It's amazing how much peer pressure can affect us aye.. I'm curious what your own parents think? Because at the end of the day I guess they would have the most influence on our decision other than ourselves.
The piano students at your con seem to be aiming very low and have a limited view on what a career in music can and should be. Yes it is reasonable to say that the chance of us becoming concert pianists is low, it is a very difficult profession after all. But who said that the ultimate goal of a musician is to be a concert pianist anyway? I myself do want to have a performing career for as long as possible and I know that I may not be able to keep this up always. But I've noticed that most of the reputable, highly regarded teachers around the world had a strong performing career in their early days. The great composers Rachmaninoff, Beethoven, Liszt, etc were all very good performers themselves.
Really glad you chose to take a gap year! I think here in Australia we don't have as many opportunities but there is still some good stuff out there. If you are willing to fly overseas there are some really great festivals, people tell me the ones in Cochem, Banff and Spain are great although the level of playing is high.
The reason I dropped out of the music degree I was in was because of the way it was taught and the things we were being taught (I won't mention which institution it was). It was split into 3 different components during the semester: harmony, performance, and history. It was all taught by different teachers though so there was just no cohesion between the subjects. What one teacher taught us would contradict another's, a small example would be that our history teacher insisted us to use Australian terminology for notes (crochets, minims, etc) while our harmony teacher used American terminology (half notes, quarter notes) so when it came to exam time, what were we supposed to use??
The things we were taught were very basic, the pre-requisite for the degree was to have at least AMEB 4th grade theory/musicianship yet we were learning about simple rhythms, clapping, time signatures, etc. In our assessments, we would have marks deducted for messy handwriting and not using a ruler to draw barlines and even stems.
And to think that this is the education offered at a tertiary level. Unbelievable.
Also the students were not hard-working, they were happy to receive a pass grade (50%) for their courses and I felt uncomfortable being surrounded by people who did not take pride or put effort into doing something which is supposed to be their future and career.
So I came to the conclusion I would rather take a few extra years to do the very best I can in music, than have a sub-par education but take fewer years.
Apologies for the rant, it's been a year and I still can't get over it