My main questions:
1: Can I safely remove the strings by using a piano tool to loosen the strings?
2: What else should I be worried about in terms of safety (e.g. not getting hurt)?
3: My piano weighs 160-200 kilograms, if I remove everything, the part which will weigh the most will be the iron cast, how heavy will this be? 100kg?
The plan is to dismantle the piano and piece by piece go down the stairs with the parts so no one gets hurt.
I totally agree with the folks who say to advertise and give it away. Unless you are well and truly out in the boonies, there will be someone who has very little money but desperately wants a piano and has four strong friends who can and will help move it. I've been there, and done just that and was very very grateful to have the piano.
However, if you are simply bound and determined to destroy it, in answer to your specific questions.
1. Don't think of unwinding the strings. It takes forever. Get a good -- really good -- wire cutter which can handle steel piano wire and cut them, one by one. The pillow idea is excellent as a shield. Do it; they do fly when they are cut. You can start at the top and go down as suggested, but I would be very much inclined to take the strings off by fifths, to avoid putting uneven strain on the harp.
2. Not much else to worry about in the dismantling part of the job -- until you get to the point of trying to take the frame out of the wood. It's heavy; stabilise it in some way or it will fall on you and do evil things to your body.
3. It will weigh at least 100 kilos -- maybe more. There's almost no weight to speak of in the rest of the instrument. It is also clumsy and, being cast, it can and will break if you drop it. If that happens, pieces will fly and hurt someone -- so don't drop it. You must carry it down the stairs.
Which last being said, I go back to where I started: find two or three sturdy lads -- there must be a few around somewhere -- and get them to help you get it down the stairs INTACT. Then give it away.