lust on the sidewalk

[lilypiano]

.Have you ever had instances of mutual attraction from afar?  I think a guy at my school likes me, but I don’t know how I could ever talk to him without seeming totally crazy.  He held a door open for me before school started this semester at the gym, and I’ve seen him for three days in a row now.  I think I can trust my intuition enough to tell that he might like me.  He was smiling and looked bashful yesterday when I saw him on the sidewalk yesterday.  We made eye contact  and I nervously swept my hair behind my left ear.  Hopefully he could tell I liked him back.  Today, I was cutting across a field to get to class, and he was walking on the sidewalk.  He was looking at me.  His head was turned and he was looking.  I couldn’t tell it was him at first because I couldn’t see well enough.  This probably sounds crazy to have a crush on someone I only see on the sidewalk.  It also makes me sad because I think it would be weird to just talk to him outside of a social situation. It’s just better to be friends first.

[lilypiano]

sorry if this is weird or inappropriate for pianostreet.

[Siberian Husky]

hey thats me..wtfunk is goin on here?

[thalbergmad]

.Have you ever had instances of mutual attraction from afar?  I think a guy at my school likes me, but I don’t know how I could ever talk to him without seeming totally crazy.  He held a door open for me before school started this semester at the gym, and I’ve seen him for three days in a row now.  I think I can trust my intuition enough to tell that he might like me.  He was smiling and looked bashful yesterday when I saw him on the sidewalk yesterday.  We made eye contact  and I nervously swept my hair behind my left ear.  Hopefully he could tell I liked him back.  Today, I was cutting across a field to get to class, and he was walking on the sidewalk.  He was looking at me.  His head was turned and he was looking.  I couldn’t tell it was him at first because I couldn’t see well enough.  This probably sounds crazy to have a crush on someone I only see on the sidewalk.  It also makes me sad because I think it would be weird to just talk to him outside of a social situation. It’s just better to be friends first.

He looks if he might be a little shy.

You might have to make the first moves.

Ask him out. Life is too short.

Thalx

[cherrysoda]

*edited at lilypiano's request*

Good Luck!

[lilypiano]

Well he might know now eh? ............

You're right. One of his friends might be a pianist and tell him.  Could you  take the picture off of your reply?    pretty please....

[rlefebvr]

I can't imagine I guy thinking you are weird to talk to them. Most guys are stupid and need to be hit over the head to see the light and even then you may have to scream at them to make them understand. That is how dense we are.

Next time you see him, If you are far away, wave to him and see if he waves back.

If walking by say Hi. If he replies, give him your surname.

For the love of God, do not give him your full name, you still don't know who this guy is. For all we know, he could be a real creep.

[m1469]

You're right. One of his friends might be a pianist and tell him.  Could you  take the picture off of your reply?    pretty please....

hehe... I'm a little curious how you even got that picture ?  Maybe you are stalking him 


m1469  (who used to *slightly*  stalk her love interests)

[lilypiano]

hehe... I'm a little curious how you even got that picture ?  Maybe you are stalking him 


m1469  (who used to *slightly*  stalk her love interests)

haha, I got it from facebook. facebook stalking is quite common.  I found out that he's a philosophy major. He likes alot of my favorite rock music. He didn't say anything about classical, though. I added him to my aim buddy list, but i wouldn't talk to him on there.  haha, maybe I am stalking him. 

[Tash]

that reminds me of the guy on the train last year who apparently went to school with dazzer (he was wearing his school jersey) and was doing some kind of maths subject at my uni (reading tutorial notes)- we were getting on the same train and bus to uni on various days for a few weeks, even getting on the same train home! it was random, but i haven't seen him this year. shame, he was good looking

[lilypiano]

don't you think that's kind of sad, Tash? I mean, why do the right situations have to exist to actually meet someone you see often?  It was really depressing me last night.  I think I've been expecting to meet someone on my way to class for the past three years.   

 I think my parents started liking each other in a similar way.  They met at a party of a mutual friend though.  They might not have met otherwise

[donjuan]

If you want to talk to him, don't start by saying "Hi, I'm lilypiano.  What's your name?!"  a girl did that to me last year, and it was so unexpected that I just stuttered and said "Um...er... ahhhh..... oh, d-d-d-dddonjuan" (or whatever my name is  ).  and then we said nothing after.  I would much have rather started the conversation with her asking me what time is or something, and then maybe have one thing  lead to another..

Start by talking about classes or something.. Look for a reason to talk to him.  It would be good if you shared a class, because then "Did you get last days notes" or during the lecture, "what does that overhead squiggle mean?"

maybe use the fact that he likes the same rock music as you as a springboard.  But it's hard jumping in like that..  See if you already know people who know him, and can get to know him through hanging around the people who hang around him.  If you all have the same friends, maybe you'll end up at a house party together one night (this is how my parents met)

[lilypiano]

see, Donjuan, that's exactly what makes it hard.  Talking to him out of the blue would be awkward, I don't know his friends, and don't have any classes with him.  It would be nice if striking up a conversation without being in a social environment like a house party was normal.  If I were to scout out all of his friends and plan to hang out with him, that would be stalking.  I go to a fairly large school. 

[lisztisforkids]

Do you know any of his freinds? Maybe you can try to reach him through his comrades..

[jas]

haha, I got it from facebook. facebook stalking is quite common.

Oh, god. I have a friend who is always trawling Facebook for men that she's interested in. Facebook is scary that way... I should get her to set up a society, you two can stalk to your hearts' content. I use it for mindless procrastination, though, which is no better!

If you want to talk to him, don't start by saying "Hi, I'm lilypiano.  What's your name?!"  a girl did that to me last year, and it was so unexpected that I just stuttered and said "Um...er... ahhhh..... oh, d-d-d-dddonjuan".

I'd have loved to have seen the comedy gold moment when you told her that was your name! (Go on, do it next time.)

Jas

[stevie]

the things we regret the most in our lives arent the times we failed, theyre the times we never tried at all...

[donjuan]

I added him to my aim buddy list, but i wouldn't talk to him on there.  haha, maybe I am stalking him. 

that's it! one night, say hi to him on aim.  When he asks who you are or whatever, just say that while browsing on facebook, you recognized him from seeing him in the hallways, so you added him.  I find that it is much easier to say hi without having to talk or look at them. 

If someone came on aim or msn and said that to me, i'd understand and wouldnt think it creepy or anything.  in fact, since you think he might already like you, he would be glad for the meeting.  I think if you do this, you'll have a regular conversation online, and the next time you see him in person, it won't be weird or awkward.

[ahinton]

Not sure about the sidewalk, but I always thought that "Lust" was a great Hungarian composer/pianist (though maybe that's because I first heard that from a South African)...

Best,

Alistair

[gilad]

Not sure about the sidewalk, but I always thought that "Lust" was a great Hungarian composer/pianist (though maybe that's because I first heard that from a South African)...

Best,

Alistair

are you making fun of the way we speak?
 

[ahinton]

are you making fun of the way we speak?
 

I assure you that I'm not seeking to make fun of anyone here - but please tell me who's "we"?

Best,

Alistair

[gilad]

I assure you that I'm not seeking to make fun of anyone here - but please tell me who's "we"?

Best,

Alistair

us south africans is who we are.
i know you werent taking the mickey:), just wondering does it really sound like we're saying lust not liszt? i'd actually imagine thats possible for someone with a strong afrikaans accent..

[ahinton]

us south africans is who we are.
i know you werent taking the mickey:), just wondering does it really sound like we're saying lust not liszt? i'd actually imagine thats possible for someone with a strong afrikaans accent..

OK - and no, indeed I wasn't - and yes, the accent needs to be reasonably strong to achieve this. In any case, this little side exchange does seem to have gotten away from the thread subject,  does it not? (which is maybe not such a bad thing...).

Best,

Alistair

[gilad]

yes it has, and no it isnt.

in any case:

i agree with stevie strongly, those are words to live by in my opinion,
 the aim idea by donjuan is pretty smart too i think.

[lilypiano]

  I do think I know some people he knows, donjuan.  My friend's cousin, Will, went to his highschool, and I hung out with him some during Mardi Gras.  but it would still be pretty "random" to try to talk to him through Will.  I think I'll just smile or something. 

Thanks for the advice.  I'm a little embarassed for writing all of that.  I was just feeling impulsive that night.

[lilypiano]

so.. he totally just sat right next to me in the library at a computer.  He was about to sit somewhere else too, and decided to sit at the computer by me.  I didn't say anything to him, and he didn't say anything to me.      I should have stayed there a little longer. 

[gorbee natcase]

Just walk up and snog him and give him your phone number on a piece of paper without saying a word. He will call you.

This isn't a crazy idea, I am being serious the confidence of being able to do that will make him like you even more, good luck

[lilypiano]

ha, "snog".  I love that word.

[emmdoubleew]

  I didn't say anything to him, and he didn't say anything to me. 

You should have talked

[limegreen]

Well don't despair in any event-I'm sure you could always have Thalbergmad,....or stevie  .......

[thalbergmad]

Well don't despair in any event-I'm sure you could always have Thalbergmad,....or stevie  .......

She could indeed, but judging by the photo she posted in another thread, the man who's attention she seeks is either blind or "bats for the other side", for indeed she is extremely pretty.

Thal

[lilypiano]

aw, thanks, Thal, that's sweet