beauty

[paris]

do you like to look good? is this important for you? for me is that very important...

[donjuan]

well, unless you are an actor with a very specific role, I cant think of a single situation where being ugly is an advantage.  Good looking people get further with careers, more money, and every single advantage I can think of!

I have lots to work on..
donjuan

[Spatula]

Well...

Would you prefer to marry (or have as a "mating partner"):

A. https://www.ebaumsworld.com/family.html

OR

B. YOUR SERCRET CRUSH

Take your pick.

(note to NilsJ: ummm as sick as I might be, these aren't p0rn site links...they maybe a little..umm risque)

I just want to make a point....SO DONT DELETE THIS NOR BAN ME!

okay fine since DonJ was urging me to not get whipped..I've made the change.

[donjuan]

Actually Spatula, I think most people would want to be with people who look and act similar.  it's bloody intimidating when one partner is significantly better looking!

haha that ebaumsworld thing is funny!!  But watch it with the other link-nilsjohan and ahmedito are going to erupt..
donjuan

[mikeyg]

hEIDI KLUM IS GOOD LOOKING

[Torp]

Let's just hope there's some beauty under the skin on these people, 'cause it certainly didn't rise to the level of being even close to skin deep.

[mikeyg]

I WANT HER TO HAVE MY CHILDREN, OR MAYBE ELISHA CUTHBERT.

AND HAHA TORP, I BUMPED IT BEFORE YOU

[Torp]

AND HAHA TORP, I BUMPED IT BEFORE YOU

Yup, you won that one.

[mikeyg]

I KNOW AREN'T I GREAT I THINK I AM IT'S AWESOME LOLOL

[thalbergmad]

do you like to look good? is this important for you? for me is that very important...

Well, you don't have to try hard, for me its a struggle.

[Torp]

I KNOW AREN'T I GREAT I THINK I AM IT'S AWESOME LOLOL

U duh mayun.

[mikeyg]

WORD

[Torp]

Peace, out.

[mikeyg]

10-4 KIWOSABE

MIKEY OUT!

[m1469]

do you like to look good? is this important for you? for me is that very important...

Hi Paris,

I realize you started this thread last September, but I actually feel that this can be a very important question and I feel like responding a bit more than what we have already got going here (heh..  ). 

What do you think it takes to be beautiful ?  Are you still interested in this ?


m1469

[paris]

Hi Paris,

I realize you started this thread last September, but I actually feel that this can be a very important question and I feel like responding a bit more than what we have already got going here (heh..  ). 

What do you think it takes to be beautiful ?  Are you still interested in this ?
m1469

hey...hm...i'm actually ashamed of starting this...now it sounds very shallow to me.
when i started this, i was thinking just about physical beauty, not inside beauty. now i realize that beauty is very realtive...hm...dunno how to explain coz my english is you-know-how 

i'm relizing that real beauty doesn't come with just  being pretty and hot looking...
please don't consider me just as a person who looks at people's looking and judge them how they look.

but also...i'm human...estheticist...i like being pretty and i like when people are good looking. 
it's just maybe not SO important 

[ted]

For the sake of simplicity, I assume we are talking about visual appearance and its effect on ourselves and others. We are not, I take it, discussing beauty of character, behaviour or situation. These latter are fully legitimate meanings of the word which we shall temporarily ignore in this thread.

Visual beauty is indeed in the eye of the beholder. I think that is one saying which is probably true. I am sure we have all, at one time or another, voiced the opinion that a certain person was attractive only to be chastised with humour and astonishment. Some, indeed many, subordinate their conception of beauty to the cinema, the mass media and fashion. They reason along the lines of - Mr Laymedown is a film star and millions of women say he is handsome. Therefore he must be handsome. Therefore I must also think he is handsome else I shall be thought a dolt. I actually fantasise a lot about the plump bald man who works in the post office but I must never tell anyone because there must be something wrong with me. Let us leave aside these poor individuals, and there are many of them, who are too weak to lay claim to their conception of beauty.

For myself, I recognise my idea of beauty immediately, and it rarely, almost never, coincides with popular images. Therefore the idea of making myself  "look good", beyond a sensible, healthy, clean, tidy and pleasant appearance, is a complete waste of time. Those who find me attractive will do so anyway.

[m1469]

Well, I actually do not quite know how to seperate out visual appearence from the "other" aspects of beauty mentioned.  I feel it is very similar to trying to seperate out technique and musicality; they are most intimately intertwined.  This is not to say that I am attracted to everybody I see or am around, because I am not.  Just like I am not attracted to every piece of music I experience.  I just don't think beauty is ever about only a single layer.

For example, I think the ocean is profoundly beautiful.  I suppose there are aspects of it that are conceived of as strictly aesthetic, but the reasons I am compelled to spend time there are not really about the aesthetics.  It is a representation to me of something infinitely beautiful.  I just happen to feel similarly about people.


m1469