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Ever had the feeling that there is a group of people wanting to harm you? (Read 1137 times)

Offline jogoeshome

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I live iin london and I finid most people always look for excuuses to make my life a nightmare.. Its ridiculous, like my Landlord, my boss, my colleagues in Uni. I wonder why they do that?? Example: went to a job interview and my CV said that I had experience in excel, microsoft offceetc. A few days later they called and I got the job part time. Its been months and all they give me is excell spreadsheet boring work. Then I went to speak to them my boss replied "well, you said on your CV you had experience with that, so if that is what you are selling that is what you got". I mean ffs, am I insane or is everyone around me insane??

Offline j_menz

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I live iin london and I finid most people always look for excuuses to make my life a nightmare..

I doubt most of them care enough to go to that much trouble.
"What the world needs is more geniuses with humility. There are so few of us left" -- Oscar Levant

Offline Bob

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Did you ever... get the feeling, that... you know, people... who are out to get you... might be right behind you.  Right now.  Right. Behind.  You.  Now.   Don't look! Don't look!  They'll just disappear....  And then come back again.... Watching you... from back there..... Watching...


They're probably all doing their own thing, not watching out for you.  If your boss said that they're not that interested in helping you grow and develop skills. It's a part-time job too.  They're probably trying to save money. 

You could find ways to do new things that help you and help them at the same time.  And make it obvious that you're looking for something new to do.  Of course it's going to get old doing the same thing the same way over and over.  Excel things can be automated, if you're not already doing that.  Or cross-train with someone else.  Interesting for you, good for the company if two people can do the same job.

If you're letting people walk over you, stop.  If your landlord breaks terms on the lease, call them on it and continue to follow what you originally agreed to.  If they raise the rent, you can always move -- But you can let them know ahead of time.  It's their choice if they want to raise the rent, but if they do, you'll probably have to leave, and you'd like to stay, but...  Be assertive without being a jerk.  Toss the bs back in their court and them deal with it. 

Landlord, boss, colleagues... even the Uni... It all sounds like it's money and work related.  The university is trying to make money off you too.  You can get screwed even if you do everything they say and you do well at it. 

Maybe clarify expectations.  Have a plan.  Know where you want to go and what's acceptable or not.  Bargain a little, like rent thing.  Learn to say no without insulting someone. That type of thing.  There are ways to spin things that will not insult or will put the emphasis on the other person so they're the bad guy if they make the wrong decision.  "I'd like to help, but I'm really busy and want to do a good job.  You don't still want me to work on that do you?"  I wouldn't say that to a boss, but maybe to a colleague. To a boss, I'd say, "That's probably going to take x amount of time.  I can either do x and focus on doing a good job on that, or I continue doing y which we've already agreed I should work on, but I won't be able to do x then.  Let me know which way you want me to go on this."  You don't exactly say no and you put the decision back on the other person. 


For your current job, if you're bored with it, start asking for other stuff to work on.  Other areas, anything.  You could even (tactfully) tell your boss you need something new to keep you fresh, that you're starting to feel stale on what you're working on.  If your boss is smart, they'll keep your work interesting.  Because if they don't... What happens?  You get bored and leave.  You take a job that is more interesting.  The boss has to hire and retrain someone.  (So why not just train you to do more stuff anyway?)  Then again, you're part-time.  They may have created an extremely easy job where people are easily trained and replaced.  If it's a brainless job, try to bring in something else you can work -- ie Try to practice while you work.  Listen to music.  Study something.  Get your mind active on things that benefit you instead of devoting yourself solely to the work.  Or don't work as hard.  Most people can't tell the difference if you're working hard or hardly working. 
Favorite new teacher quote -- "You found the only possible wrong answer."

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I live iin london and I finid most people always look for excuuses to make my life a nightmare..

I mean ffs, am I insane or is everyone around me insane??

No, I never get a feeling like that. If I did, I might need some help.
People are mostly just interested in themselves these days.

Offline forte88

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A lot depends on how you perceive things to be. How you label things is how you emotionally react to things and many diseases are psychosomatic, so be very careful what you think. I'd recommend Zinn; Full Catastrophe (google it)

Offline slobone

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As for the job, it's part time, and they have you doing exactly what they hired you to do. As long as they've never promised you that you could move on to something else, I don't think you have much right to complain. Start focusing on taking care of yourself, and don't worry so much about other people's intentions towards you. Nothing succeeds like success.

Offline teran

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People aren't out to get you, life is out to get you.

Offline lloyd_cdb

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People aren't out to get you, life is out to get you.

Truth.

Just give in, accept it.
I've been trying to give myself a healthy reminder: http://internetsarcasm.com/