m1469,
When we teach, we are addressing the ENTIRE student - not only their musical progression, but becoming their friend and trusted advisor. The way i view my students is as friend first, student second - and that has made all the difference to me. As you, i try to look beyond the surface and treat them with an equal respect for all things going on in life, as well as how they're progressing in their musical studies. It's no different than how they should be able to perceive their primary school teachers. We spend alot of time with these kids, and we want to enhance their lives with whatever inspiration we might be able to infuse. Teaching is really little different than being a clinical psychologist. Ok, i understand the REAL differences, but perhaps you know what i'm talking about. Each personality looks up to us as a source of wisdom, and we are more incredibly influential than you may believe. Not only for musical guidance, but because they view us as 'friend', it's easier to open up and talk about what might be blocking their musical journey.
Personally, i love these discussions. Sometimes...piano lessons are the only outlet students have to share what they refuse to do so with parents. Of course, there are lines here - and i'm talking about the times when students break down and say they're too stressed to get everything accomplished, etc. etc. At that point - an open communication with the parent HAS to take place. But still - this child has trusted you to know they can talk without judgment.
Ok...i guess what i'm saying is that teaching is MUCH more than just leading a student towards a musical goal - it is reaching out to them to say, hey..i'll be your guide and your friend along the path. It's inherently a field where we, as teachers, question our abilities and motivations. But based on what i have seen of your posts on this site - i can honestly say that i believe you are a tremendous teacher who cares deeply for her students. We all go through the times of wondering if a little cubicle wouldn't be better...but you know what? Just from your internet personna - i don't for a minute believe that you'd be happy doing ANYthing except teaching your kids.
We have to separate, too. Sometimes they become our raison d'etre..and that's not good. Take some time before you go looking at other jobs - Please. This profession truly needs good leaders as yourself. It's your calling, and i think you know that already.
Wishing you good thoughts,
mschopin.