This discussion should be continued in another thread. Definitely. Just to throw in a comment: I'm with SteinwayToni on this one, and I speak from my own experience. Constant praise for mediocre performance breeds mediocrity (at best). The trick is to provide a realistic assessment (which will be very sobering to many people) while finding ways to keep the enthusiasm.
What is crystal clear from your comment AND that of SteinwayTony, is that if your attitude is 'the glass is half empty (instead of half full) you may be 'filtering' out what you read or understand. I NEVER said that mediocre performance should be unrealistically praised, nor that antone should tell little Jimmy he'll be playing the Rach 3 in 6 months. Only a fool would assume such a thing.
What I said was that being optomistic, positive and goal oriented, and (much more importantly) having a parent or teacher who's attitude exhudes these excellent qualities, will cause the pupil to perform at a much higher level. That pupil will learn faster, aquire skills more easily, and progress at a substantially higher rate, than one's parents or teacher have a 'less than optomistic' view. This in not my opinion, it has been scientfically proven as far back as the 60's. Double blind experiments, performed thousands of times catagorically prove this.
The problem is that if you're teachers etc were not 'big possibility' thinkers, the likelyhood is you won't be, so you'll think (and probably believe) that things are a certain way. That will affect the performance (oh, and enjoyment) and self esteem of those who look up to you (children, pupils etc).
In turn their performance and progress will MATCH YOUR EXPECTATIONS OF THEM ! ... and you'll see this and think, 'yea, I was right, don't aim too high.
Break the viscious cycle, read or listen to some some stuff that will change and improve your outlook, your life, your happiness, your contentment, your relationships....and most importantly, that of the impressionable minds who look up to you and see you as an example.
Try a CD course called 'The Psychology of Achievement' by Brian Tracy, his website is at
www.briantracy.com take the link to audio/video programmes, then personal success. This guy quotes examples from phsychology today and other noteable research papers.
It quite literally changed my life, and that of those around me.
I'm sure your intentions are good, if so, this will help you and those you care for.
If you're thinking "I don't need this crap..." then you need it much more than you realise. Be happy, love life.
Oh, and try giving away 10% + of your income every month and watch what happens. (not a nutty cult, but to genuine charitable causes). Don't believe me...try it.