You mention Steinway. You mention wanting a grand. You mention paying a bit more for the right one. You could do a lot worse than getting a new Steinway S, using the 20K+ as a deposit, looking for a dealer closing down in the recession just wanting to shift stock. Aim for 60% of list at a guess?Plan B, fix your upright yourself, tune it, repair the action. Learn what can and can't be corrected first hand. Use this expertise to rule out many of the 100s of used pianos you see. Try over 30 before seriously considering any. You could post pictures of the problems on your piano here.I think you need to consider new German if you are thinking 80+ years life. A new S, with smaller sound board than a longer model might keep the crown better, and just need 1 set of new strings. Second hand Japanese is unlikely to give another 80 years.
richard black:Are you saying no matter what I buy, it won't last more than a 20-30 years?
that's the _minimum_ you should be able to expect out of a new or well-restored piano, before it needs major work. It's true that Steinway pianos hold their value better than practically any other brand. But then that makes them expensive for _you_ to buy too! I bought a very old (but well restored) Bechstein grand not many years ago and it's lovely. I don't expect to sell it so I don't care what its resale value is: on the other hand, it cost me embarrassingly little.
Why has Richard got two pianos (I'm guessing in the same house) if they are both so good?
Your first major problem is being able to identify a well restored piano