Girls/Guys and their Likes/Dislikes

[lagin]

Okay, let's have some fun, and I'm sure it'd be somewhat of a help for many too :

If you're a girl, what characteristics do you like/dislike in a guy (try to be specific - not just "nice"), and if you're a guy, visa versa.

For example, I was talking to one of the guys on here, and he gave me a list of a whole bunch of stuff that guys like -- eye contact, shyness, ect.  It got me to thinking how handy it would be to know this stuff about each other since girls and guys are SO different.

And this doesn't take as LOOOOOONNNGGGG as those little "tell us about yourself" profile threads ; . 

(Take advantage of this thread, for if you ask any of my friends they will tell you this is totally out of character for me!  This could be my second childhood/going senile!)

And please, try to leave the "sex" jokes/comments out as entertaining as some people find them.  Let's just try to keep it clean.
I
'll go first.  I hate it when guys try to be "cool" and macho.  I think quiet strength is much more attractive than HELLO I'M THE COOLEST!!!!.  I also like guys who are interested in girls because they really care about the girl, not just to see what they can get out of it.  Oh, and one more for now (remembers being in the bank line up today and watching young couple), I do not like it when guys or girls for that matter need to "hang" off each other.  It's like they can't stand beside each other without touching, clinging, holding hands.  I mean holding hands is a nice gesture, but you can totally tell when their just doing that to say to the rest of the world, "See, look at me, and the catch I've got!"

Okay, your turn.

[stevie]

https://www.pianostreet.com/smf/index.php/topic,12349.0.html

i made a semi-similar topic there

its interesting that im just like the guy you describe, perhaps, but very few girls have ever wanted anything to do with me *blushes*

[thalbergmad]

If the sex jokes/ comments are out, I have nothing to say.

[6ft 4]

its interesting that im just like the guy you describe, perhaps, but very few girls have ever wanted anything to do with me *blushes*

lol

rule no.1: NEVER listen to girls when they talk about how to attract women.

[rob47]

i just pretend to listen. randomly.

[pianistimo]

basically, what matters to me is my husband's being kind and thoughtful, and calling me during the day.  asking my opinions on things, and including me in his thoughts.  i will say, that if a man takes the time to shop occasionally and find something that looks really good on them, they'll be noticed (just like a woman who takes time to dress up occasionally).  of course, you don't want to cause traffic accidents.

[Bouter Boogie]

I like it when guys show their interest in girls and not just talk about themselves. Of course this counts the other way around too.

- BB

[Siberian Husky]

likes: open minded, philosophically challenging, rich in new enlightenment...unpredictable style..

dislikes: overprided know it alls..randomly

cheers

[stevie]

subliminal subtle, true

another thing that peeves me slightly is the fact that its assumed that guys have to ask girls out and for girls to ask guys out...its taboo.

girls want sensetive caring guys? well very often these are the kind of guys that are too shy to actually ask a girl out on most occasions, so as you can see its an annoying paradox.

[steve jones]

lol

rule no.1: NEVER listen to girls when they talk about how to attract women.

Yep, except for when they're taking to other girls 

[pianistimo]

leather pants

[6ft 4]

subliminal subtle, true

another thing that peeves me slightly is the fact that its assumed that guys have to ask girls out and for girls to ask guys out...its taboo.

its woman logic in a perverse sense. You just gotta get over it.

Besides if the guy is too wussy to ask the girl out then the girl is not gonna like the guy.

girls want sensetive caring guys? well very often these are the kind of guys that are too shy to actually ask a girl out on most occasions, so as you can see its an annoying paradox.

sensitive caring guys that aren't complete wusses or nervous wrecks.

Besides shy guys are really not more sensitive or caring than confident guys.

girls want sensetive caring guys?

rule no.1 !!!!

[pianistimo]

yes.  you're right.  my husband wouldn't be caught dead in black leather pants. 

leather, cologne, slicked back hair (with a slight lock forward) etc. = italian, and probably therefore dead sexy.

but who needs a sexy man like that to accompany you to the grocery store, or take the kids to the park.  i mean, everyone else would be all over him, and you'd have to take what was left over.  he might look at himself too much in the mirror, or talk to himself at dinner.
 

[Jacey1973]

I just got back from holiday with my girlfriends and we have been discussing our "ideal man/husband" quite alot...lol, here's mine:

Likes:

- Dominant/decisive men (preferably tall, dark too),
-intelligent (preferably with a degree), artistic and creative (preferably a musician, or artist),
-"mysterious" or "the strong silent type" is the popular way to describe my "type" of man i guess,
- quite serious, thoughtful
- definitely masculine but with a sensitive side
-is good with/loves children i.e you can imagine him being the best dad ever
-er likes classical music....(preferably plays the piano or cello to a reasonable standard)...lol
- has a gorgeous accent (preferably - english/well spoken/professional London-ish but not too upper class, soft welsh but not Cardiff-chavvy harsh or gay valleys welsh or soft irish)

.....i'm rather fussy

Dislikes:

-arrogance
- uneducated and proud of it
- chav-like.....lol
- narrowmindedness
- has to be right about everything (because i have to be right about everything)
- snobby

[stevie]

its woman logic in a perverse sense. You just gotta get over it.

Besides if the guy is too wussy to ask the girl out then the girl is not gonna like the guy.

sensitive caring guys that aren't complete wusses or nervous wrecks.

Besides shy guys are really not more sensitive or caring than confident guys.

rule no.1 !!!!

  , im the sensitive unconfident shy type

mildly

[thalbergmad]

, im the sensitive unconfident shy type

mildly

me too

[perfect_pitch]

lol

rule no.1: NEVER listen to girls when they talk about how to attract women.

Hate to say this, but that sounds like the dumbest rule I have ever heard.... Lets think about it logically.... If I want to impress a woman, the best person to ask (because they understand the mindset of a woman)....

IS A WOMAN!!!!!

Seems plain and simple to me. You're not going to ask some bulky bloke who is interested in cars and bikes, on how to score woman are you? 

If you want to become a doctor, you're not going to ask a Lawyer how to become one are you??? 

[stevie]

no actually, what he means is that women tell men what they want to hear alot of the time.
the real truth comes out when you observe women talking amongst eachother about what they like in, and hanging from, men.

[rimv2]

different strokes

different folks

the on common denominator is that they all have opinions of their own

want to know the way to a womans heart

ask her mother ask her best friend

but dont ask her father

cuz thats just suicide

[rc]

but dont ask her father

cuz thats just suicide

'Hey man, you should hook me up with your daughter, she's a fox!'

*puts hand up for high-five*

Hmmm... A recent irritation was a girl who was trying to be funny by being rude. I wasn't impressed.

Physical traits aside, a girl who's fun and upbeat is irresistable. If your neutral face resembles a smile you're in good shape, just like a perma-scowl is repulsive.

Here's something a little unusual, sitting at a pub a few weeks ago and in walks this good looking girl and she's got this hip wiggle. More like a waggle, or a woggle... It was a HUGELY exaggerated hip-swing, I don't think she could've gone any further without losing balance, never seen anything like it. As ridiculous as it was, I couldn't stop looking  Then my thinking head notices this attractive girl's come to the pub completely alone, and although every guy's tried hitting on her not one decided to stick around. There was something wrong with this lass. I decided to leave her well alone, but I won't forget that wiggle.

[pianistimo]

women have an advantage and disadvantage.  if you have hips you naturally swing when you walk, but end up hitting the ends of tables and bumping into things you didn't plan on.  the only way to avoid this is turning sideways as you walk.  now, when i walk through a restaurant, i try to do this.  now, on the other hand, at one of those restaurant/pubs as my hubby and i were walking past, i notice the guys tend to do the opposite.  they like purposely try to bump you.  this is so obvious, but kinda funny.  they pretend like they are talking to someone else and take a step back.  what would they do if you hip bumped them and they went flying 10 feet?  i can open the front door when it's stuck and no one else can , with a slight hip bump.

[6ft 4]

Lets think about it logically

hehe

rule no.2: attraction is not logical.

[perfect_pitch]

Rules That Guys Wish Girls Knew
1. If you think you are overweight, you probably are. Do not ask us. We refuse to answer.
2. Learn to work the toilet seat. You're a big girl. If it's up, put it down.
3. Birthdays, Valentines, and Anniversaries are not quests to see if we can find the perfect present yet again!
4. If you ask a question you don't want an answer to; expect an answer you don't want to hear.
5. Sometimes, we are not thinking about you. Live with it.
6. Do not ask us what we are thinking about unless you are prepared to discuss such topics as navel lint, the shotgun formation and
motorcycles.
7. Sunday = sports. It's like the full moon or the changing of the tides. Let it be.
8. Shopping is not a sport, and no, we are never going to think of it that way.
9. When we have to go somewhere, absolutely anything you wear is fine. Really.
10. You have enough clothes. You have too many shoes.
11. Crying is blackmail.
12. ASK for what you want. Let us be clear on this one: Subtle hints do not work. Strong hints do not work. Obvious hints do not work.
Just say it!
13. No, we do not know what day it is. We never will. Mark anniversaries on a calendar. Remind us frequently beforehand.
14. Most guys own three pairs of shoes -- tops. What makes you think we'd be any good at choosing which pair, out of thirty, would look
good with your dress?
15. "Yes" and "No" are perfectly acceptable answers to almost every question.
16. Come to us with a problem only if you want help solving it. That's what we do. Sympathy is what your girlfriends are for.
17. Foreign films are best left to foreigners.
18. Anything we said 6 months ago is inadmissible in an argument. In fact, all comments become null and void after 7 days.
19. If something we said can be interpreted two ways, and one of the ways makes you sad or angry, we meant the other one.
20. You can either ask us to do something OR tell us how you want it done, but not both. If you already know best how to do it, just do it
yourself.
21. Whenever possible, please say whatever you have to say during commercials.
22. Christopher Columbus did not need directions, and neither do we.
23. The relationship is never going to be like it was the first two months we were going out. Get over it. And quit whining to your
girlfriends - like THEIR relationship is SO MUCH better.
24. ALL men see in only 16 colours, like Windows default settings. Peach, for example, is a fruit, not a color. Pumpkin is also a fruit. We
have no idea what mauve is.
25. If it is OUR house, I do not understand why MY stuff gets thrown in the closet, attic, basement, or worse, the garbage.
26. We are not mind readers and we never will be. Our lack of mind-reading ability is not proof of how little we care about you.
27. If we ask what is wrong and you say "nothing," we will act like nothing's wrong. We know you are lying, but it is just not worth the
hassle.
28. We know that women's intuition is just another name for luck.
29. What the heck is a doily?
Rules That Girls Wish Guys Knew
1. Asking a girl on Friday for a date on Saturday is completely unacceptable. Keyword: Planning
2. Shave every day. One day's growth of facial hair is worse than a girl not shaving her legs for a week.
3. We may be emotional beings, but do not lie to squirm your way out of trouble. We are not as gullible as you think.
4. Learn to clean up the toilet. If peeing standing up is so difficult and you are bound to miss, then may we suggest that you learn to use
a toilet brush and sponge to clean up after yourself.
5. We really don't find it attractive when you stand there stratching yourself in the morning, afternoon or night- please do it in private.
6. Don't do it, if you're not going to follow-thru. A woman would rather not have sex at all, than to have it and miss the climax by a mile
because you weren't up for the challenge.
7. Don't fix it if it's really not broke. You don't need to take everything apart out of curiosity.
8. Ask for directions
9. If you said you are going to be somewhere at a certain time, then do it. Don't expect us to wait around.
10. Professional Wrestling and Soap Opera's are the same story lines, just different costumes. So don't make fun of us for being hooked
on Y&R when you are hooked on WWE.
11. "I don't feel like talking right now" is an acceptable thing to say- Unacceptable thing to do is sit there and pretend you're listening and
just say "uh huh" and "yes Dear"- it's condescending.
12. Get rid of your holey underwear.
13. If you can ogle so can we!
14. One remote is ENOUGH... no need to have a control tower in your living room.
15. Couch Potato is not a sport, so don't try to be an All-star at it!
16. Your way is not always the right way. Learn to say- "I was wrong"
17. If we can't talk to you during a football game, then don't try to get our attention during Ally McBeal.
18. If you say you are going to do something, then just do it. Don't sit around thinking of creative excuses why you couldn't get to it.
19. We are not your mothers, so don't expect us to clean up after you like one.
20. McDonalds is not considered a romantic dinner for two.
21. We have other friends of the male gender, so leave your jealousy at the door!
22. If you concede to let us decorate the house without any input from you, then don't complain when everything is in frilly flowers, and
pink motif.
23. When wearing a dress shirt, wear an undershirt underneath. Nothing worse than seeing a man's hairy chest and nipples through his
shirt. (PINK PINK PINK)
24. Hey, we CAN be friends with our ex's- so deal with it!
25. We understand that you have to put on a manly act in front of your friends, but in the privacy of your own home, it's okay if you just
want to cuddle

[Jacey1973]

Rules That Girls Wish Guys Knew

2. Shave every day. One day's growth of facial hair is worse than a girl not shaving her legs for a week.

That so isn't true! I love a couple of days stubble on a guy, it's more rugged/manly etc...lol

[thalbergmad]

My ex girlfriend always seemed to have a couple of days stubble.

Can't say i found it very sexy.

[Jacey1973]

My ex girlfriend always seemed to have a couple of days stubble.

Can't say i found it very sexy.

Hmm i don't think girl stubble is really the same as guy stubble.........mmm

[6ft 4]

well i never.....

[rc]

The way I see it, women should NOT be rugged/manly.

That's just me.

...Does this smiley mean holding back vomit? 

[e60m5]

All right...

I hate these lists, but there was one list I came across that I actually agreed with. If you hate these lists, skip ahead, you've had ample warning 


1. Guys hate sluts.

2. "Hey, are you busy?" or "Are you doing something?" ~ two phrases guys open with to stop from stammering on the phone.

3. Guys may be flirting around all day but before they go to sleep, they always think about the girl they truly care about.

4. Before they call, guys try to plan out a little about what they're gonna say so there aren't awkward pauses, but once he's on the phone he forgets it all and makes it up as he goes.

5. Guys go crazy over a girl's smile.

6. Guys will do anything just to get you to notice him.

7. Guys hate it when you talk about your ex-boyfriend or ex love-interest. Unless they're goin for the let-her-complain-to-you-and-then-have-her-realize-
how-wonderful-and-nice-you-are method.

8. A guy who likes you wants to be the only guy you talk to.

9. Boyfriends need to be reassured often that they're still loved.

10. Don't talk about your guy friends to your boyfriend.

11. Guys get jealous easily.

12. Guys are more emotional than they'd like people to think.

13. Giving a guy a hanging message like "You know what?!..uh...nevermind.." would make him jump to a conclusion that is far from what you are thinking. And he'll assume he did something wrong and he'll obsess about it trying to figure it out.

14. Guys are good flatterers when courting but they usually stammer when they talk to a girl they really like.

15. Guys hate asking parents for money to buy girls presents. So they come up with ideas like saving their lunch money for a week. But it never works because guys are always hungry so they end up asking the parents for money anyway.

16. Girls are guys' weaknesses.

17. Guys are very open about themselves.

18. It's good to test a guy first before you trust him. But don't let him wait too long.

19. Your best friend, whom your boyfriend seeks help from about his problems with you may end up being admired by your boyfriend.

20. If a guy tells you about his problems, he just needs someone to listen to him. You don't need to give advice.

21. A usual act that proves that the guy likes you is when he teases you.

22. Guys love you more than you love them if they are serious in your relationships.

23. Guys will brag about anything.

24. Guys use words like hot or cute to describe girls. We rarely use beautiful. If a guy uses that, he likes you.

25. Guys think WAY too much. One small thing a girl does, even if she doesn't notice it can make the guy think about it for hours, trying to figure out what it meant.

26. Guys seek for advice from girls not other guys. Because most guys think alike, so if one guy's confused, then we're all confused.

27. Any guy could write out a rulebook or advice book for flirting, but no guy can write out a book about relationships.

28. Try to be as straightforward as possible.

29. A guy has to experience rejection, because if he's too-good-never-been-busted, never been in love and hurt, he won't be mature and grown up.

30. If the guy does something stupid in front of the girl, he will think about it for the next couple days or until the next time he spends time with the girl.

31. No matter how much guys talk about asses and boobs, personality is key.

32. Guys learn from experience not from the romance books that girls read and take as their basis of experience.

33. Guys worry about the thin line between being compassionate and being whipped.

34. If a guy looks unusually calm and laid back, he's probably faking it and is spazzing inside.

35. When a guy says he is going crazy about the girl, he really is. Guys rarely say that.

36. When a guy asks you to leave him alone, he's just actually saying, "Please come and listen to me."

37. Guys don't really have final decisions.

38. If a guy starts to talk seriously, listen to him. It doesn't happen that often, so when it does, you know something's up.

39. If your best guy friend seems to avoid you or is never around when you're with your boyfriend, he's probably jealous and likes you.

40. When a guy looks at you for longer than a second, he's definitely thinking something.

41. Guys like femininity not feebleness.

42. Guys don't like girls who punch harder than they do.

43. A guy has more problems than you can see with your naked eyes.

44. Don't be a snob. Guys can be intimidated and give up easily.

45. Everything in moderation. Put on makeup, wear perfume. Just not too much.

46. Guys talk about girls more than girls talk about guys.

47. Guys hate rejection, but they hate being led on even more.

48. Guys really think that girls are strange and have unpredictable decisions and are MAD confusing but somehow are drawn even more to them.

49. A guy would give his left nut to be able to read a girl's mind for a day.

50. No guy can handle all his problems by his own. He's just too stubborn to admit it


Even if all of those aren't true, many of them are, at least to me...

On another note. Things that I look for in girls? My first reaction is to face and voice... but that's physical I guess, not what I'm looking for. In a girl what I'd want is someone who knows what a committment is. We have to be compatible - not just interest-wise, but also personality-wise, intellectually, and so on. I like smart girls with good handwriting, for some reason. (I know, it sounds odd, but it's something I've noticed.) If they like classical music, then that's cool too, but they definitely don't have to.

Oh, if the girl happens to be Keira Knightley, everything above is void, as that's all I need to know~

[stevie]

it also has to be remembered that none of these 'rules' is true for everyone, and like any other generalisation is only true for perhaps the majority, but by no means all people.

possibly.

[6ft 4]

The problem with those "rules" is that if the girl is very attractive, the rules go out the window.

An attactive girls looks like a "slut"? No way, she's "sexually free".