There seems to be this disconnection between what is taught in music, and the music itself. Should there be a split between learning to read and learning to hear music? I don't think that Suzuki is truly "hearing" either. Listening to a melody and imitating it is not the same as exploring sound and playing with it. This is also not how a baby learns either. If they did, then children would not go through the stages in language that they do.
What you describe in regards to exploring sound and playing with it is what I would call "playing by ear". It's more of a creative process, and as you learn more about music theory, the creativity and exploring yield an ability to improvise and reproduce musical ideas. Suzuki generally does not teach those things, but "hearing" is something that it
does teach. Despite the many weaknesses in the method, training students to listen to the music they play is one of its strengths. Think about it: if you have no score (not even an understanding of how music is notated), you have to listen in order to play. Your brain learns to focus on the sound, the melodies, the harmonies, the progressions, the phrases, how the two hands are coordinating and relating to one another. Rather than "exploring", you are being shown how to play real pieces of classical music. A Suzuki student who is paying attention will begin to notice the patterns and will develop a basic understanding of how music is organized (at least aurally). Either way, I like to think of them as two separate skills, which are both beneficial in piano playing.
If they are taught early that the piano WILL render music with very little effort, they will seem more likely to want to learn to do bigger things and take on greater challenges.
I agree! I strongly believe that children need to be taught to play more challenging music sooner. If they can't read it, that's OK - teach it to them. They will learn to play it and will love it.
why is teaching a student to read the most important thing? Why do people equate good readers and good players? They are not always the same. Why is so little empahsis put on enjoying the act of playing the instrument while teaching the doctrines of theory, note recognition, hand position, etc..is the most important thing?
Similar to your approach, I separate the skill of playing the instrument from the ability to read the music and teach both concurrently, at different levels. There is a danger, though, in letting the gap between their playing ability and reading ability become too large. You are right that good readers are not always good players, and vice versa. It is so true. I'm not sure whether I could choose which is better - playing well or reading well. They are both valuable and any aspiring pianist should strive to be good at both.
As far as teaching goes, all students should learn to read. Depending on the age, I think it's OK to not start reading right away, but it should not be delayed for too long. Again, age is the factor here and makes all the difference. Especially in the beginning stages, I think too many teachers focus all of the lesson time on reading and don't always develop the playing ability of their students as much as they could.