your technique concerning...

[pianohopper]

...kissing your spouse/partner/girlfriend/boyfriend.  I mean, maybe it's not a comfortable topic for some, but I want to compare notes, in a sense.  How do you go about it?  I dont' have much experience with this, and neither does my girlfriend, so I am asking how to make it "right" I guess.    

[thalbergmad]

I have not got much experience either, as my last girlfriend was a minga so i avoided kissing

There is no such thing as right or wrong, just keep away from the garlic or curries if you fancy a snog. Fresh breath is a must.

If you plan on doing some tonsil tennis and your partner has a brace, this can lead to injuries.

Experiment and enjoy

[pianistimo]

tonsil tennis!  did you just make that one up?  you're too funny.  for most girls, it's a total turn off to have a guy's tongue all the way in your mouth.  some men think they're all sexy for doing things that girls don't really like.  you know what girls like?  they like it when you hold their hand and tell them something hot in their ear.  (but, don't stick your tongue in).  they like it when you actually go somewhere (instead of stay home).  they like fresh flowers and diamonds.  they like someone who plays the piano or (for me) sings.  who dresses nice and smells nice.  and, who takes time to clean up their own messes - and isn't looking for a maid.  someone who makes you feel good in the morning, calls you at noon, and probably gets what he wants in the evening for giving you the time and attention during the day.  getting married first is good, because good kissing often leads elsewhere.  unless you're just practicing up for your wedding day.  my husband really made me laugh when we got married because he made our wedding kiss a smack heard round the world.  i don't know where he got the suction.

maybe it's just me, but i also don't like having my lower lip totally disappear.  it makes me feel like i've been at the dentists office afterwards.  i can't feel it.  it's totally numb.  it's almost like a pet peeve.  i've never even told him - but he doesn't do it that often.  usually guys get the idea of what you like by how you react.  with that one - it's hang onto the walls...here comes the vaccum cleaner.

best kiss - one that crescendos.  starts ppp somewhere other than your lips and ends up there at the end. 

[rimv2]

tonsil tennis!  did you just make that one up?  you're too funny.  for most girls, it's a total turn off to have a guy's tongue all the way in your mouth.  some men think they're all sexy for doing things that girls don't really like.  you know what girls like?  they like it when you hold their hand and tell them something hot in their ear.  (but, don't stick your tongue in).  they like it when you actually go somewhere (instead of stay home).  they like fresh flowers and diamonds.  they like someone who plays the piano or (for me) sings.  who dresses nice and smells nice.  and, who takes time to clean up their own messes - and isn't looking for a maid.  someone who makes you feel good in the morning, calls you at noon, and probably gets what he wants in the evening for giving you the time and attention during the day.  getting married first is good, because good kissing often leads elsewhere.  unless you're just practicing up for your wedding day.  my husband really made me laugh when we got married because he made our wedding kiss a smack heard round the world.  i don't know where he got the suction.

maybe it's just me, but i also don't like having my lower lip totally disappear.  it makes me feel like i've been at the dentists office afterwards.  i can't feel it.  it's totally numb.  it's almost like a pet peeve.  i've never even told him - but he doesn't do it that often.  usually guys get the idea of what you like by how you react.  with that one - it's hang onto the walls...here comes the vaccum cleaner.

 
 
*SO LOUD IT WOULD BE HEARD IN ANOTHER GALAXY WERE IT NOT FOR THE VACUUM OF SPACE*

 

*SO LOUD IT BREAKS ALL KNOW PHYSICAL LIMITATION AND IS HEARD BY EVERY LIVING BEING IN EXISTENCE*

 

[henrah]

I haven't had much experience either, but what I do know is that don't try to give your girl/boyfriend a quick snog goodbye when you're drunk and they're sitting down...teeth bashing doesn't feel so good...

I never really got the idea of the whole 'toungue in mouth' thing, it sounds too invasive and not very pleasant. Imagine if they had a bit too much saliva in their mouth and when you pulled away a big line came out From the limited kissing I have partaken in, I liked to do the 'open to closed' thing, where they kind of wrap together and close and pull away. I think I tried to get a little bit of tounge waggling, but it just felt odd holding a mid-kiss whilst your tongues moved about.

you know what girls like?  they like it when you hold their hand and tell them something hot in their ear.  (but, don't stick your tongue in).  they like it when you actually go somewhere (instead of stay home).  they like fresh flowers and diamonds.  they like someone who plays the piano or (for me) sings.  who dresses nice and smells nice.  and, who takes time to clean up their own messes - and isn't looking for a maid.  someone who makes you feel good in the morning, calls you at noon, and probably gets what he wants in the evening for giving you the time and attention during the day.

Thankyou so much for finally letting us guys know what girls like! But what's the limit on what you can say to them in their ear?
I, too, noticed that girls really, really like pianists, or musicians of any sort, although pianists are far more intoxicating. It's really nice that whilst playing you get a hug or an arm around you, makes it hard for me not to smile and lose concentration on playing.

maybe it's just me, but i also don't like having my lower lip totally disappear.  it makes me feel like i've been at the dentists office afterwards.  i can't feel it.  it's totally numb.  it's almost like a pet peeve.  i've never even told him - but he doesn't do it that often.  usually guys get the idea of what you like by how you react.  with that one - it's hang onto the walls...here comes the vaccum cleaner.

What exactly do you mean by this? Do you mean that they suck/bite your bottom lip as they pull away? That doesn't sound very nice...

best kiss - one that crescendos.  starts ppp somewhere other than your lips and ends up there at the end.

Note taken!!
Henrah

[zheer]

Personaly i rather have an orange juice, or a tuna sandwich, rather than have my tung down my lady friends mouth, however i might change my mind some day. I think its called french kiss, and i think you is have to be very attracted to the other person.
      As far as kissing goes, i like to kiss a lady on the neck, lips and other dry parts ov the body. So if you see a girl with a little blood coming down her neck, chances are that zheers about some-where.

[rc]

hahah, that was a lesson I learned right quick: firing the tongue is a good way to be sure that will be your last kiss with a girl. Live and learn I guess, I'm sure a lot of people had to go through some crappy kisses before figuring out how to make it work.

 

Pianistimo always seems to have some added clause about guys cleaning up after themselves... I'll think about it

Something I've figured out is that the preparation is at least as important as the actual kiss. Not to just kiss as an isolated thing, but to build up for it, create anticipation. Instead of kiss her, look in her eyes, caress her hands, slowly get closer, take a moment to brush her hair aside, feel her neck, and as the inevitable is before take another moment just to savor the moment... then you're ready to  .

When I see couples who've been together for a while, they often fall into the habit of the quick hello/goodbye type kisses. A thousand quick pecks that lose all meaning. Why scatter ten predictable, meaningless kisses throughout the day when you could share one real kiss?

[pianistimo]

yeah - you have the idea, rc!  the anticipation IS what turns a girl on.  unfortunately, in this harried world, we forget what we first did and don't seem to have as much time.  but, when my hubby and i get into the car we make up for lost time (without our kids around).  he likes to start at the inside of my wrists.  ps pull over before you do this past the elbow - it's kind of hard to reach the other side of the passenger seat while driving or drive with the passenger in your lap.  plus, my husband is left handed so he usually does this when i'm driving.  all in all - the best kisses are usually the ones that take you by surprise and lead somewhere else.  if you are a good kisser, it's likely you get everything that goes with it (including children).  of course, once you have the kids - then yoiu have to be more discreet.  my kids used to run in between us and push us away?  we'd say 'we're just kissing.'  how bad that can be - when you're married.  but, they didn't want to see it in public - or leaning up against the car door.   *wonders about the merits of a hotel room once in a while.  environments affect women more than men.  for instance, if your bedroom doubles as a sort of office/magazine/catchall place - it's not the greatest for inducing good anything.  i've tried to clear it out - and make it a real bedroom because after every 2-3 years it becomes a 'storage facility' for everyone's stuff.  scented candles are nice, too.