Am i playing too rough?

[jacquelai]

I've stopped playing my piano for more than 10 years. I had my diploma in performance cert. However, the Yamaha Upright Piano that i have at home, which was bought some time in 1980, seems to produce very loud and noisy noise whenever my hands are on them.

My sister was a player too. However, i was told that when sis's playing, it's not as noisy and loud. Why? My mom, who doesn't really has any music background, thinks that i should play it lighter or softer, and she thinks that my hands are too heavy and that i'm playing it rough. But if i played the normal tempo soft, i feel as if my fingers are in the air. How should i play it again if there's the part where i have to play it even softer?

I am wondering if our hands or wrists position matters? I noticed that my sis's playing with her wrists dropping downwards and somehow, she's not using the finger tips to play. Whereas, i used my fingertips to play and my wrist are up. Is that the reason why she always play in softer mode while i'm on the louder mode?

I wished someone who can tell me where the problem lies. I stopped playing piano, because members at home think that it's so noisy and they don't seem to appreciate the music i played, hence, i lost my interest. But recently, my interest is back. I never stop loving my piano... i just love it, but i avoid playing when someone's around now.

[keyboardclass]

I teach two brothers, they are chalk and cheese.  They both began with me about 4 years ago.  The younger one struggled with reading while the older has always leaped ahead there.  The difference in touch is the reverse.  The younger is naturally very sensitive - you could almost say his touch is different even though they had identical teaching.  The older is just more aggressive and overbears the piano, the younger goes with it.

[jacquelai]

Hi, Sorry, but do you mean that there's nothing to do with wrist position or playing on finger tips or not, but it's just because i'm playing it in a strong, heavy and aggressive way? I remember when i was in class previously, my teacher always want me to play it louder (certain parts) when i went for practising or class, which as a matter of fact, i was playing the way it was like i played at home.

[keyboardclass]

Hi, Sorry, but do you mean that there's nothing to do with wrist position or playing on finger tips or not, but it's just because i'm playing it in a strong, heavy and aggressive way?

Playing in a 'strong, heavy and agressive way' means poor consideration of such as  wrist positions, fingertips etc, though much of it on a nonconscious level.  To every action there is always an equal and opposite reaction and it's with the reaction that your consciousness should reside.