Who do you think will be your future husband/ wife?

[little_pianist]

It's juz for fun..... Does he/ she have to be a pianist? Does he/ she have to be good-looking? smart? filthy-rich? smoker? dilligent? sexy? older/ younger than you? etc...   

[little_pianist]

He has to be a good pianist, so we can play and discuss many things about piano...
He musn't have to be good-looking but he has to be an understanding person...
He won't have to be rich (at least he as a big house with a swimming pool, haha...  )
Since I'm quite short, he has to be tall...
He must be smarter than me...
He mustn't smoke... (I hate smoke)
He mustn't have a good athletic muscular body...
He must loves me... haha....

And, guess who he is?
...only God knows...

[debussy symbolism]

Greetings.

Technically there is no such thing as a "wife". It is an assumption, a rather symbolic one for some people. Indeed, that is why they get married. I would not want a wife, simply because I do not feel secure and or derive pleasure from company, especially that of intimate character. A wife will require constant care, attention, economical support, housing, bearing children, etc. I think that all of that is superflous on my standarts. I do not want a person to inveigle me from my beliefs. I also would not want a wife for a totally different reason. I could't and wouldn't support her. I am very irresponsible in such matters and "money" has never been my thing. I despise money as a character even though we need it. I practically never spend money on personal wants. My parents spend money on my piano and music, but that is a need for me. All in all, I love to be alone and love to care for myself and do not need the presense of a wife with me. I love to be alone and love to environ myself in things I love doing.

Joke: The only reason women marry men is so that they would have the luxury of a free and easy life.

[little_pianist]

yeah... many people prefer to be alone...  A friend of mine said that she would never marry a guy because she's a shopping freak... She said that life is used to shop, not to marry a guy..... everybody has different oppinions.. thx for your reply...

[quasimodo]

He has to be a good pianist, so we can play and discuss many things about piano...

Bad idea because you'll fight over the time of use of the piano...

He musn't have to be good-looking but he has to be an understanding person...

Pianists are seldom good looking and NEVER understanding persons. ("What?? You don't like Scarlatti?? You must be RETARDED ")

He must be smarter than me...

Men are dumb.

He mustn't have a good athletic muscular body...

What for?

He must loves me... haha....

Do you have an athletic and sexy body  ?

[little_pianist]

No.... Men are not that dumb!  Some are extremely clever... No, I don't have sexy body... I'm normal.. That's why I don't want my husband to be sexy... otherwise he'll tease me all the time... oh, yeah.. I realize that there will be so much quarrels if we both are pianists... haha..

[ce nedra]

I want to marry a dark haired cellist. Just think of the piano and cello solos in the Liszt concerti, Brahms 2 etc etc I think its a perfect match, pianist and cellist, I dunno, it just, works.

[ada]

A wife will require constant care, attention, economical support, housing, bearing children, etc. ...  I also would not want a wife for a totally different reason. I could't and wouldn't support her.

Jesus what century are you living in? 

Nice to know we have such enlightened ambassadors for the male of the species.

A wife needs "constant care"?  "Economical support"? "Housing"? 

Give me a *** break.

I hope you are very young. Only that would excuse such utter, utter idiocy.

For your information, a "wife", or let's say life partner, is an equal participant in a relationship these days. Guess what? Girls don't rely on dopey guys for a life, existance or financial support.

Girls can earn their own money these days. Some girls even have a career! Some girls can even pay their own rent! Some "wives" even make more money than their "husbands"! Some have more interesting and successful careers!

Your attitudes will ensure you'll get your wish and remain single for a very, very long time.

[thalbergmad]

Girls can earn their own money these days. Some girls even have a career! Some girls can even pay their own rent! Some "wives" even make more money than their "husbands"! Some have more interesting and successful careers!

Some, but not many.

The rest know their place and are busy at home getting on with the ironing.

Thal

[zheer]

It's juz for fun..... Does he/ she have to be a pianist? Does he/ she have to be good-looking? smart? filthy-rich? smoker? dilligent? sexy? older/ younger than you? etc...   

  Well since am attracted to the opposite sex, i like women that are a totall opposite to me. Hence a  women that is much younger, tall'ish, intelligent with great sense of humer. Light brown or blond'ish hair ( not yellow ), very light brown , green or blue eye, nice smile and sexy body. Well educated and easy to talk with, either a singer, dancer or a violin player, female violin players are hot.
   

[thalbergmad]

 female violin players are hot.
   

You could be in luck here.

I read in the paper that  Anna Sophie Mutter and Andre Previn are getting divorced.

Thal

[zheer]

You could be in luck here.

I read in the paper that  Anna Sophie Mutter and Andre Previn are getting divorced.

Thal

      Were they married, pffffff news to me.

[thalbergmad]

      Were they married, pffffff news to me.

Amazingly yes, they were married.

The age gap ended up causing problems.

Thal

[dnephi]

I'm religious, and therefore marriage means more to me than it would to everyone.  However, I want to marry a string player with decent accompanying skills because I sing.  We will have 12 kids.  And they will all grow up to be virtuosi.  And stuff.

[Mozartian]

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[anekdote]

Jesus what century are you living in? 

Nice to know we have such enlightened ambassadors for the male of the species.

A wife needs "constant care"?  "Economical support"? "Housing"? 

Give me a *** break.

I hope you are very young. Only that would excuse such utter, utter idiocy.

For your information, a "wife", or let's say life partner, is an equal participant in a relationship these days. Guess what? Girls don't rely on dopey guys for a life, existance or financial support.

Girls can earn their own money these days. Some girls even have a career! Some girls can even pay their own rent! Some "wives" even make more money than their "husbands"! Some have more interesting and successful careers!

Your attitudes will ensure you'll get your wish and remain single for a very, very long time.

Cut it out already. I'm not sure if you realize this or not, but some people actually do want children and a traditional family structure. Do you really think this attitude and sentiment is "oppressive"? If so, you need to have your head checked.

What were your parents like? Did your mother stay at home to pay attention to you and ensure you grew up healthy? Or did they work, the both of them?


"Guess what? Girls don't rely on dopey guys for a life, existance or financial support."

Are you serious?

[bella musica]

Greetings.

Joke: The only reason women marry men is so that they would have the luxury of a free and easy life.

Lucky for you you said that was a joke...  'Cause it's totally not true.  These days the majority of women have outside jobs (at least in America they do) PLUS all the stuff that is expected of them whether or not they work outside the home.

[debussy symbolism]

Jesus what century are you living in? 

Nice to know we have such enlightened ambassadors for the male of the species.

A wife needs "constant care"?  "Economical support"? "Housing"? 

Give me a *** break.

I hope you are very young. Only that would excuse such utter, utter idiocy.

For your information, a "wife", or let's say life partner, is an equal participant in a relationship these days. Guess what? Girls don't rely on dopey guys for a life, existance or financial support.

Girls can earn their own money these days. Some girls even have a career! Some girls can even pay their own rent! Some "wives" even make more money than their "husbands"! Some have more interesting and successful careers!

Your attitudes will ensure you'll get your wish and remain single for a very, very long time.

I assume that you are a woman and it's natural for you to have these thoughts about my responce. To answer your statement about how a woman can have a succesfull career and not be dependant on a husband, my responce would be this: women can have a career, they choose not to. Your statement, "some girls can even have a career" already tells me that you as a gender feel inferiour in society, otherwise you wouldn't have said "even".

"Idiocy"? There is nothing idiotic about it. We are all entitled to an opinion and in no way do you have the jurisdiction to classify my opinion as "idiocy" given your opinion and/or knowledge about the particular matter.

Let's say that you are right. That women do have the power to maintain themselves without the aid of a male. I am not saying that that is not true by the way. The general reason to get a wife would be out of marital needs, hence, reproductive needs. You can't arue this agaisnt or for me because this is just pure opinion. Some people want to marry, some don't. I don't want to marry, and even though I am quite young I have the right to a conjecture.

You must have also midunderstood my statement. I claim that most women who are capable of work marry because they don't want to work and have the excuse of "motherhood". I am not saying that that is wrong, I am saying that that isn't fitted for me. I would like to remain alone in terms of marital status because it is my choice to do so.

[debussy symbolism]

I appologize for my poorly written paragraphs, as I didn't revise them.

[ada]

Cut it out already. I'm not sure if you realize this or not, but some people actually do want children and a traditional family structure. Do you really think this attitude and sentiment is "oppressive"? If so, you need to have your head checked.

I'm not talking about people who want a traditional family structure. I'm talking about outdated notions that husbands need to "maintain" their little wives.

Did your mother stay at home to pay attention to you and ensure you grew up healthy? Or did they work, the both of them?

I didn't know that working and ensuring your kids "grow up healthy" were mutually exclusive options

"Guess what? Girls don't rely on dopey guys for a life, existance or financial support."

Are you serious?

Yup. Radical idea, isn't it?

"Idiocy"? There is nothing idiotic about it. We are all entitled to an opinion and in no way do you have the jurisdiction to classify my opinion as "idiocy" given your opinion and/or knowledge about the particular matter.

Debussy, I apologise for discribing your comments as idiocy. You have a right to express your views without being personally attacked. No matter how misguided those views may be 

[cfortunato]

My future wife will, hopefully, be the one I have now, who plays no instrument at ALL (despite attempts to teach her things like the autoharp and ukelele), but, curiously, is a better composer than I am.  Sings melodies to me - GOOD ones - and I figure out the rest from there.

[anekdote]

I'm not talking about people who want a traditional family structure. I'm talking about outdated notions that husbands need to "maintain" their little wives.

I didn't know that working and ensuring your kids "grow up healthy" were mutually exclusive options

Yes, healthy kids depend on some sort of constant parental presence. Ideally, the husband would work while the mother would stay home to nurse the baby, etc., and to give it care. But what about when the children get older, you say? I would say that a parental presence is still necessary. I don't feel like going through the specifics for every age group, but I will say that for children to be at their healthiest psychologically, they need a parent whom they can emulate and who is present. They also require regular discipline. You can't just send your kids to a daycare for a significant portion of the day and expect your kids to grow up as you wish.

There is even lots of scientific evidence which suggests that children's hormones can be changed due to an absence or negligence of one or more parents. For example, girls from fatherless households often have higher testosterone levels, which in turn leads to them being perceived as less attractive due to a smaller waist-hip ratio. In boys, the absence of a parent may make them more aggressive, possibly leading to crime or poor performance in school.

The pragmatic and time-tested approach to parenting is to have a mother who stays at home with the kids, and a father who provides financially. Of course both parents will still dedicate time to the children, but each will play a different, yet complementary role. This is just the natural way of things. This model cannot be sexist unless you consider mother nature a sexist. And if so, she must be some kind of masochistic self-hating woman... Or you might call me a misguided sexist for defending a natural paradigm, and if that is the case, so be it.

So yes. What I am saying is that to raise a child ideally, one of the parents must not work (at least until the child reaches puberty). You could argue that the father could stay home while the mother worked (which I would disagree with), but I do not wish to get into an argument like that so I'm leaving it at this.

Yup. Radical idea, isn't it?

Your statement seemed to say that girls in general did not rely on guys for money, which is plainly false. Almost all women I know would not marry a man less wealthy and/or educated then themself. The feminist ideal of financial independance as something which must be strived for just isn't true for the majority of women.

Debussy, I apologise for discribing your comments as idiocy. You have a right to express your views without being personally attacked. No matter how misguided those views may be 

What are your views, ada? What sort of family set-up do you envision for child-raising? What are your thoughts on child-raising? What are your thoughts on marriage and family? I bet I would find your views misguided. Well-intentioned, no doubt, but misled nevertheless.

[galonia]

Yes, healthy kids depend on some sort of constant parental presence. Ideally, the husband would work while the mother would stay home to nurse the baby, etc., and to give it care.

Why is it ideal that the mother stays home?  I agree that it's best if parents provide care to their children themselves, and are involved in the raising of the children, but why is it best for the mother?  Isn't that for each couple to work out for themselves?

For example, my boss - his wife earns over three times what he does, so if they had children, it wouldn't make sense financially for them if she stopped working.  It's just that they choose not to have children.

Another colleague, his wife also earns more money, and is in a more demanding job, so when their teenagers need to be cared for at home (e.g. when they're sick) the husband takes time off work to do the caring.  He's also the one who looks after all the domestic issues.  It works for them.

I also know some other couples where both partners work part of the week, thus sharing the domestic load.

I have friends who, despite being very capable of having brilliant careers, women who are doctors or hold MBA's, choose, in conjunction with their partners, to stay at home to look after the children - not because they wouldn't like to have careers, but because they and their partners feel this arrangement is best for the children.

I say, whatever works for each family.

[Bob]

*ahem*


Jerry and Kramer dialogue...

"I had a very interesting lunch with George Costanza today."
"Really?"
"We were talking about our lives, and we both kind of realized we're kids. We're not men."
"So then you asked yourselves, 'Isn't there something more to life?'"
"Yes, we did." "Yeah, well let me clue you in on something... There isn't."
"There isn't?"
"Absolutely not. I mean, what are you thinking about, Jerry, marriage? Family? They're prisons! Man-made prisons. You're doing time. You get up in the morning, she's there. You go to sleep at night, she's there. It's like you gotta ask permission to use the bathroom. 'Is it alright if I use the bathroom now?!' And you can forget about watching TV while you're eating."
"I can?"
"Oh yeah. You know why? Because it's dinnertime, and you know what you do at dinner?"
"What?"
"You talk about your day. 'How was your day today? Did you have a good day today or a bad day today? Well, what kind of day was it? Well, I don't know, how about you, how was your day?'"
"Boy."
"It's sad, Jerry. It's a sad state of affairs."
"I'm glad we had this talk."
"Oh, you have no idea."
- Jerry and Kramer, in "The Engagement"

[berceuse]

*ahem*


Jerry and Kramer dialogue...

Hey Bob, is your last name Saccamano?
That is a great sig by the way.

Ok back on topic.....

[debussy symbolism]

Sienfeld is funny.

[ada]

For example, girls from fatherless households often have higher testosterone levels, which in turn leads to them being perceived as less attractive due to a smaller waist-hip ratio.

hahahahahaha I am sorry this has got to be the funniest thing I have ever heard.

Please cite me the reference of the of the journal where this fascinating piece of research was published. Shouldn't be too hard to find on PubMed, I'm sure you have the details.

Yours in suspense

ada

[ada]

I'm sorry about my earlier post. I truly don't mean to be nasty.

What are your views, ada? What sort of family set-up do you envision for child-raising? What are your thoughts on child-raising? What are your thoughts on marriage and family? I bet I would find your views misguided. Well-intentioned, no doubt, but misled nevertheless.

The ideal family set-up for a child is a stable and predictable one in which the child feels secure and loved. That's the basics.

This could be a traditional nuclear family, a family with two mums, one with two dads, a share parenting situation or a househould of close friends.

The child should learn independence and resourcefulness, something that won't be acheived by helicopter parenting (ie, a parent who constantly hovers around the child).

The child should mix with peers, friends its own age and a number of trusted adults apart from its parents.

The parents meanwhile, should set positive role models.

A mother should be an example to her daughter that she can get an education and establish a  fulfilling and socially productive career.

A child is better with a mother who works and is happy than someone who's stuck in a house  at the beck and call of kids and is bitter, resentful and bored.

[annoying_airhead]

Someone who shows a musical interest, likes reading and is taller than me.  Oh... that and loves me for the klutz I am.  =)

[brewtality]

https://money.ninemsn.com.au/article.aspx?id=124394

If this is true, my future wife won't be allowed out of the kitchen.

[ada]

hahaha we were just talking about that article.

It's true that educated, thinking women will eventually get jack of being stuck with a dumb arse husband cos a career beats marriage hands down 

[citrine_peridot]

hahaha we were just talking about that article.

It's true that educated, thinking women will eventually get jack of being stuck with a dumb arse husband cos a career beats marriage hands down 

that sounds like my mom...

[Kassaa]

He'll be awfully nerdy. He'd have to be, to put up with me.

Oeh pick me, pickme!!!!1

I'm looking for someone who doesn't take everything and herself too serious, can have a laugh at herself, and she must be cute too  . Loving classical music is a plus, although not necessary, she must atleast appreciate it. She must be pretty intelligent, length is not much of an issue, although dwarfs or giants are not my cup of tea. Good looking is completely subjective, but she must be atleast good looking to me.