I'd love to have a conversation with people that think that there way of living is what God wants - where it's completely the opposite - after they die and see what they think when God (if he exists) really tells them what he would have wanted from them.
I wonder how these people get such messed up ideas about how God wants them to live. I think I've come up with an explanation:
You know when some people say they just ask God, and he tells them what to do? Well I think that's just asking themselves, and the most obvious and righteous answer (to them) comes out on top, and so they do that. They are then using God as a means for their own answers, which they would have gotten without asking Him as they knew it all along subconsciously. Therefore, if someone who liked to murder suddenly turned to Christianity, and was told to 'listen to what God tells you', then s/he would kill people thinking that God is wanting them to do that, when they are really listening to themselves. This can apply to anyone with extreme views, and they can justify themselves with the thought that God wants them and is telling them to do those things that we think are so dispicable and horrid.
I think religion is a bit extreme, if you let it take control over your life. If you lose control of your own thoughts and actions, and let God take over, you are effectively letting yourself take control over yourself (which in logical terms is self control) but in a different manner as you don't realise that you have control over yourself. If you did have control (and not the control that you let someone else [effectively yourself] take over), then you would put more thought into your actions and consider other points of view and other means of getting things done, with other possibilities and outcomes. This I think is a healthy life, and not what that Shirley woman is living as she is letting her inner self (the part of her that was conditioned and taught by her parents and other figures which also held these extreme views) control her, like any sane person wouldn't.
I think my entire point is that she is just insane, aswell as the others in her family; and insane+religion is a bad mix, as 9/11 and 7/7 have shown. What I
think I'm getting at is that these people who do these things (9/11 and 7/7) have not taken the liberty to ask themselves why they are doing the things they are doing, and really think about it, not instantly revert to whatever their 'leader' (be it their parents or religious authorative figure i.e. priest, or whatever the names are for the higher muslim figures) preaches to them.
Basically, to sum it up, people should think for themselves, and not mindlessly listen to and obey what other people say. This, I think, is healthy living. Plus eating 5 fruit and veg a day obviously

Ramble over,
Henrah