what do you look for and like in a partner?

[stevie]

firstly it might help if you say if you are male/female and straight/gay/bi.

rate these elements from 1-10 on how important they are to you -

physical-

1.  face -

2.  body -

3.  other
(including eye contact, smile, expressions, and generally the way they act physically)

personality-

4. common interests -

5. general niceness/friendlyness -

6. talent(artistic, musical. etc) -

7. libido -

8. sense of humour -

9. honesty/trust -

10. reciprocated feelings(them liking/loving you back) -


and yeah, this is just to see what men and women look for in their partners...add anything else you have to say on the matter.

[BoliverAllmon]

1.  face - nice smile, round face, no protruding cheeks
2.  body - make sure they have one. LOL
3.  other- some muscularity to them. not bodybuilder, but someone i am not afraid to snap in half
personality-
4. common interests - music, church, reading
5. general niceness/friendlyness - very friendly but not a pushover
6. talent(artistic, musical. etc) - good cook, plays some music, creative mind
7. libido - high
8. sense of humour - lots of humor
9. honesty/trust - complete honesty and trust
10. reciprocated feelings(them liking/loving you back) - duh she better love me back

just to clarify. i am a guy, straight, and not from Paraguay. I am not sure where that started, but someone was confused previously before about that.

[6ft 4]

1 meaning most important:

1. Body
2. Face

Yeh the rest are unimportant pretty much.

Btw, Stevie r u definately male cause women love this sort of thing so maybe ur a woman huh?

[BoliverAllmon]

1 meaning most important:

1. Body
2. Face

Yeh the rest are unimportant pretty much.

Btw, Stevie r u definately male cause women love this sort of thing so maybe ur a woman huh?

someone say pocorina?

[chopintod]

Male (18) and straight........going through this process right now so it should be fresh... (1=most important)

#1: General niceness/friendliness; a girl's just not worth my time if she isn't nice/friendly.
#2: Other physical aspects; for me a girl needs to be smily; a little shy's ok but not overwhemingly.
#3: Honesty/trust; I don't want to get into a relationship with a girl only to find out that she lies, cheats, etc. etc.
#4/5: (tie) Body/Face; I like cute girls.  Notice the word "cute", not "hot".
#6: Sense of humor; I have a good sense of humor; I like to make jokes; and I like girls that 1) laugh at my jokes  and 2) laugh often and ....non-shallow-ly...if that makes sense.
#7: Common interests; having common interests is good, but I don't think as necessary as friendliness, sense of humor, etc.
#8: Libido; and not libido as in the full-out making love; I don't mind going slow, but eventually I'm gonna want some intimacy (sp?).
#9: Talent; ranked talent this low because everyone has some sort of talent; it's nice to find someone with similar talents, but again not necessary.
#10: Reciprocated feelings; only reason it's this low is because I believe you can change anyone's feelings in this respect.  Doesn't matter if they don't really like you at first; you can probably change that, and if you can't, just give up.  No reason to try to have a relationship with someone who doesn't feel the same way.


Wish me luck with my attempts....

Terry

[stevie]

hahaha, well actually i mean it like 1-10 rating for each element

like body - 6/10, face - 4/10

but your ways seem better 

you can do it either way, im just interested in what you guys and gals look for

[m1469]

Btw, Stevie r u definately male cause women love this sort of thing so maybe ur a woman huh?

That's funny, because I have noticed that the guys are pretty quick to respond in these types of things 

[paris]

ok this looks like some kind of questionary...we can't rid of them can we?  
lemme start...

I'm female, almost 17, purely straight  

1. FACE- exotic dark eyes, dark hair, mysterious smile, and NO beard or mustache please
2. SENSE OF HUMOR- has to be able to make me smile
3. HONESTY/TRUST- essential in relationship
4. LIBIDO-huh my english sucks but if this means the same as in croatian haha...
5. BODY- with muscles but NOT bodybuilder. I really hate that massive odd looking muscles which bodybuilders are so proud of.
6. COMMON INTERESTS- musician can understand me better i guess...I'd like to be in relationship with guy who at least knows who chopin was. or bach. or mozart. whatever  
7. GENERAL NICENESS/FRIENDLYNESS- Mustn't yell at me
8. TALENT- talent for being patient with losing my temper everyday and my stubbornness  
9. OTHER- the last one, but not unimportant..I like guys with style
10. RECIPROCATED FEELING- I assume he already loves me back  


now you see, its pretty d*** hard to impress me...

[thalbergmad]

Comments on my last girlfriend

1.  face - could crack a camera lens at 400 yards

2.  body - cross between a barrage balloon and Hulk Hogan

3.  other- had teeth like a neglected graveyard, so the smile was not nice
(including eye contact, smile, expressions, and generally the way they act physically)

personality-

4. common interests - nothing. she liked blue oyster cult whoever the hell they are

5. general niceness/friendlyness - she was only nice when she wanted something

6. talent(artistic, musical. etc) - the only talent she had was emptying my wallet

7. libido - very low thankfully

8. sense of humour - must of had one to go out with me for 6 months

9. honesty/trust - i honestly believe she didn't trust me

10. reciprocated feelings(them liking/loving you back) - none

[Floristan]

physical-

1. face - 5

2. body - 8

3. other - 7
(including eye contact, smile, expressions, and generally the way they act physically)

personality- 9

4. common interests - 5

5. general niceness/friendlyness - 3

6. talent(artistic, musical. etc) - 1

7. libido - 5

8. sense of humour - 9

9. honesty/trust - 10

10. reciprocated feelings(them liking/loving you back) - 10

[6ft 4]

Thalbergmad AWESOME post.


I reckon women claiming they dont like bodybuilders is like men claiming they dont like really thin women. i.e. complete rubbish meant to make people feel better.

[stevie]

Btw, Stevie r u definately male cause women love this sort of thing so maybe ur a woman huh?

no, i am every woman's dream - a sensetive guy...... with a large organ

[thalbergmad]

I have got a large organ and i am going to post a pic over the weekend.

[leahcim]

I reckon women claiming they dont like bodybuilders is like men claiming they dont like really thin women. i.e. complete rubbish meant to make people feel better.

It's like alternative medicine?

[Siberian Husky]

I reckon women claiming they dont like bodybuilders is like men claiming they dont like really thin women. i.e. complete rubbish meant to make people feel better.

wrong

i dont like really thin women..most of my friends dont either...

[chopintod]

wrong

i dont like really thin women..most of my friends dont either...

Sorry...I cannot tell a lie.  I do like thin women.   Not too thin, of course.  And not exclusively.  But I do like 'em.

Terry

[stevie]

Sorry...I cannot tell a lie.  I do like thin women.   Not too thin, of course.  And not exclusively.  But I do like 'em.

Terry

there is a difference between thin and slim, i like slim women, not thin women.

[stevie]

I have got a large organ and i am going to post a pic over the weekend.

didnt you say one time you have 3 keyboard insturments?

id like to see your organ, upright and grand!

 

[pianistimo]

i think women like a man who wants to spend time with them and do things together.  i mean, if someone has all these good qualities, in varying degrees, but lives miles apart and they see each other twice a year...hmmm - i don't know if it would be very fulfilling.

one thing i do know about my marriage is that over the years we have accomodated each others desires more.  so my husband sometimes comes home early and we go do stuff.  this, of all the things that i like about him, is the best.

ps might have married him partly for his body, but added his mind, then his voice, then his kindness, and then lastly now - it's that he genuinely likes to be with me and visa-versa.  this is the fastest way to make a relationship grow, imo, even moreso than the libido.  i think people divorce because of loving on a strictly sexual or having sexual problems level.  it helps, but it's not the whole picture is what i mean.  

[jeremyjchilds]

24, Straight, Married.


Love the body, love the face, love the niceness.


Libido becomes less important than it was at the beginning, though it is always a nice treat every once in a few hours.

The most important thing if you are looking for marriage material, though, is to find someone that doesent bug you...I'd rather be married to an ugly cool chick than a hot annoying one...

Guess i got the best of all worlds.

[pianistimo]

once every few hours?  you must have a good looking hot chick.  (watch it, or you'll have a house full of kids in a few years - like that 911 nanny show - you know, four or more).  make sure you match the libido with the calculated dates.

[gorbee natcase]

Fit and drop dead Gorgeous

[chopintod]

there is a difference between thin and slim, i like slim women, not thin women.

yea i agree. better word.

Terry