Unhappy

[mycrabface]

My parents don't want to give me a break from studying. I can feel my body wearing down already. Even my friends are given day-offs from studying. Recently, they went to play pool and go swimming. A day before that, they went shopping. For me, earlier my mother and I were supposed to go out for breakfast together. But she said I had to wake up early to study first. What is this? Boot camp? Why can't she just let me sleep in for ONE day? Anyway she woke up late and we went for brunch. Then when I tell my parents I'm tired, they always say why are you always so tired? Why do you keep complaining so much? You don't have any stamina to study, that's why. Because you rarely study, you can't build up your body's stamina to study long hours. EXCUSE ME?? They don't know I've been living off coffee for the past few weeks. They don't know I don't get enough sleep becasue they don't let me. What should I do? What can I do? I don't think this is a healthy lifestyle. I know life gets tough, but I feel very very weak most of the time. I think I might be dying. Okay if I die I don't even think my parents will know why. Then the coroner will say She died of fatigue. Like how lame is that? What a pathetic way to die. At least let me get shot or hanged or raped to death or anything else! Kill me now. KILL ME NOW. I WANT TO DIE.

[mycrabface]

And my toe hurts.

[Triton]

And my toe hurts.

CRAP!! 
Sad thing about your toe...

Anyway why can't you take a break? Have they locked you in a room or something?
Can't you escape?? Good luck!!

Triton.

[counterpoint]

My parents don't want to give me a break from studying. I can feel my body wearing down already. Even my friends are given day-offs from studying. Recently, they went to play pool and go swimming. A day before that, they went shopping. For me, earlier my mother and I were supposed to go out for breakfast together. But she said I had to wake up early to study first. What is this? Boot camp?

What cruel parents you have! Don't they see how stressed you are?
You should go to a doctor and ask him for help (against your parents - of course!  )
Oh, the toe! This is a good reason to go to the doctor!

[mycrabface]

What cruel parents you have! Don't they see how stressed you are?
You should go to a doctor and ask him for help (against your parents - of course!  )
Oh, the toe! This is a good reason to go to the doctor!

Lol.. Yeah and my mum won't allow me to photocopy a document I've been looking for for a year! Come on! There's a shop beside the library, which I always go to to study. She says she doesn't want any distractions in my studies. Studies are the most important thing in my life right now (I totally agree with this). But at least give me a break! My dad gives me essence of chicken. I actually used to hate it, but at least I don't now, otherwise I'll hav a pretty hard time coping with it.

[mycrabface]

Anyway why can't you take a break? Have they locked you in a room or something?
Can't you escape??

I can't come out. They'll catch me. But if I go to the library to study, I can roam around whenever I want to. But I don't. I study. No idea why, but I concentrate.

[term]

Well the only thing i can tell you is that it's your life, and you have the right to do the things you want and how you want. Try to not directly clash with your parents (most do it because they love their kids and want them to be successful in life), but if you don't feel comfortable in any way - leave  Or clear things up even if it gets ugly... i mean doesn't look like you can continue with all that.

@study: My father always used to say, if you study hard, you must also be able to party hard. In other words, one always has to keep the balance.
And he was the second best student in romania (and before someone comes up with prejudices: At that time that meant more than being the best in, let's say germany today...). - so try to make your parents believe it. 

good luck

[imbetter]

haha mycrabface are you chinese?

[amelialw]

I think you are chinese.
Majority of the parents who do this tend to be asian.

Haha...talking about that, I studied the almost during the whole summer for my counterpoint and analysis exams, it sucked. Everyone else was always having fun...it's a good thing i'm going on a holiday to disneyland next week otherwise i'll go nuts.

[thalberg]

My parents used to criticize me for getting such good grades.  They told me that my life did not have enough balance and that I needed to socialize more.  Looking back, I think they were right.

[imbetter]

you didnt turn out too bad 

[thalbergmad]

@study: My father always used to say, if you study hard, you must also be able to party hard. In other words, one always has to keep the balance.

Completely agree, there is little point of hard work if there is no reward.

I have always thought that the only reason to work is to obtain leisure.

Thal

[nicco]

This isnt a therapist forum. Go complain somewhere else.

[pianowolfi]

My parents don't want to give me a break from studying. I can feel my body wearing down already. Even my friends are given day-offs from studying. Recently, they went to play pool and go swimming. A day before that, they went shopping. For me, earlier my mother and I were supposed to go out for breakfast together. But she said I had to wake up early to study first. What is this? Boot camp? Why can't she just let me sleep in for ONE day? Anyway she woke up late and we went for brunch. Then when I tell my parents I'm tired, they always say why are you always so tired? Why do you keep complaining so much? You don't have any stamina to study, that's why. Because you rarely study, you can't build up your body's stamina to study long hours. EXCUSE ME?? They don't know I've been living off coffee for the past few weeks. They don't know I don't get enough sleep becasue they don't let me. What should I do? What can I do? I don't think this is a healthy lifestyle. I know life gets tough, but I feel very very weak most of the time. I think I might be dying. Okay if I die I don't even think my parents will know why. Then the coroner will say She died of fatigue. Like how lame is that? What a pathetic way to die. At least let me get shot or hanged or raped to death or anything else! Kill me now. KILL ME NOW. I WANT TO DIE.

Well I can't assess how much you are telling the "absolute" truth and how much you are exaggerating. But if you are not exaggerating this makes me feel very sorry for you. I mean, to a certain extent I have myself the problem of complete exhaustion and periods where I feel like dying from tiredness and it feels *very* serious. I had always this problem in my life and I have found no ultimate solution yet. A good friend offered me a sort of medical treatment recently. I might try that. But I agree with many of the posters above, you should have periods of relaxing, having fun, making parties, just being lazy, sleeping, whatever you like. A human being can not "function" 24/7 and we are not "supposed" to do so.

[franzliszt2]

um I have the exact opposite at home...my parents scream every morning when my alarm clock goes off and wakes them up. And they constantly tell me to go out and socialise.Then things get out of hand, and they pester me, and then suddenly I'll take a few days off because I feel like it, and all of a sudden they go crazy and say I'm lazy, and not working, and threaten to take me to doctors, and all sorts of stuff. (This is half understandable becasue I usually go massivly depressed and do absolutly nothing...except drink and read random books) Then we have a HUGE argument, and next day life returns to normal.

Maybe try shouting at them? lol I find that works with mine, and I feel better after a good old shout. And it gets the message across. And remember it's your life!! They can't force you to do anything! Just be strong and rebel! As long as you are a sensible rebel! Don't go off the rails and smoke and do drugs etc.. lol

[Triton]

This isnt a therapist forum. Go complain somewhere else.

This isn't a critisize other members forum. Go critisize somewhere else.


My parents aren't pushing me with anything, except to maybe go study at a university. That's ok with me i think..

Again, good luck Mycrabface!

Triton.

[mycrabface]

Majority of the parents who do this tend to be asian.

No they don't... I'm from singapore.. Actually I want to die now but I don't know how to.. All the suicide methods seem scary. They don't, because.. Okay I'll tell you about the people in school.

First, you have the lazy kids (like you americans - no I'm kidding) who don't study and end up in the lower streams. But keep in mind, most of them come from troubled families (low income/divorced family/bad parent-child relationships) or they put their focus in the wrong direction (boyfriend-girlfriend relationships/creating an image for themselves/sex before 16 rule/hanging out everywhere and everyday doing nothing but hanging out), or they simply cannot cope with singapore's education system (I REALLY HOPE A GOVERNMENT PERSON SEES THIS).

Then we have the normal people in normal streams (which are called Express/Special streams) who differ to a great variety. Some are happy-go-lucky - they don't really care about how well they do, just go about life socializing (ie living life) and having a healthy student lifestyle. They play play play, and when an exam nears, they start studying real hard. Some study individually, some cluster in groups at macdonalds or at the library. Or even at someone's house.
(Special streams are for those who are more advanced in Chinese).

Lastly we have the really smart people who belong to the gifted education program (GEP). They get to skip the national examination because they're too smart to take it. I don't really know much about them except that they can produced good grades, or else they get kicked out of that school. However, that school (the best one in singapore) always sends its students to many many MANY enrichment programs to develop the students attitudes so they're not just study freaks.

Now, the reason why singapore's edu system is so vigorous is that our government has a small population and cannot afford to let students slacken. The system is so deep that now the government is trying to PUSH us (force us) to be more creative so we can be more all-rounded. I know its hard to govern a country, no matter how small, but its just that every decision the government makes will have its pros and cons and this (suicidal thoughts) is just one of the disadvantages to having such a rigorous edu sys. But its not like they'll ever do anything about it.

Thank you all for hearing me out, because I don't think my parents will ever understand. 

[maul]

I once sold zeolite to a person in Singapore. Those were good times. Perhaps you can start a distribution center over there. We conquer world and take its gems. It make happy time. Ok?

[mycrabface]

Maybe try shouting at them? lol I find that works with mine, and I feel better after a good old shout. And it gets the message across. And remember it's your life!! They can't force you to do anything! Just be strong and rebel! As long as you are a sensible rebel! Don't go off the rails and smoke and do drugs etc.. lol

Rebel? I don't think so... Its not my life. I'm under 21. And I do get a lot of freedom ( I think). Its just that I'm a dog that always comes home on time. Otherwise I'll get slaughtered. Shouting at your parents is rude. What kind of respect are you showing?? You think its cool? How would you like it YOUR own child shouted at you? All the parents in the world should teach their children moral values. You can't just let rude kids run around. What if they never come back? Then you'd wish you'd have chained them in the backyard instead.

[mycrabface]

I once sold zeolite to a person in Singapore. Those were good times. Perhaps you can start a distribution center over there. We conquer world and take its gems. It make happy time. Ok?

What's zeolite? How much profit did you make? It sounds like some stone. Wanna buy a rock? I have a rock. You must give me ten bucks for it. US dollars.

[maul]

A very expensive stone, indeed. With life-changing qualities. A patented process removes all impurities from the zeolite, allowing it to remove all impurities, heavy metals, and toxins from the body. How convenient. I make a good amount each month, doing a good one hour of work. It is one of my profitable endeavours. Touche.

[amelialw]

asian includes singaporean ppl...and singaporean parents, well most of them are like that. Don't tell me that I don't know anything, cauz i'm a singaporean too.

C'mon, express stream does not include normal students, most of the students that go to express stream work hard or are smart. Normal students are usually in Normal Academic stream, but they just are'nt so smart and even if they study....

I can understand why you are unhappy, now that's the reason I moved to singapore, because of school stress and other things and always being places in tuition classes. tt's why I moved to canada and now i'm much happier here

[mycrabface]

C'mon, express stream does not include normal students, most of the students that go to express stream work hard or are smart. Normal students are usually in Normal Academic stream, but they just are'nt so smart and even if they study....

I can understand why you are unhappy, now that's the reason I moved to singapore, because of school stress and other things and always being places in tuition classes. tt's why I moved to canada and now i'm much happier here

My friend's in canada and he always complains his butt gets frozen every winter.
You misunderstood normal. When I said normal, I meant normal average students, not students in the Normal Academic stream.
Most of the students in the express stream Don't just work hard or are smart. I know many people from many different express classes who actually have a good lifestyle.

[franzliszt2]

Rebel? I don't think so... Its not my life. I'm under 21. And I do get a lot of freedom ( I think). Its just that I'm a dog that always comes home on time. Otherwise I'll get slaughtered. Shouting at your parents is rude. What kind of respect are you showing?? You think its cool? How would you like it YOUR own child shouted at you? All the parents in the world should teach their children moral values. You can't just let rude kids run around. What if they never come back? Then you'd wish you'd have chained them in the backyard instead.

Of course it's your life! Parents have no say in it whatsoever! They are there to guide and support kids. What would they do to slaughter you? Respect comes in different forms... I have a deep respect for my parents becasue they raised me, and support me (in most things), and have always tried their best for me. If I disagree with something they say, we argue! And if they shout at me I'll shout back! Why would I think it's cool? I simply stand up for myself and my beliefs. If my child shouted at me I'd shout back! And wouldn't think lessof it for shouting at me. It shows it will stand up for itself! If I had a kid that ran away I'd see myself as a failure. I would wish I;d chained it to a fence! What sort of attitude is that?

Why does rebelion scare you? It's not being rude to question your parents judgment, or to shout at them. Everyone rebels at some point. I am a totally different person to my parents, when I was 14 I realised that, and "rebelled". They soon reaslised they had no control over me, and then accpeted that I was just growing up and I was raised in a nice family and nice house, so I never done anything wrong. I ended up focusing on music.

How much freedon do you get? Could you stay out till 4 in the morning and stagger in the front door drunk freedom?

[Siberian Husky]

My parents don't want to give me a break from studying. I can feel my body wearing down already. Even my friends are given day-offs from studying. Recently, they went to play pool and go swimming. A day before that, they went shopping. For me, earlier my mother and I were supposed to go out for breakfast together. But she said I had to wake up early to study first. What is this? Boot camp? Why can't she just let me sleep in for ONE day? Anyway she woke up late and we went for brunch. Then when I tell my parents I'm tired, they always say why are you always so tired? Why do you keep complaining so much? You don't have any stamina to study, that's why. Because you rarely study, you can't build up your body's stamina to study long hours. EXCUSE ME?? They don't know I've been living off coffee for the past few weeks. They don't know I don't get enough sleep becasue they don't let me. What should I do? What can I do? I don't think this is a healthy lifestyle. I know life gets tough, but I feel very very weak most of the time. I think I might be dying. Okay if I die I don't even think my parents will know why. Then the coroner will say She died of fatigue. Like how lame is that? What a pathetic way to die. At least let me get shot or hanged or raped to death or anything else! Kill me now. KILL ME NOW. I WANT TO DIE.

dont be so spoiled.