which is more important to you - Love or Piano/Work/Ambitions?

[stevie]

well, this is an interesting question because i have often thought about it , and now that im in a relationship i have a better idea..

but....the other person in the realtionship feels a bit differently, that piano is her number1 priority in life, and that i will always be her secondary priority at best...

maybe its because of the long-term worries, that a relationship gets in the way of something permanent like piano playing, and the relationship is 'probably' not going to last, so why waste unnecesarry time on it?

i feel differently of course, but im sure you guys have thought of similar things so im curious to see the results of this poll and thread...

[ted]

I cannot answer the poll. I don't like work very much and I appear to have missed out on the ambition gene altogether. I do not experience a personal conflict between love and music; they are components of a greater synthesis.

[gorbee natcase]

This is just too hard to answer ethicly for me

[Jacey1973]

but....the other person in the realtionship feels a bit differently, that piano is her number1 priority in life, and that i will always be her secondary priority at best...

That's exactly how it was with my ex boyfriend and I.

I had my final university recital coming up (it was in the June just gone), so by the end of my 2nd year/start of my 3rd year i began to put piano before everything else (my ex wasn't a classical musician - didn't appreciate classical music, would never come to classical concerts with me).

So anyway, in the last couple of years of our relationship (we were together for 4 years) i began to take piano more seriously than ever. When i was spending time with him i would feel so guilty about spending even 3 hours away from the piano. So eventually i started spending more and more time in the practise room and much less with him, till eventually we hadn't seen each other for 2 months.

I didn't feel guilty about not seeing him (i didn't even miss him to be honest), i've always been ambitious and determined about achieveing things so my career has to come first. Plus i guess i'm still young and have plenty of time for relationships in the future.

I've also become very fussy about men, its a shame my ex never liked classical music (his loss!) because when i'd been to see a concert and wanted to talk about it in depth it was like talking to a brick wall. I've decided i definitely need someone with more similar interests.

[Bouter Boogie]

This is really a tough choice to make You can't live without love, can you? But I can't live without the piano either I really don't know which one to choose, but if you come to think of it.. Without love you're definitely nothing. Besides, there are a lot of people who can live without the piano, eh? This decision still sucks

- BB

[quantum]

For me, the piano IS love.  I'd eventually like to meet the special someone, but they would have to understand that I need my time with piano as well.  Both love for a person and an instrument can co-exist, they just need the correct circumstances to do so. 

Interesting thing.  Rosina Lhevinne once advised my teacher with regards to achieving a particular sound at the piano "make love to the piano; the keys are your lover's skin."

[stevie]

ok well my priorities have changed since i found someone i care deeply about...

which is more important right now?
id say its equal

but which would be more important when/if i know that its true love and im sure ive found my soulmate(im a romantic pregnant cat) - im very sure it would be love.

but i dont see how one has to interfere with the other.
me and her both play piano, and are both very ambitious...

the problem, if you could call it one, is that she is very busy with other things, and piano always comes first, and we barely have time to talk each day.

do i want her to change for me? no i dont, i want her to realise what i have realised, that piano and work isnt everything, and to have a happy life would have a balance of the two.

i mean look at hamelin, he is married, and he still manages to be insanely awesome....cziffra was married....horowitz was married(barely)..

i dont want her to feel guilty at all, but its just not nice feeling 2nd best....

[pianistimo]

maybe you need more attention?  maybe you need a pet?  i have a husband and a cat.  of course, the cat can't give me the attention i want from my husband, but she's there for moral support.  if i'm lonely, she's right there by my side.

[Siberian Husky]

da comme, dude, stop STARTING THREADS LEFT AND RIGHT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


love

[m4ul]

well, this is an interesting question because i have often thought about it , and now that im in a relationship i have a better idea..

So, would your relationship involve human interaction or do you mean the relationship with  your right hand? Or are you two timing, cheating with your left?

[Torp]

I cannot answer the poll. I don't like work very much and I appear to have missed out on the ambition gene altogether. I do not experience a personal conflict between love and music; they are components of a greater synthesis.

I agree with Ted.  Additionally, I do not see these things as mutually exclusive.