This has been very interesting, and I hope we get a few more responses.
I had not appreciated how advanced some of the fellow visitors to this forum really are.
I see myself most akin to "WHYNOT" in that we both take short lessons, and because of the limited time, we both see our teacher time as precious. WHYNOT sees his teacher as "facilitiator," and I see mine as "coach." Probably because time is so short, there's quite a limit as to how much we can ask of them.
My teacher is headed for the green pastures of retirement pretty soon, I think. She is very old. I'm guessing, older that 75 -- but who could be sure. I believe that is why her lessons are just $10 per half-hour.
PIANONUT, I do feel a bit badly that your teacher is a bit brutal in criticism. The rare compliment and the more frequent "biting criticism." We all admire your motivation, being a mom, a professional, and a very SERIOUS pianist.
Are you trying to get a college degree in performance? Your commitment is so great, I can't see your piano as just a pastime or a hobby.
I suspect you are locked into this particular teacher. But I know we all feel "dashed" when our much-practiced piece comes off poorly at the lesson.
One problem that I have, I play a beautiful 5'8" grand in my home that is well tuned and very very nice. Then I go in and take my lesson on a mediocre Asian upright, and the room just tiny, about like two broom closets. And with cheap, fiberboard walls and lots of ambient noises. Sounds of pianos in other rooms come through the flimsy walls.
It is surprising how -- unconsciously -- our playing a piece confidently involves hearing back the sounds we are producing. That is, a kind of feedback effect. On this sad little upright, in this poor little tiny room, the sound I produce is so wierd or "odd" - - - -- sometimes I hesitate or stop, or my fingers tremble over a chord, because my auditory feedback is telling me "wrong, wrong!" But the teacher says, "No . .. that's RIGHT. Just PLAY IT."
The ideal arrangement would be to have a teacher make house calls, and you could play your lesson on your own piano. But that would be too much like a dream come true, I suppose.
Thanks, all.