I learned 3 against 5 the way lots of folks tell you NOT to learn a polyrhythm. I broke a beat into 15 parts and calculated on which of those 15ths the LH or RH would be tapping, and did it very slowly. Then I sped up gradually, and after a while I started to feel the different rhythms in the different hands as two separate things, rather than as part of a complex mathematical pattern. It took me a few days of tapping to get it properly into my brain. Then, I hadn't used it for several years, and tried again when I read your post, and it came right back, so I think once it gets engraved in your brain it stays there.