dear db and ny,
first and foremost, let me present my deep respect for the teachers and parents who believe in early training. it's a way of facing childhood and life.
the point is simple: i don't believe in that, both as a teacher and as a forthcoming father.
that said, we have basically two points to share our opinion: the understanding of children, and the performance of music by them.
the first point may be resumed in a very simple statement: people learn different things at different rates in different moments of their lifes. in my experience, children 5-year old don't have a clue about counting and, even more, about the representation of counting through abstract notation. of course, i'm based on my own experience and in the literature i read. it's perfectly possible that your background is completely different, and you are used to children that age that do counting and the like. so, it's pointless to proceed: you will say yes, and you are right; i will say no, and i'm right either.
the second issue is more delicate, and perhaps i must apologize for the way i wrote earlier. again, if your students have an independent voice, i can't know that. the ones i knew both the child and the teacher, as i said, actually were replicas.
here i must explain what i was talking about: i don't believe in listening to one CD, as i don't believe in the teacher as THE role model. if you have only one recording - or example, for that matter -, it's probably best not listening to it. but that's need another statement: people learn by contrast and repetition. that's the path to abstract reasoning and to stronger neurostructures (choose the theoretical approach you like, they all agree about that). so, if there is no contrast, there is no actual learning. well, another discussion could start about the term learning, but now i reach my point: i think our understandings of what learning is are completely different. period.
i wrote all that for the sake of our discussion, but i must resume it and ask you one simple question: are your pupils happy? they are able to - anyhow - manage rhythm? i think i'll read two yes, and i believe in you. that's the fundamental point. the rest is probably theoretical overcomplication.
going back to our topic, and to what interest our original question, there are many approaches. for a newcoming teacher, it's probably to try a lot, if not every single possibility, and discover on his/her own what do work and what do not.
well...what a post! hope you are still awake! best regards,
jay.