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Offline nyiregyhazi

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Re: Tell me about your love life
«Reply #150 on: September 10, 2014, 03:43:16 PM »
Check up on her. Just say "Hey, Beautiful! I am really wondering how things are. Are you doing well? I miss seeing your bright smile! Hope this message finds you in a good mood, and I hope to hear back from you! Write me a line..."

You have my permission to send her those exact words.




That would an excellent way to ensure that she starts avoiding him completely, if such expressions are out of character. However that might be for the best. The last thing we should encourage him to be doing is looking at wasting a year of his life waiting for someone who is almost certainly not going to be interested. He needs to wake up to reality and start building real possibilities - not waste his time hoping for the impossible. Even if he wants this girl, the sole chance of getting her when she comes back is to learn to stop obsessing over her and get some practise in with other girls. If he grows as a person and learns some perspective on reality, he may actually grow into a potential prospect for her- by learning to see her as an enticing equal who he'd like to get to know better, rather than as some kind of goddess who he secretly dreams about.

If he wastes a year of his life getting no real world experience but instead lusting after a pipe dream, his chances when she returns are zero. Even if he succeeds in being a pen pal for a year, the odds of more are zero unless he has grown as a person.

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Re: Tell me about your love life
«Reply #151 on: September 10, 2014, 05:21:49 PM »
Those words that I suggested, seem more friendly than like a pickup line, in my opinion. I think these words reflect a man who is appreciative of a woman's beauty (be it a friend, or a new acquaintance) and they do not necessarily mean he is romantically interested, rather than caring and friendly and a gentleman.

But then again. I'm single and happy, and I am very likely to misinterpret any situation of similarity to this particular one.

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Re: Tell me about your love life
«Reply #152 on: September 10, 2014, 05:49:25 PM »
Those words that I suggested, seem more friendly than like a pickup line, in my opinion. I think these words reflect a man who is appreciative of a woman's beauty (be it a friend, or a new acquaintance) and they do not necessarily mean he is romantically interested, rather than caring and friendly and a gentleman.

But then again. I'm single and happy, and I am very likely to misinterpret any situation of similarity to this particular one.



Some people naturally talk that way. Socially shy people usually don't. Personally, I'd feel more uncomfortable speaking in that kind of way than in asking a girl directly on a date. If such words aren't natural to him, it would make the average girl extremely uncomfortable- especially if using someone else's line rather than a sincere equivalent.

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Re: Tell me about your love life
«Reply #153 on: September 10, 2014, 06:16:18 PM »
I'm going to refine this a bit.

Males who are internally focused and not paying enough attention to the other person do this, and males who are socially awkward.

They may be perceived as low value, but this is highly dependent on the milieu.  High school may not be their time, but later they may be seen as highly desirable, good providers who are easy to catch and keep.

If they fall in love with someone they don't even know properly, they are viewed as low value by virtually all women regardless of the explanation. This almost never becomes desirable except to women with low self esteem for are simply desperate to find a mate themself.

The good news is that being shy or awkward in social situations isn't the automatic fail point. It's the fact they fell in love so inappropriately and without being open about interest that is the problem which classes them as low status to women. Shy and awkward men can improve and stop acting like chumps. They have to learn to better themselves first and start developing more inner strength of conviction. But by the time you're in love with someone who you didn't even show signs of interest in, you're a chump in that girls eyes 99.9 percent of the time. It's too late. Strong feelings that develop in a world of internal fantasy rather than through reciprocation of open interest are about as a big a turn off to women as anything can be.

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Re: Tell me about your love life
«Reply #154 on: September 10, 2014, 07:42:45 PM »
I have been following this thread with interest for a while now. Im the dude that said at the beginning of this thread that Im happily married with 2 kids.
 I have to say that I lean towards nyi's ideas. Back in my early 20's I used to have a train of thought similar to coda's. In hindsight it was not only unproductive but unhealthy as well.
This romantic idea that coda has about a secret love, gifts and flowers is only home in one place, movies.
 Dont get me wrong, romance and love do exist but not in the form that this young man is thinking. I really hope this guy can find happiness, but he needs to understand that when a love interest that you barely know starts to continually occupy every thought then that relationship just isnt going to happen.
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Re: Tell me about your love life
«Reply #155 on: September 10, 2014, 07:45:03 PM »
Quote from: nyiregyhazi
Shy and awkward men can improve and stop acting like chumps. They have to learn to better themselves first and start developing more inner strength of conviction. 

that would be the idea.

But there's an easier way.  Buy an electric bass, practice 6 weeks, join a local rock band, have all the groupies you can handle. 
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Re: Tell me about your love life
«Reply #156 on: September 10, 2014, 08:45:30 PM »
Some people naturally talk that way. Socially shy people usually don't. Personally, I'd feel more uncomfortable speaking in that kind of way than in asking a girl directly on a date. If such words aren't natural to him, it would make the average girl extremely uncomfortable- especially if using someone else's line rather than a sincere equivalent.

fair enough :)
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Re: Tell me about your love life
«Reply #157 on: September 10, 2014, 09:37:57 PM »
Those words that I suggested, seem more friendly than like a pickup line, in my opinion.

I did think the opposite myself. I would not use the expression "hello beautiful" myself unless it was an attempted pull.

I usually use "how much".

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Re: Tell me about your love life
«Reply #158 on: September 11, 2014, 12:25:50 AM »
I did think the opposite myself. I would not use the expression "hello beautiful" myself unless it was an attempted pull.

I usually use "how much".

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Oh, dear...

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Here's a little bit more about my love life:

When I am in my room and practicing Bach on my piano, my roommate feels it necessary to knock and ask if I am decent, first. :D
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Re: Tell me about your love life
«Reply #159 on: September 13, 2014, 04:26:48 PM »
I did think the opposite myself. I would not use the expression "hello beautiful" myself unless it was an attempted pull.

I usually use "how much".
So you expect whoever you're asking to be able to quantify her beauty for you, then? Ah, well - it takes all sorts...

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Re: Tell me about your love life
«Reply #160 on: September 25, 2014, 05:18:04 PM »
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Re: Tell me about your love life
«Reply #161 on: October 09, 2014, 01:46:36 PM »
Just chloroform her, tie her up, drag her into an abandoned building. Wait till she wakes up, yell "Surprise!"

 :)

On the other hand, there is a positive side to this. There is nothing I find to be more potent as a motivation, or as energy for sublimation than suppressed libido. I have reached a peak in my creativity. So I am slightly pleased to be sure that my love is unrequited, if we ignore the deep depression this gives me.

Interesting. Allow me to reference this.

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Re: Tell me about your love life
«Reply #162 on: October 09, 2014, 01:54:44 PM »
I think nyiregyhazi's manner of advise to be quite dangerous, especially to people stuck in particularly psychologically serious situations. Of course he will disagree and claim he's trying to "save" us.


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Re: Tell me about your love life
«Reply #163 on: October 10, 2014, 12:06:33 AM »
I think nyiregyhazi's manner of advise to be quite dangerous, especially to people stuck in particularly psychologically serious situations. Of course he will disagree and claim he's trying to "save" us.



Personally, I find it dangerous if people encourage futile fixation on unobtainable love. It's extremely unhealthy. Appreciating what actually attracts women (and the fact that developing yourself as a person, so you don't behave like a creepy stalker, is one of the best ways) is not "dangerous". Living a life of secret obsessions is dangerous.

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Re: Tell me about your love life
«Reply #164 on: October 10, 2014, 05:29:00 AM »
Personally, I find it dangerous if people encourage futile fixation on unobtainable love. It's extremely unhealthy. Appreciating what actually attracts women (and the fact that developing yourself as a person, so you don't behave like a creepy stalker, is one of the best ways) is not "dangerous". Living a life of secret obsessions is dangerous.

Actually it can be much less dangerous than taking action on one's obsessions...no risk of VD...

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Re: Tell me about your love life
«Reply #165 on: October 10, 2014, 08:44:36 PM »
Okay, now that the topic has been bumped again, I'll keep you guys up to date.

No contact at all. I've been avoiding joining a conversation in the Class Whatsapp group chat so that she would not notice me and think about me, since I don't know if I'm just being pessimistic but it probably won't be positively. So I think it's better for me to just stay away from her mind.
It seems that she'll probably have to repeat 10th grade when she comes back, so this means we won't be in the same class anymore. Less hope for me than ever.

I've told my closest friends about this, mostly female, who have been really supportive.
No one could guess it was her and they were quite shocked. Then their responses were like: "Oh, how sweet!" or "Poor you." and none of them found this nor the ring incident creepy. They just told me that let alone what I wa I guess they were actually touched by my childlike innocence, but I don't think any of them found the idea of her being with me realistic. This confession lead to more confessions from two other guys, and we talk about our love lives with girls for some time just about every day.

I can now talk to people and I show less of my egoism. I'm guessing that's good?

I went to the cafe where the party was held two times again, once to compose and once to read poetry all alone. In the meantime I've developed a routine of crying in the shower every day. I no longer touch the piano on weekdays. I just lie in bed for two hours, listening to music and study, rather unwillingly. I've decided to see a psychotherapist. I'll decide what to do when she comes back after speaking with my therapist and friends about that.

Any advices from you guys?

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Re: Tell me about your love life
«Reply #166 on: October 10, 2014, 08:51:57 PM »
Okay, now that the topic has been bumped again, I'll keep you guys up to date.

No contact at all. I've been avoiding joining a conversation in the Class Whatsapp group chat so that she would not notice me and think about me, since I don't know if I'm just being pessimistic but it probably won't be positively. So I think it's better for me to just stay away from her mind.
It seems that she'll probably have to repeat 10th grade when she comes back, so this means we won't be in the same class anymore. Less hope for me than ever.

I've told my closest friends about this, mostly female, who have been really supportive.
No one could guess it was her and they were quite shocked. Then their responses were like: "Oh, how sweet!" or "Poor you." and none of them found this nor the ring incident creepy. They just told me that let alone what I wa I guess they were actually touched by my childlike innocence, but I don't think any of them found the idea of her being with me realistic. This confession lead to more confessions from two other guys, and we talk about our love lives with girls for some time just about every day.

I can now talk to people and I show less of my egoism. I'm guessing that's good?

I went to the cafe where the party was held two times again, once to compose and once to read poetry all alone. In the meantime I've developed a routine of crying in the shower every day. I no longer touch the piano on weekdays. I just lie in bed for two hours, listening to music and study, rather unwillingly. I've decided to see a psychotherapist. I'll decide what to do when she comes back after speaking with my therapist and friends about that.

Any advices from you guys?


You're only in 10th grade?!

Now I feel really terrible, and I give terrible advice.

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Re: Tell me about your love life
«Reply #167 on: October 10, 2014, 09:02:57 PM »
You're only in 10th grade?!

Now I feel really terrible, and I give terrible advice.



Actually should have been 11, so I have known her for two years, but there is an extra grade (prep.) exclusively for language (German or English.) at the top seven high-schools in my country, mine being the third best.
But one year doesn't make much of a difference I guess ;D

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Re: Tell me about your love life
«Reply #168 on: October 11, 2014, 09:47:32 AM »
You no longer play?! Although I never suffered a predicament in the same manner and degree as yours, I would normally think these things would somehow fuel your desire for expression...which includes music.

I'm curious to know whether your feelings here can be described as "depression", or "melancholy" (sorry lack of terms)? Personally I cannot describe "unrequited love" feelings as "depressive"...it is painful, but not "sickening"  (discovery of treason/mistrust/hatred) or truly "tragic" (i.e. loss of a friend/loved one). In this way there is some sort of a warm side to it...perhaps because it entertains the possibility of reciprocation?

I must agree with nyiregihazi's general idea but perhaps he overlooks the possessive and intimate elements of what many call "love" in the "eros" sense. I believe one must never forget that it is this feeling that should establish a person's family and continue our race, therefore it easily and unquestionably goes beyond this "alpha male" bollocks. His ideas seem to me one-sided and lacking depth and may prove effective only in fleeting non-serious/casual relationships. A teenager nearing 20, I have little experience with regards to these matters although I had my share of this kind of disappointments albeit maybe not with the same gravity. However, I completely agree with his last post. Confidence is a must when wooing women, but nyi seems to be banking on the superficial side.

Come on. Love is love. Flowers, gifts, poetry, and the Moonlight Sonata speak for themselves. It is not something to be "planned out" or strategized. I agree with nyi on all points about development but he sort of views the matter as a statistic.

Since you (coda) are probably around the same age as I, I have found your posts somehow fascinating. From a series of frustrations and self-delusions myself I must agree with nyi that reason must be exercised. It has saved me a lot of stress in the long run and has advanced me in maturity. Perhaps you could try to see and judge it from an optimistic perspective exercised by thought.

And here's somehing important I must add; have you sought out advice from mature individuals, like your parents (or other reliable mentors)? This has saved me a lot of predicament and has helped me a great deal in observing the situation. Find adults who care for you and ask their advice. They've been through it the hundredth time. Are the grown-ups in your realm closed-minded or aloof to youthful concerns? I hope not.

Best wishes.

P.S. In light of this, now I must posthomously thank Mr. Vladimir Horowitz, a great soul, whose thunderous, undescribably awesome video performance of the 'Heroic' enlivened me once during a night of despair and self-regret.


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Re: Tell me about your love life
«Reply #169 on: October 11, 2014, 10:10:22 AM »
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No amount of how-to information is going to work if you have the wrong mindset, the wrong guiding philosophies. Avoid losers like the plague, and gather with and learn from winners only.

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Re: Tell me about your love life
«Reply #170 on: October 12, 2014, 12:11:08 AM »
You no longer play?! Although I never suffered a predicament in the same manner and degree as yours, I would normally think these things would somehow fuel your desire for expression...which includes music.

I'm curious to know whether your feelings here can be described as "depression", or "melancholy" (sorry lack of terms)? Personally I cannot describe "unrequited love" feelings as "depressive"...it is painful, but not "sickening"  (discovery of treason/mistrust/hatred) or truly "tragic" (i.e. loss of a friend/loved one). In this way there is some sort of a warm side to it...perhaps because it entertains the possibility of reciprocation?

I must agree with nyiregihazi's general idea but perhaps he overlooks the possessive and intimate elements of what many call "love" in the "eros" sense. I believe one must never forget that it is this feeling that should establish a person's family and continue our race, therefore it easily and unquestionably goes beyond this "alpha male" bollocks. His ideas seem to me one-sided and lacking depth and may prove effective only in fleeting non-serious/casual relationships. A teenager nearing 20, I have little experience with regards to these matters although I had my share of this kind of disappointments albeit maybe not with the same gravity. However, I completely agree with his last post. Confidence is a must when wooing women, but nyi seems to be banking on the superficial side.

Come on. Love is love. Flowers, gifts, poetry, and the Moonlight Sonata speak for themselves. It is not something to be "planned out" or strategized. I agree with nyi on all points about development but he sort of views the matter as a statistic.

Since you (coda) are probably around the same age as I, I have found your posts somehow fascinating. From a series of frustrations and self-delusions myself I must agree with nyi that reason must be exercised. It has saved me a lot of stress in the long run and has advanced me in maturity. Perhaps you could try to see and judge it from an optimistic perspective exercised by thought.

And here's somehing important I must add; have you sought out advice from mature individuals, like your parents (or other reliable mentors)? This has saved me a lot of predicament and has helped me a great deal in observing the situation. Find adults who care for you and ask their advice. They've been through it the hundredth time. Are the grown-ups in your realm closed-minded or aloof to youthful concerns? I hope not.

I have been sleeping for only for two-three hours at night during weekdays since the first day of school, and I just don't have the energy to play. The fact that I have or had been designing my repertoire on the theme of unrequited love isn't helping either. On weekends I still practice for 5-6 hours a day. I compose though, mostly on paper, and indeed much more passionately than ever before.

It actually makes me happy for a brief period to fantasize about the possibility of reciprocation, but this is usually followed by a much longer depressive period after I remember that I won't see her again for quite a long time and notice how my odds of living my "dreams" are close to zero. Even though I seem to be so close to having everything else I want, nothing provides satistaction for me and I just hate myself, my personality and my role in the society.
What's worse is, I'm quite certain I won't be able to get over this or at least experience love so intensely. Even if I get to marry that will be acceptance, not love. Also it would be good to point out that she is for me not like Berlioz' Idée Fixe, but rather Beethoven's Unsterbliche Geliebte.
I accept that what's considered natural for more mature people is what nyi says and his advice would have been great if I were a normal guy with normal social capabilities who is just interested in her, but it's quite the contrary.

I have no one else than my friends, whom I trust to keep this a secret, and you guys to share this. My father doesn't care, and my mother, however supportive she may be at times, is just obsessive about my academic success and I don't want to her to see me as a humane and weak teenager. But they have seen I'm not well and asked if I wanted to see a therapist. They think I'm living an existential crisis, which is partly true, but know nothing of this unrequited love thing.

I'm not sure what I should do when she comes back. I want to confess.
In a private setting with a gift, among mutual friends, or should I ask someone else to tell her about this? What happens after that? I can't guess how she'll react, apart from being surprised, though I'm certain she won't find this and the ring incident creepy.

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Re: Tell me about your love life
«Reply #171 on: October 12, 2014, 01:37:14 AM »
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I must agree with nyiregihazi's general idea but perhaps he overlooks the possessive and intimate elements of what many call "love" in the "eros" sense. I believe one must never forget that it is this feeling that should establish a person's family and continue our race, therefore it easily and unquestionably goes beyond this "alpha male" bollocks.

Quite the opposite. The reason men who obsess over one woman in secret and forget that others exist are seen as beta males is precisely because they DON'T pass on any genes. They're too busy fantasising to do so- hence the beta male thing. It's men who appreciate that there are other women out there, some of whom might actually be obtainable, who continue our race. The fantasists who are too busy being "in love" with women they don't even know properly to explore other avenues are left in the dust and their genes die out.

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Come on. Love is love.

Love is what you feel for someone who have got to know. Unhealthy obsession is what you feel for someone who you don't even know properly.

Seriously, he has to stop and force himself to be rational. We're talking about wasting a year moping around for someone he doesn't even know well, who almost certainly isn't interested that way. Taking a year out unable to function properly, living for nothing but an improbable hope. And then what? What's left after that wasted year if that hope is dashed? Nothing. That's a potential suicide point, in many cases of irrational fantasy. It would be bad enough to wait for a partner for year. The idea of wasting a year of your life obsessing over a "maybe" (or rather "probably not") is too depressing for words. Nobody can afford to let themself be consumed by such a fantasy, or they may never learn to be a prospect for any girl, now or ever.

Which is why he needs to start looking for meaningful hope before he goes crazy. It's available NOW!!! He needs to stop scheming, appreciate that the world is packed full of females and start looking at the ones who might actually be available to him. The thought of a guy wasting a year of his life on this rubbish is too sad to bear. The only happy ending here starts from moving on and looking reality in the eye. Remember that the only chance of getting her when she comes back comes from having developed into a stronger person- which will not come from wasting a year thinking about her and considering nobody else. The only way to do that is to let go and get some real life experience with girls who are in the same country.  However you look at it, there's only one answer- which is to learn to live in the world as it is now and stop fantasising. No other route has a happy ending.

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Re: Tell me about your love life
«Reply #172 on: October 12, 2014, 02:25:52 AM »
You guys are really arguing about love?
point 1: The op is in 10th grade and he is buying rings. Let's hope his credit ends up better than mine, when he turns 22.

point 2: Love only happens for a very small amount of people, very small chance people are actually soul mates. That chance being so small that, this soul mate is probably not even aware of the op's existence and they haven't even seen eye to eye ever.

point 3: Because true love is so nonexistent, everything the op does (besides channeling that energy in positive ways like practice, composition, performance, etc) is just a waste of time and money.


Op, why don't you go back to being a teenager and do normal teenager stuff, like play piano and watch Dragonball Z and play Legend of Zelda?

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Re: Tell me about your love life
«Reply #173 on: October 12, 2014, 05:57:17 AM »
Op, why don't you go back to being a teenager and do normal teenager stuff, like play piano and watch Dragonball Z and play Legend of Zelda?
alternatively, he should subscribe to 'Project Go' and learn some serious pick up skills.

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«Reply #174 on: October 12, 2014, 02:51:57 PM »
alternatively, he should subscribe to 'Project Go' and learn some serious pick up skills.

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Re: Tell me about your love life
«Reply #175 on: November 21, 2014, 09:15:28 PM »
Update:

Started taking antidepressants a few days after my last post. I feel better now and I started playing again. I feel I'm so much more productive than ever before. I am now socially more active and have more confidence, though sleeping problems still persist.

I have had no contact with her, though she joined the Whatsapp group again, and re-followed me on instagram (I used to use someone else's account to stalk ::)), so I think she's not avoiding me. Now that she's back in the group, I hope to joke around when there is a conversation going on.

I must add that now not only my close friends, but more than half of the class knows this. I also learnt yesterday that not even her best friend, who was there when I gave her the gift, knows about the ring. Do you think it's good that she's told no one about that? I'm not sure if she didn't want to humiliate me, is uncomfortable about this, or just doesn't care or was pleased.

The good news is, I'm now closer to her friends, thanks to mutual friends, so when she comes back, I'll have opportunuties to spend time with her, though not alone. Yesterday we went to a pub. I babbled out that I love someone. They were curious to learn whom and tried to guess, but their guesses far-off.

We drunk way too much than we intended. One guy was taken to the hospital, and my friend, with whom I've bought the ring, took me back to the school, where a fest was being held. Appearantly I've talked about how beautiful her hands were for like 20 minutes straight on the way back. My knees still hurt from falling over and over again. At the school I remember vomiting for at least 30 minutes, koalaing a girl and not letting her go, trying to dance to prove that I'm sober and falling down. A friend's dad took me home. I couldn't go to school today. She'll probably hear about this ;D

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Re: Tell me about your love life
«Reply #176 on: November 22, 2014, 03:44:20 AM »
Lol I actually was really into someone for over a year and finally told them how I felt. He laughed at it, and we will probably never see each other again. I used to feel shamed all the time. Luckily, I have no feelings for anyone anymore.

My point is, that even if you feel uncomfortable and things are not great and you guys never get together…and it feels awkward and terrible…it is not the end of the world, even if it feels like it. And the other point is that drinking is really fun, but if you have an addictive personality, then drinking can get really out of control over time, and be careful. Especially if you are on medication.

I sometimes drink 4 to 7 times a week, and that happens when I feel really overwhelmed with emotion or stress. It gets me nowhere.
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Re: Tell me about your love life
«Reply #177 on: November 22, 2014, 04:31:58 AM »
Take the time from the first post until the present... If she's not right, you've waited that long for nothing.
Favorite new teacher quote -- "You found the only possible wrong answer."

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«Reply #178 on: December 09, 2014, 08:30:07 PM »
Update:

One of her good friends (The guy that was trying to guess who it was when we were drunk insistently) learnt this. He was really surprised, but I know he won't tell her since he's a mutual friend.

Yesterday, I uploaded funny pictures of people, including this guy on a fake instagram account I had made in the name of another friend of mine from the class, after her best friends request, as a conversation including her was going on in the WhatsApp group. He told me jokingly that he was threating me and I had one minute to remove the picture. I responded in the same joking manner "Sorry sir, immediately!". Her best friend told me not to, but I said that I was being blackmailed and then removed all the pictures and that was it.

Apparently after that, she asked the guy whose picture I had uploaded
"What trump card do you have against Coda?"
He told her that it was a secret but she insisted by saying:
"Please tell me, I'm wondering. It will be revealed in the next 7 months before I come and find a chance to use it against him anyway. So please, just tell me what it is..." She literally begged him lol.
Instead of telling her, he sent a screenshot of this conversation to me, telling me that probably someone has been leaking information and asking me what I would like him to tell her. I don't think anyone's told her, but he had a fair point by saing that I shouldn't have given the ring and it would be less apparent that I loved her if I asked her if she wanted to have sex with me lol.
Today, in the morning he showed me the rest of the conversation.
Apparently she insisted a little bit more but he managed to change the subject by telling her that it was between guys, and she didn't text him for 3 months and now she is because she needs something.

I obviously don't believe that she was really trying to learn a secret I might have. She was seeking proof. Not that I didn't know that she has understood before, but it makes me uncomfortable that she is so fixed on this. I'm wondering what she would have done if he told her. I had been fine for a few weeks, as my friends told me that the possibility of reciprocation was not low at all, but her behaviour, or rather her phrasing, especially the "It will be revealed anyway" part and the fact that she is not just ignoring this whole deal and me makes me panic.

What do I do now? I want to risk everything a bit further by being more active in the WP group, but the next time she gets another impression of me loving her, it'll probably be the breaking point and she'll want to speak with me, since she thinks it'll be revealed before she comes back. Please consider that I have two more years I'll be classmates with her friends, with whom I'm much closer this year and probably her, and I don't want to have to transfer to another school or lose half of my friends.

I think I'll try to distract myself with the school orchestra and bridge this year.

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Re: Tell me about your love life
«Reply #179 on: December 09, 2014, 11:33:29 PM »
Give it up, coda.

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Re: Tell me about your love life
«Reply #180 on: December 11, 2014, 03:22:02 AM »
What's with a thread called "Tell me about your love life" being devoted mainly to people talking about how to trick women into having sex with them?

As for my love life, it's mostly a string of girls using me for my body then discarding me. I wish that were a joke. Maybe I just have a shitty personality ::)

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Re: Tell me about your love life
«Reply #181 on: December 11, 2014, 03:28:02 AM »
What's with a thread called "Tell me about your love life" being devoted mainly to people talking about how to trick women into having sex with them?

As for my love life, it's mostly a string of girls using me for my body then discarding me. I wish that were a joke. Maybe I just have a shitty personality ::)

bahaha

I wish I could say the same. I have more than enough guys telling me they have feelings for me…and I'm really confused about it. It came out of nowhere and I am really just an awkward, neurotic person who doesn't leave the house enough. I also sweat a lot when I practice, and I practice a lot, so really I smell unfortunate, most of the time. Pretty attractive, am I right?
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Re: Tell me about your love life
«Reply #182 on: December 11, 2014, 05:11:34 AM »

I wish I could say the same. I have more than enough guys telling me they have feelings for me…and I'm really confused about it. It came out of nowhere and I am really just an awkward, neurotic person who doesn't leave the house enough. I also sweat a lot when I practice, and I practice a lot, so really I smell unfortunate, most of the time. Pretty attractive, am I right?

Of course if we get really cynical, they say it just to get laid because they have been taught that's what girls want to hear... But lets keep an open mind: Sweaty can be really sexy! ;)

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«Reply #183 on: December 11, 2014, 05:39:51 AM »
Of course if we get really cynical, they say it just to get laid because they have been taught that's what girls want to hear... But lets keep an open mind: Sweaty can be really sexy! ;)

That's funny because while I was laying down watching netflix, I literally could hardly stand breathing around myself…lol
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Re: Tell me about your love life
«Reply #184 on: December 11, 2014, 05:53:32 AM »
As for my love life, it's mostly a string of girls using me for my body then discarding me. I wish that were a joke. Maybe I just have a shitty personality ::)

You act is if that's a bad thing.

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Re: Tell me about your love life
«Reply #185 on: December 11, 2014, 01:22:05 PM »
What's with a thread called "Tell me about your love life" being devoted mainly to people talking about how to trick women into having sex with them?



Well, part of the reason for that is that students of the piano tend to be on the geeky side, and the more serious the student the more geeky usually.  So most of the participants here are always dreaming about having sex but have little chance of actually getting any. 

On the other hand, bass players.........................just saying.
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«Reply #186 on: December 11, 2014, 03:27:09 PM »
Well, part of the reason for that is that students of the piano tend to be on the geeky side, and the more serious the student the more geeky usually.  So most of the participants here are always dreaming about having sex but have little chance of actually getting any. 

On the other hand, bass players.........................just saying.
You are but one step away from turning this thread into one for viola jokes...

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«Reply #187 on: January 28, 2016, 02:17:44 AM »
You are but one step away from turning this thread into one for viola jokes...

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what's a viola joke?

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«Reply #188 on: January 30, 2016, 04:28:26 AM »
what's a viola joke?


the viola, for starters.

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«Reply #189 on: January 30, 2016, 05:33:09 AM »
Coda, I think all people here would agree you're going the wrong way.

Think about how human contact works, the basics, you don't need much more than that.

Let it go and fight the pain (it won't be easy), you've already spent a lot of energy in vain and will probably harm yourself more and more if you continue in this foolish path.

Sincerely hope you succeed.

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«Reply #190 on: January 30, 2016, 05:36:41 AM »

the viola, for starters.
so the viola is the joke?

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«Reply #191 on: January 30, 2016, 06:24:53 PM »
what's a viola joke?
One of them might be the fact of your having taken more than a year to think to ask.

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«Reply #192 on: February 03, 2016, 04:02:51 AM »
:-* :-* :-*

In love?  Been in love?  Married?  Divorced?

I WANNA KNOW!!!  I want stories!!!

Oh god my hormones are acting up again...

Almost been in love yet again, I have a thing going for girls that are attracted to music. (not that sh*tty justin bieber and j-pop/k-pop nonesense). Recently I have met a hot girl in a concert, took her number, she replied for the first day only, then on the succeeding days up til now, she never texted or called back.

Man, sure wish I wasn't ugly AF. I think she saw my fb page and threw up.

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«Reply #193 on: February 03, 2016, 07:21:04 AM »
I have a really interesting story, you will all want to hear it! Here it is:

I have a crush on this cute girl who is 10,000x more beautiful than any of yours

Wasn't that amazing? XD

I sure hope you didn't mean piece crushes. I have had a very immoral life when it comes to that. I was hooked up with Barcarolle for a number of years, but ballade in g minor was simply too much to take. I had several nasty thoughts about Sonata in b minor op. 58, especially the oldest of the four. But one dousing of the ballade is all I need to drive those thoughts out. Multiple preludes have been rather attractive, but unfortunately they are too short. I am a taller guy. So no preludes for me. Etude 25/11 made a nice show, but had severe anger issues. Nocturne in F sharp is charming, but just doesn't have it. Maybe overweight? The Polonaises are all ugly. Probably homeschoolers too. I had a bit of an issue with Scherzo in E major, though it proved to be a bit boring in the middle section. Minute waltz didn't have a chance. Too many other suitors. F minor concerto! I don't want to talk about that within ear shot of my ballade. That's my real love life ;)
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«Reply #194 on: February 03, 2016, 10:14:40 AM »
I have a really interesting story, you will all want to hear it! Here it is:

I have a crush on this cute girl who is 10,000x more beautiful than any of yours

Wasn't that amazing? XD

I sure hope you didn't mean piece crushes. I have had a very immoral life when it comes to that. I was hooked up with Barcarolle for a number of years, but ballade in g minor was simply too much to take. I had several nasty thoughts about Sonata in b minor op. 58, especially the oldest of the four. But one dousing of the ballade is all I need to drive those thoughts out. Multiple preludes have been rather attractive, but unfortunately they are too short. I am a taller guy. So no preludes for me. Etude 25/11 made a nice show, but had severe anger issues. Nocturne in F sharp is charming, but just doesn't have it. Maybe overweight? The Polonaises are all ugly. Probably homeschoolers too. I had a bit of an issue with Scherzo in E major, though it proved to be a bit boring in the middle section. Minute waltz didn't have a chance. Too many other suitors. F minor concerto! I don't want to talk about that within ear shot of my ballade. That's my real love life ;)

I thought this was an anything but piano related thread??

Should't you be posting in the repertoiré section?

Though your piece selection is impressive though. :)

Oh well, we all have our interests.
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«Reply #195 on: February 03, 2016, 06:30:10 PM »
I have booked a threesome at the local Thai brothel on Saturday, so my love life will be temporarily excellent.

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«Reply #196 on: February 04, 2016, 04:49:54 PM »
I have booked a threesome at the local Thai brothel on Saturday, so my love life will be temporarily excellent.

Thal

I'm not even mad bro, that's amazing! Let me join you.? Just kidding.

With my current looks maybe even a very hungry beggar would refuse me.
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«Reply #197 on: February 04, 2016, 04:59:31 PM »
I have booked a threesome at the local Thai brothel on Saturday, so my love life will be temporarily excellent.
Have fun with the coconuts (and don't mention Bangkok).

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«Reply #198 on: February 04, 2016, 06:10:48 PM »
Have fun with the coconuts

You have lost me on that one dear fellow.

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«Reply #199 on: February 04, 2016, 06:46:14 PM »
You have lost me on that one dear fellow.
Coconut milk? Thai curry?

Ah, well...

I assumed that there might be at least one Thai restaurant in Gravesend but I didn't know about a Thai brothel there; one learns something new every day (although in this instance it would be of no interest to me even if I lived in Gravesend).

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