (over the course of months), then that person is welcome to have the same words I gave to db05 for acting as she has to me, especially if it is somebody whom knows me in real life.
I asked her to leave me alone, and really no matter what the reason, that should ultimately be enough. But, it wasn't. Probably sometime down the road I may feel differently, but for now I would like her to leave me alone. Simple.
Topic: How Do You Solve a Problem Like Maria?