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Offline sv3nno

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I don't know what i think about the piano anymore. I love it and i hate it at the same time. perhaps it's because i'm sick of playing the same kind of classical music on the same crappy old "piano" for the last 10 years, or maybe it's because neither my old nor my current teacher have ever sent me to any competitions, even though i played very well when i started playing the piano 10 years ago.
My teacher is always like: "you need to love the music you play! come on, you're playing the beethoven's 1st piano concerto, i can't imagine how you can play that with no feeling!" really? beethoven's first piano concerto? even watching the grass grow in my garden would be more exciting. not to talk about the Bach prelude and fugue i'm playing...
What's even worse is that my mom actually thinks that i play well and i can become famous as a pianist (no comment.....) and she got even more motivated after my last successful performance at our school's anniversary... Come on, i was playing Rachmaninoff's c sharp minor prelude... a very very easy piece, no wonder i could play it perfectly... yes, i agree, the ending of the agitato part was a bit more difficult, but i got through it well, because i loved practicing that piece. sadly, i can't say that about my current repertoire: the beethoven concerto and bach prelude and fugue i mentioned before, then, the incredibly tiring and tedious czerny op. 740 no. 4 etude. my hand ALWAYS cramps up, and my piano... oh my god... a 40 year old upright russian piano which goes out of tune almost immediately after it gets tuned, with some keys much more sensitive than others, meaning that those notes always pop up amongst others and ruin whatever piece i'm currently playing. practicing is a nightmare... an incredibly, unexplainably boring every-day routine that i have to do for i don't even f***** know why.
i've tried 10 YEARS to motivate myself to play the piano, i put all my willpower into it, and i failed. everything has a limit, i've depleted all my power supplies and now i can't continue anymore, i'm going crazy, but My parents WON'T let me quit whatever i tell them. my final piano exam is coming in a week and i don't f***** know what to do.
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Offline raen79

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Re: completely unmotivated to keep practice the piano...
Reply #1 on: April 28, 2013, 06:51:12 PM
What would happen if you stop? I mean what would the consequences be, if it is just your parents nagging you and getting mad, then just stop. Talk to them calmly like an adult, without shouting, and tell them you hate it with all your heart. If they are not physically forcing you to play the piano (whether it be corporal punishment or throwing you out of the house), then they can't force you to do so, they will just be disappointed. Otherwise, you can always talk to child services. (Btw, since you are probably a much better player than I am, can you maybe help me with my post?)

Offline m1469

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Re: completely unmotivated to keep practice the piano...
Reply #2 on: April 28, 2013, 07:17:19 PM
You seem perfectly lined up to get into University/Conservatory and for a career to boot - congratulations!  Go ahead and just take your last exam.
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Offline bernadette60614

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Re: completely unmotivated to keep practice the piano...
Reply #3 on: April 29, 2013, 03:09:58 AM
Can you play other pieces you find more interesting after you finish practicing those assigned to you?

I am not at your level, but I always leave some time at the end of a practice session to improvise or to work on a piece I find exciting.

Eat your piano vegetables, and then have some dessert!

Offline rachmaninoff_forever

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Re: completely unmotivated to keep practice the piano...
Reply #4 on: April 29, 2013, 03:47:22 AM
Why don't you try playing stuff you like?
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Re: completely unmotivated to keep practice the piano...
Reply #5 on: April 29, 2013, 04:03:06 AM
Burn all your sheet music, precede it with some kind of ceremony.

Buy oscar petersons "night train" album.

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plan is that you won't need to practice it over and over, rather you'll be able to come up with it all on your own (though that will take a bit (lot) of practice)

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If that doesn't help then maybe you just don't like the piano..   and if it does, classical music will probably come back to you when you're ready in a few years, or decades.

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My parents WON'T let me quit whatever i tell them
You've been playing for 10 years? you must nearly be old enough to not have to listen to them..

Offline 4greatkeyboards

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Re: completely unmotivated to keep practice the piano...
Reply #6 on: April 30, 2013, 01:55:13 AM
I am sad for you. You are at a crises in your career. I hope you will succeed.

But in case you do not know this: you are a young person still with your parents. Youth is your bastion. You can re-try or go another way even if you fail. There are legendary musicians who failed then went on to success: Artur Rubinstein attempted suicide at about age 19, for instance, then went on to become a world-acclaimed performance artist.

Also, you can minor in music and succeed in some other technical endeavor: engineering? Since you can play those pieces you have a technical mind. You could make your money that way but still use it to fund your music life. I did that.

Offline bronnestam

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Re: completely unmotivated to keep practice the piano...
Reply #7 on: April 30, 2013, 07:14:39 AM
You seem to be angry because
- you were not allowed to go to piano competitions  :o  

- you hate your old piano

- you don't like the pieces you are supposed to learn

- you are in a serious power combat with you parents, and you vent your frustration through piano playing, which seems to have becoma a metaphore for some other, underlying issues here.

SOLUTION:

- don't blame those absent competitions. I, for instance, have never been to anyone. I don't know what's the point with them, really.
- get yourself a digital piano of solid quality. They are always well-tuned.
- play what YOU want to play. You are not supposed to "hate" practicing and playing, you are supposed to enjoy it. If you don't like - either you find ways to like it, or you quit. It's your life.
 
- sort out your relation with you parents. If they want a concert pianist in their family, they should become concert pianists themselves. Talk to them, in a mature, self-controlled, calm way, about your dreams, your feelings, your point of view. The one who loses his/her temper first, is the loser.

Forcing someone to practice when they don't want to practice is a major waste of time and energy, and it will kill your motivation in a most effective way. Been there, done that. Maybe you are not meant to play the piano, maybe you have some other interest that is waiting for you, and maybe that's why you don't like playing the piano? Follow your heart. You may very well change your mind about piano playing later on in life, or you may not. What matters is that you do what YOU like to do.  
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