bbush,
There are differences btw a grand action and an upright, console and spinet.
A spinet has whats called a drop action, where the action drops down in the cabinet and back up to the strike point saving space, allowing shorter strings and overall frame. Small, pretty and cheap. More levers theoretically, more play, however, I still have an old Baldwin Acrosonic that shames many larger pianos and the action is quick as a jack rabbit.
Consoles and uprights generally have what's called a direct blow. Less parts, less play and lost motion, longer strings, more sound depending on height.
Keep in mind, overall quality of build has much to do with it. Not all grands will out play a well made vertical, but depending on a players ability, and overall build, a grand should be the piano of choice.
As far as learning; any decent piano will not be found frustrating. A highly advanced player may eventually out play a vertical though and appreciate a well maintained grand. Such as my daughter. My 2 verticals get the job done but we both notice the difference with Bachs trills and the speed of some of her Chopin pieces. I'm looking around for a decent grand myself.
Previous wear and tear have quite a bit to do with action too as well as how well a piano has been maintained and regulated.
Grand pianos, considered the best action, has a repetition lever that resets the hammer quicker for its next strike.
All have springs. Uprights are not returned with a "bandy thing" but a hammer spring. The strap you see on the upright action is called a bridal strap: keeps the action parts from falling all over the place especially when removed from the piano.
You can find pretty detailed diagrams of piano actions easily online with a search if you
are interested.
I could go on further but I'm not one for overly detailed responses. Typing bores me.

Hope you find this at least a little helpful.
Curtis