There's this guy...

[mycrabface]

in my school who's VERY ANNOYING. He's a year older than me but he's so childish!! He always gives me all this drama queen stuff like making a big fuss about his life. To me. And I'm like.. Ohhh... Okay... Ohhhhh... Right..... Okay.... Yah. that's all I usually say.. And he keeps sending me phone messages.. Too much!! A few a day is ok but he can send up to ten times! And I don't even reply him! And he keeps sending! Arrgh! ARRGH!
How do I get rid of him politely? Because I don't want to hurt him.. No seriously.. I don't want to upset him.. Any suggestions?

[pianistimo]

maybe you're the only one that listens.  give him specific times to contact you (if you want e-mail or phone call).  just keep on doing what you are - acknowledging his problems.  don't offer advice.  maybe he just needs a listening ear.  of course, if it was me - i'd want to give advice - but it's probably only going to make him want you to help him fix things. 

the only other course of action is to say 'i'm sorry - i'm really busy right now with my own problems.'  but, it seems kinda harsh.  but, well - he should know by now that life is a bit hard at times.  i wonder if people who are stressed out like this would shut up if you took them to a musical and made them think about something else?

[mycrabface]

maybe you're the only one that listens.  give him specific times to contact you (if you want e-mail or phone call).  just keep on doing what you are - acknowledging his problems.  don't offer advice.  maybe he just needs a listening ear.  of course, if it was me - i'd want to give advice - but it's probably only going to make him want you to help him fix things. 

the only other course of action is to say 'i'm sorry - i'm really busy right now with my own problems.'  but, it seems kinda harsh.  but, well - he should know by now that life is a bit hard at times.  i wonder if people who are stressed out like this would shut up if you took them to a musical and made them think about something else?

lol... I usually tell him I'm busy, its only lately that I've half-given up on replying him.. He kinda memorizes my weekly timetable so its just creepy and makes it feel like he's a stalker, but he's not! He's just some lost person.. and he shows off too.. About musicals, he does attend almost every concert that he hears of..

[counterpoint]

He always gives me all this drama queen stuff like making a big fuss about his life.

Oh, perhaps he is interested in you and he wants to grip your attention   

Did you clearly state, that you are not interested in him / in his stories?

[thalbergmad]

maybe you're the only one that listens.  give him specific times to contact you (if you want e-mail or phone call).  just keep on doing what you are - acknowledging his problems.  don't offer advice.  maybe he just needs a listening ear.  of course, if it was me - i'd want to give advice - but it's probably only going to make him want you to help him fix things. 

the only other course of action is to say 'i'm sorry - i'm really busy right now with my own problems.'  but, it seems kinda harsh.  but, well - he should know by now that life is a bit hard at times.  i wonder if people who are stressed out like this would shut up if you took them to a musical and made them think about something else?

Forget all this, just tell him to sod off.

Much easier.

Thal

[Kassaa]

Forget all this, just tell him to sod off.

Much easier.

Thal

That's probably the reason that both you and I are single .

[pianistimo]

waiting has it's advantages.  you wouldn't tell someone you really cared about to 'sod off,' right?!  i think finding just the right match takes some thought.  usually in a person's 20's it's looks and sex.  then maybe in the thirties you think a little bit about if they have kept their finances in order.  by the fourties, anyone who is positive and upbeat and won't nag you to death over trivial stuff.  fifties - i really don't know - maybe someone who's still doing stuff and not playing backgammon every night.  seems to me that whomever you are with should at least give equal time to your problems as their problems.

[thalbergmad]

waiting has it's advantages.  you wouldn't tell someone you really cared about to 'sod off,' right?! 

true my little tambourine basher, but mycrabface does not care about this person so i still think my method is best.

Thal

[mycrabface]

Oh, perhaps he is interested in you and he wants to grip your attention   

Did you clearly state, that you are not interested in him / in his stories?

You know, if he's interested in me, why can't he just ask me out? I know its hard, but he can pretend he's not aware that its a date, just like how unaware he is that I'm trying to get away from him.

That's probably the reason that both you and I are single .

LMAO

true my little tambourine basher, but mycrabface does not care about this person so i still think my method is best.

Thal

Yes, I don't really care about him and I don't wish to hear about his life stories, but I don't want to do or say anything to deeply offend him. If I do it Thal's way, he'll probably do something really stupid like commit suicide or something..

[thalbergmad]

If I do it Thal's way, he'll probably do something really stupid like commit suicide or something..

Years ago when i worked for a Bank, we had a customer who was always in debt and would come into the branch every day and waste hours complaining about the way the Bank had treated him.

One day, after another lengthy visit, he threatened to go and jump off a bridge. A member of staff clearly fed up with his daily visits said "why don't you then".

Regretrully, within about 2 hours he did just that.

Thal

[counterpoint]

I don't want to do or say anything to deeply offend him. If I do it Thal's way, he'll probably do something really stupid like commit suicide or something..

Do you think, it is that serious?

Perhaps you could involve another person (a girl or a (gay?) guy) who talks with him about the situation and eventual problems of him. It seems, that he urgently needs someone to talk with. Not a psychiatrist, but a person, who cares about what he's telling.

[pianolist]

waiting has it's advantages. you wouldn't tell someone you really cared about to 'sod off,' right?!

I frequently tell Denis to sod off, but he doesn't seem to take much notice. Maybe I shouldn't grin while I say it.

[mycrabface]

Do you think, it is that serious?

Perhaps you could involve another person (a girl or a (gay?) guy) who talks with him about the situation and eventual problems of him. It seems, that he urgently needs someone to talk with. Not a psychiatrist, but a person, who cares about what he's telling.

Oh I must tell you about where I come from... We people in general are kinda free and easy-going, so introducing someone to this poor guy may strongly ruin the free and easy-going life he/she has.. Its basically a solve-your-own-problem kinda thing Oh, but nevermind, I think I can put up with him (for the time being, at least), and if another time I find myself getting impatient again, I shall come here and complain about him again.

[counterpoint]

Oh I must tell you about where I come from... We people in general are kinda free and easy-going, so introducing someone to this poor guy may strongly ruin the free and easy-going life he/she has.. Its basically a solve-your-own-problem kinda thing Oh, but nevermind, I think I can put up with him (for the time being, at least), and if another time I find myself getting impatient again, I shall come here and complain about him again.

That sounds to me like everyone takes on his smiling face and hides his problems away - thinking, he/she is the only one, who has problems 

From time to time, someone jumps from the bridge...

How sad...

[ramseytheii]

Oh I must tell you about where I come from... We people in general are kinda free and easy-going, so introducing someone to this poor guy may strongly ruin the free and easy-going life he/she has.. Its basically a solve-your-own-problem kinda thing Oh, but nevermind, I think I can put up with him (for the time being, at least), and if another time I find myself getting impatient again, I shall come here and complain about him again.

I always find the msot effective ways to get rid of a person are to either propose the most absurd and ridiculous solutions to their "problems," or to invite them to accompany you to church.  I don't know why asking someone to go with you to church shuts them up, but it usually does.
For the firs tpart, if they are complaining about poor grades or something, suggest that they cheat to improve their score, or that they break into the office and steal a copy of the test before it is administered.  If they are complainign about soemone who dumped them, suggest they create a voodoo doll of that person and on alternate days, either stick needles into it, or comb its hair real pretty.

Walter Ramsey

[pianistimo]

funny, but you're right.  hmm.

[mycrabface]

I always find the msot effective ways to get rid of a person are to either propose the most absurd and ridiculous solutions to their "problems," or to invite them to accompany you to church. 

He goes to church.

[ramseytheii]

He goes to church.

In that case invite him to Temple.

Walter Ramsey

[pianistimo]

the thing is - if you have a lot of problems - prayer works!  whether it's at temple or church.  Christ taught in the temple, healed in the temple, prayed in the temple.  it's just a matter of going where there is permanent help instead of temporary.

[mycrabface]

the thing is - if you have a lot of problems - prayer works!  whether it's at temple or church.  Christ taught in the temple, healed in the temple, prayed in the temple.  it's just a matter of going where there is permanent help instead of temporary.

Erm, yeah it depends on your religion. Me being a christian, I don't think the Lord wants me to call him a retarded sod. I'm quite sure the Lord wants me to help this poor guy.. Oh no! I signed into msn and he started a conversation with me. See what I mean? 

[pianistimo]

on the days that you don't feel like talking - don't.  obviously he's old enough to have worked out a few 'solutions' - of which you are obviously one.  i think he is in love with you - and finds the connection being 'solving his problems.'  tell him that you wish he'd tell you he loved you so you could tell him you just want to be friends.  then, you can have a really great friendship for a long time - on your terms.  well, mabye on both your terms.  what i mean is that if he occasionally tells you his problems - but then also listens to yours - it's more equal sharing of problems.

[mycrabface]

on the days that you don't feel like talking - don't.  obviously he's old enough to have worked out a few 'solutions' - of which you are obviously one.  i think he is in love with you - and finds the connection being 'solving his problems.'  tell him that you wish he'd tell you he loved you so you could tell him you just want to be friends.  then, you can have a really great friendship for a long time - on your terms.  well, mabye on both your terms.  what i mean is that if he occasionally tells you his problems - but then also listens to yours - it's more equal sharing of problems.

There's always this leap of faith in beliving that he likes me, because he can always be this retarded sod, so what if i tell him I'd wish he'd just tell me he loves me, and what if he actually IS a retarded sod? That'd be sooo embarrassing! Haha..

[bachfan87]

Well if you think he's annoying why do you want to go out with him? This kind of reminds me of this guy last year that had a big crush on me but would never ask me out...and he was so annoying too! he would IM me all the time, going on and on about his life, which i thought was kind of selfish. Anyways, I finally asked him if he liked me and he said yes, we were going to go out, but I called it off cause I realized what a jerk he was.
This guy MAY just be annoying to try and impress you. That was the case in my situation.
Okay, I guess the point is, if you don't want him around, you should just block him on MSN and ignore him. Before that you could tell him how annoying he is, but if you aren't up to that I would just ignore him. It's really the best way.

[mycrabface]

Guess what.. He topped the level..