It's all about being in control of the hammer itself. It sounds like your touch needs quite a bit of developmental work!
The ABC's are what you have to start with!
How does one play pianissimo? This may sound like a stupid question but how do you play pianissimo while maintaining a secure touch and not losing touch with the keys or playing with weak fingers?
Its true, my touch and control over the piano has improved an incredible amount since I started the ABC's. Not just pianissimo, but pianississimo and FFF, as well as control and confidence over more intricate spots.When will you post a video on them?
Sometimes, I think we complicate things. I tend to practice my scales, pianissimo. Every day. Whatever technique one struggles with, it takes practice to resolve it. Pianissimo is about being gentle yet firm. It is challenging for me, probably the more challenging of techniques. I practice it with scales, because scales (to me) are very difficult to play ...pianissimo.I like the suggestion very much, to allow your fingers to 'just fall,' as opposed to attacking the keys. That is probably the best way I could imagine describing 'how to' go about learning pianissimo. Or choose only pieces that require mezzo forte, from now on. lol Just kidding.