I want to quit my job.

[faa2010]

These days were not good:

I got escalated in my job, and when I asked my manager to do the change, I felt that he is mad at me, that he has lost hope in me to progress. I don't blame him, because I don't want to continue working in the company anymore.

With reason, I don't want to continue in my job, but many factors haven't allowed me to quit:
-economic reassurance
-the company's name (Ericsson)

The problem is that they don't allow me to reduce my complete-time job to a half-time job, and I want it because I am planning to enter to a school music.

I am 30 years old, and I have had been in a private music school and I got contacts who could help me to enter to a music school, although it is not 100% sure that I will enter.

Another thing that happened to me, too bad, is that I failed the ABRSM theory test level 6, in part because I didn't have enough time to prepare.

These things are making me feel that the best for me, even if I don't want, is to remain in my job. Very sad for me, because I have studied a lot the music topics, and even if I failed again this year, I would do it again and again and again even if everyone tells me that it is useless.

What do you think?, is this just stuborness?, is this determination?

[hardy_practice]

I would say if you can't pass ABRSM grade 6 theory I wouldn't give up your day job.  Have you grade 8 piano?

[faa2010]

No, I was planning to start it once I get the abrsm grade 6 in theory.

I am sure that I can pass it, the issues were that I have been overloaded of studying other material.

If I have had the enough time, I would have gone with the person who could have helped me in knowing and studying correctly the exam exercises, but I had to pay attention to play other pieces and studying other subjects, with other different teachers and studying for other exams.

[georgey]

I got escalated in my job, and when I asked my manager to do the change, I felt that he is mad at me, that he has lost hope in me to progress. I don't blame him, because I don't want to continue working in the company anymore.

With reason, I don't want to continue in my job, but many factors haven't allowed me to quit:
-economic reassurance
-the company's name (Ericsson)

These things are making me feel that the best for me, even if I don't want, is to remain in my job. Very sad for me, because I have studied a lot the music topics, and even if I failed again this year, I would do it again and again and again even if everyone tells me that it is useless.

What do you think?, is this just stuborness?, is this determination?

I retired about 9 months ago at age 57 from my USA actuarial job of 30 years.  My company was great but I had a hard time dealing with some of their procedures and newly written computer programs that had issues.  I calculated that if my social security benefit is not cut too much by law makers and the stock market does not enter a depression, I should have enough to live comfortably, but very thrifty, for the next how many years I have to live without earning any more money outside of investments.  My calculations are based on actuarial tables and assumptions lol.

I agree you should stick with your job for now.  Keep looking for a part-time job. Map out all you expenses and plan ahead.  Until you find what you want in the way of a job, keep practicing as much as possible and be extra nice to your boss.  Good luck.

[georgey]

Until you can make your living in music, here are just 2 famous of many you may use for inspiration:

Pierre de Fermat was one of the greatest mathematicians of all time but he was an amateur mathematician and earned his living as a Lawyer

Composer Charles Ives worked as an actuary:
Beginning as an actuarial clerk, Ives worked his way up with phenomenal success and by middle-age could have retired a multi-millionaire (back when that really meant something). But Ives stayed true to his roots by living humbly and striving to tailor life insurance to the needs of working men. For decades he was known as the innovator of estate planning and sales training and a guiding light of the insurance industry.

[hardy_practice]

Hey georgey, got any investment tips?

[georgey]

Hey georgey, got any investment tips?

Passive index exchange traded funds with low expense ratio (Schwab has great ones with free buys/sells).  Pick an equity percentage that meets your risk aversion.  Should be at least 70% if you are young.  Stay the course and rebalance as needed.  You are not trying to get rich, just trying to keep up or outperform inflation. Save for retirement starting early. Happy investing.

[faa2010]

Right now, I have a problem in order to quit, my manager is not happy with my performance and with I looked in Internet is that one of the things I shouldn't do before quitting is low my work performance, I regret not having planning in quit before the escalations of last week happened.

I didn't lowered my work performance by purpose, by sabotaging, but leaving with the current performance I showed could affect me in the future. Or I can risk in stay longer but more accidents may happen at work.

What do you think?

[timothy42b]

I think you need to reverse your mindset. 

Put yourself in the company's place.  They have a goal or a mission, and if they fail they will go under.  They hired you to support that goal, and not the other way around.

What benefit is it to them to accommodate your schedule and your private interests?

Probably little or none. 

Sometimes a company will make extraordinary accomodations to keep a productive employee, both because they get his work and because they don't have to compete against somebody else who hires him. 

But you aren't a productive employee in their eyes.  You have become a high maintenance, problem employee.  They are hoping you will quit. 

The trouble is, like all of us you really need a job. 

My advice, hard as it will seem, is to turn it around and become their best employee.  Ask your boss what you need to do to improve, take it seriously, show that you are worth it.

Most people can work full time and manage a class or two.  No excuse for not passing theory, that's just doing your homework.  Gaining piano skill is another matter. 

That said, sometimes there's another way.  To get more education, I requested the night shift at work, and went to school in the day.  Work didn't owe me any favors so I had to wait a bit for the night shift opening but then I jumped on it.   

[faa2010]

But you aren't a productive employee in their eyes.  You have become a high maintenance, problem employee.  They are hoping you will quit. 

The trouble is, like all of us you really need a job. 

My bro told me that if I quit I will be unemployed for around 1 year, pretty scary. Needing a job is important, but I have also postponed to have further studies in music, even I am risking admittance exams this year because they could be around the same work time hours.

A teacher has told me that she could help me in getting another job, one that could suit to my needs. Even thought I see her good intentions and will to help me, I am somehow leery, feeling that in the end I am alone in getting a new job, but also I can't wait and do nothing.

My advice, hard as it will seem, is to turn it around and become their best employee.  Ask your boss what you need to do to improve, take it seriously, show that you are worth it.

How long do I need to stay in order to show that I am one of their best employees?

Most people can work full time and manage a class or two.  No excuse for not passing theory, that's just doing your homework.  Gaining piano skill is another matter. 

That said, sometimes there's another way.  To get more education, I requested the night shift at work, and went to school in the day.  Work didn't owe me any favors so I had to wait a bit for the night shift opening but then I jumped on it.   

I wish you luck, because that's one of the reasons my work performance started to withered. I wanted more time for my education, for a time it was good. However, despite my musical progress, my manager (aka the company) demanded from me to have a more active role in the company, to be a leader, meaning to give more time to them even if it is around my non work hours, he received complains, and I had communication problems with him.

Then, since January, I started to fell drowsy at work and despite maintaining a good performance, I didn't want to change shift and I tried to keep the good job I had, until the disasters of last week.

The good thing of that was that it reminded me that I need to quit, the bad thing is that because of those incidents I feel I need to postpone my leave. I was thinking to leave in a month, but now that I checked that I have become to my manager's eyes a bad element, I am afraid to sacrifice this year my studies and remain in the company for longer, specially because I promised to improve by signing a contract.

[timothy42b]

I'm trying to see it from your viewpoint but that is hard.  I have been a supervisor and manager for many years.  I never intended that, always thought I'd be one of those narrow experts, but ........ sometimes life is strange.  So I realize I can't fully understand your position.  For some insane reason people think I'm really good at this and keep promoting me. 

Maybe this job can be turned around.  Maybe it just isn't for you and it is time for you to succeed somewhere else.

If you want to share what frustrates you about your job, and what you struggle with, I'll offer more advice, but that's kind of personal, so do what you think best. 

I will say you probably don't have state of the art management that is dedicated to getting the most out of you, because most companies don't.  So it may not be 100% your fault.  Unfortunately it is 100% yours to solve. 

[briansaddleback]

You want to quit your job? Go do it.
Do what you have thought through, calculated, and in good timing, go make your move and stop pondering over it vocally here. Whatever happens will be either bad or good or maybe no circumstances at all but at least you will see what happens and you can make adjustments later from learning from it.
Make sure you learn from it , suffer your own consequences don't pass them off to someone else, and make full acknowledgement of that your choices today lead you to your state tomorrow.
That way , since this won't kill you, at least you can gain something in terms of character. Character of a real man or character of a real woman. Do it.