it has to be a combination of anticipative imagining in your head what you want to play and listening. listening always provides feed-back, i agree, and it is most important, but you have to also play the work in your head along with the hands. do not think "now this is a cresc", but play the fragment in your head as you want your hands to play it everything (notes, legato/staccato, dynamics, rall, accel, etc.). it always helps the hand, and also keeps you focused on the work and helps getting rid of any fears/shaking/anything else non-piano related.