Ok, I'm going to put myself on a limb here (because I'm revealing my secret card that I don't want out yet) so I am going to quickly type without thinking. Here:
1. Do NOT make the mistake of focusing on one note (i.e. A). I need to repeat this... DO NOT make the mistake of focusing on a single note such as A. Maybe I should repeat this a third time! DO NOT MAKE THE MISTAKE of focusing on one note such as A. This would be like trying to see colors by focusing on the color blue--it's just not going to happen. Imagine being able to see the color blue (as you can hear the pitch of an A) but, at the same time, not being able to see or being blind to the color of blue (i.e. being able to hear the sound of A but, at the same time, not knowing what the heck A is). How in the world can focusing on this color of blue (A), no matter how long you stare at it, help you SEE in true color (i.e. ABCDEFG etc.) if you can not yet see in color? It just doesn't make sense and it's NOT going to happen. So throw the violinist "tune to A 440" thought deep into the trash can. Do not bother trying it.
In fact, if you're going to focus on any single note DO NOT choose A. F# would be the note to focus on.
2. Completely ignore anything you've read about you having to be placed in music as a child. Because not too many children have made it past baby food without hearing music anyway. Besides, I believe I read that perfect pitch is more linguistic than musical--take the readings word for it.
3. Get a box of crayons with 64 colors and associate all 12 notes on the keyboard with a unique color name of a crayon. Don't skimp on this process (spend 10 hours over an entire week if necessary). Make sure that these colors are unique and descriptive and that they actually remind you of the note (this is what will take you so many hours to do). Do NOT skimp on this process. Make absolutely sure that the color of the crayon at least vaguely reminds you of the note. As you go up the piano, the colors get whiter (lighter) and as you go down the piano the colors get darker (more towards black). Make absolute certain that the colors are unique from each other. For example, I use the color maroon for D and the color navy blue for C. As I said, as you go up the piano the colors get lighter or more transparent and as you go down the piano the colors get darker or more opaque. If need be make the colors associations tentative and add descriptive textures to them over time.
If you want to know the colors that I use
C navy blue
D maroon
E brown
F orange
G green
A purple ...feminine purple
B peach or nearly lava-like red or orange in color (as if the key is glowing hot underneath)
C# blue-green
D# gold
F# yellow
G# gray ...with a tad bit of purple
A# orangish brown ..like a dirty rug
4. Spend at least 25 solid hours downloading, etc. searching through all of your favorite simple songs with powerful melodies. The more songs from your childhood, the better. Compile all of these songs into mp3 and/or midi format and make absolutely sure that they are all in one spot and easily accessible (as you will have to constantly go to them for reference). Take the starting pitch of each of these songs (or the note that really gets you) and associate it with the note/pitch on your keyboard. Make sure you have a huge list of songs and a lot of associations. You should have so many songs associated to each note that you have to print the list on a sheet of paper. Stare at your piano/keyboard. Each time you play a note mentally anchor it to the songs that you associated with the pitch. Play them in your head. Play each song associated with the pitch in your head and on the piano. Do this ramdomly to.
You know when you listen to music and the melody gets to a part that gives you an orgasmic feeling? Excellent, make sure you associate these notes to--they are best. Find out what these notes are for each song. The color of the note plays a big part in giving you this feeling--this is what they are referring to when they say you can feel each note.
5. Listen for the pitch of everything that you hear (from the sound of you typing, to the sound of water, car engines, etc.). Listen as if you can hear the pitch (which you can't yet). This should make it clear to you how not to use relative pitch. (It's pretty difficult to use relative pitch listening to..say a pot of boiling water). Focus on every sound that you hear and learn not to use relative pitch.
If your relative pitch isn't fully developed (particularly related to how you visually see the relation on your keyboard) yet then this is a very very good thing. Don't develop it.
6. Begin singing the associated pitch (complete with it lyrics, timbre, etc.) and then play the note on your piano. Anytime when you are not thinking of music sing one of these associated pitches and then run to your piano and play the note. If you don't get close, see what note you did sing (or sang closest to). Whatever note you sang (even if not the note you were trying to sing) remember to anchor the actual association with it. Sing the real association. Always correct yourself if you make a mistake. And constantly refer back to your mp3/midi stockpile of songs for reference (I would surmise that tuning does not really matter as the tuning of the pitch in the opening melody of Flinestones is the same recording it has always been for all these decades).
Do this on as many pianos, synths, sounds, timbres, etc. as you can. And don't forget your color associations either!
Oh, and another thing... If I ask you what is your singing range? And you have to think before you answer as if you DO NOT know then you are going to have to develop this first. You must know exactly what your singing range is before you even bother to attempt singing these notes otherwise you're going to cause yourself unnecessary trouble when you attemp aural recall (singing a note without a reference point) etc.
7. Use a perfect pitch program to begin testing yourself. Again, always correct yourself if you make a mistake. I think the freeware program PitchPlayer is by far the best one. In the meantime, test yourself at the piano. Think of the associated pitch and press the key. You'll know if your thought was close : ) Also test with your eyes close and have other people test you (randomly and spontaneously).
Also, when you practice, start off with just two or three notes. And add the rest to the practice sessions as soon as possible. DO NOT lay out a cheap blueprint plan to practice with two notes for the 1st week then more next week adding when you feel you're ready etc.---it won't work. ADD all of the notes to your practice as soon as possible. In less than several days.
8. Start in the middle of the keyboard as it is easiest to hear the "colors" in the middle of the keyboard. As soon as you get half way decent in recognizing the keys in the middle of the keyboard, don't try to figure why you keep guessing one half step off or so. Immediately begin practicing with all of the remaining octaves in your perfect pitch eartraining. This should round you out.
9. Practice this perfect pitch eartraining at least 3-7 hours a day. If you're not having pitch related nightmares (literally speaking), then you are not practicing enough. And I am very serious, if you are not waking up with what is similar to a perfect pitch nightmare then you are not practicing enough. Practice more until you are on the verge of getting sick.
10. Buy the David Burge Perfect Pitch Eartraining Course and listen to him speak--it helps a lot just to hear him run his mouth. But DO NOT follow his method precisely because it sort of shoots into the sky--use my method!! Ignore everything he says about using your relative pitch in the perfect pitch course because it will probably throw you off (it did me). It doesn't matter if you are using relative pitch or even if you are staring straight at your piano as you hit the key. You're listening for an association to the songs that you made a list of not a relation to the other keys that you have hit.
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Well, I hope this helps!
Will this method get you perfect pitch? I can't say for sure. I'm already exhibiting very clear signs of a budding perfect pitch (in less than 2 weeks of practicing this so you do the math!) Yes, if you played a note on your piano, I probably would be able to tell you what note it is (if not, I certainly will come close).
(lol) Best Wishes,
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